Archives: February 2008

The pitfalls of being a good Christian crossdresser

There are Christians who ostracize the transgendered for being different. They say crossdressing is a sin. By submitting themselves to the will of the church, and fervently seeking God, a few of us have found freedom. Yet for most of us, no matter how hard we pray, how much we definitely want to be cured, how guilty we feel – we wake up each morning as who we are. A transgendered person. Not free, but shackled by the guilt heaped upon us by ‘loving’ and ‘well meaning’ Christian brothers and sisters.

There are other Christians who believe differently. Who believe that God loves the transgendered, and that who we are is not in. Many of these Christians have previously had the weight of the church’s disfavored poured upon them.

I believe, humbly, that whichever group of Christians we choose to believe, that there are dangers that lurk for us. If we submit to the first group, and label our transgendered-ness as sin, we label ourselves as sin. We do not accept who we are.. Then rather than let our light shine, we hide it under a bowl, trying to constrain our spirit. We live only the half-live of those who are afraid to love to much, or sing too loudly.

If we throw our lot behind those who accept and love us, we may be fooled into believing that our purpose is to be transsexual or transgender. In doing this we create a god our of our difference, and spend our days worshipping the desire to fully become woman.

Again Allyson has provided some insight for us.

I believe our challenge is to fully embrace who we are, while at the same time living for God. The transition is not an end unto itself, but a means to more fully fulfill God’s purpose in our lives.

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Wherever you are, you are still you

Angry Transgender Shopper

Angry Transgender Shopper

This last week I was reading about Brigitte Fell, a transsexual in Australia who is suing the police because they reveled her past to her boyfriend. This was followed shortly by an article about her violent outburst in a store.

Each time the headlines broadcasting in 20 point font that she is a transsexual, as if that explains her actions, as well grouping all transsexuals into violent woman who are insecure and constantly worry that others may ‘know’ they’re a man. In the case of the violent outburst in a store, Brigitte heard the owner and a customer laughing, and assumed they were laughing at her.

Girls, we have enough negative press from shows like Jerry Springer. The only exposure some of the world has to us is as violent, unstable, angry weirdos, who are at best sexually perverse dregs of society who make for entertaining television. As we know, this describes only a very small percentage of us (I’m going to guess about the same percentage as the general population). We need to work hard to overcome the stereotypes people have. And it doesn’t help when we reinforce them, like Brigitte recently did.

A few days ago I wrote about an Indian transsexual who is starting a talk show. She will be a positive role model for those in India.

Indians welcome transgendered star – confront 'hush hush' subject

India’s newest talk show has it’s own Oprah Winfrey-esque star, and she’s transgendered! Rose, formerly known as Ramesh Venkatesan will host the show that will be viewed by up to 64 million people. While her mother refuses to see her in a sari – the traditional dress of Indian women – Rose will share her story, and views on sex, relationships and gender with Indians living in the southern state of Tamil Nadu.

Much like a few years ago in the US, transgender people in India are seen as immoral and evil, and find it difficult to obtain conventional jobs. This is true, even though the Hijra (a male or intersexed person who refer to themselves as female and usually dress as a woman) have been a part of Indian culture for many centuries. Rose recounts stories of her family sunning her, and losing her job when she first started dressing as a woman.

I see this as an important step for the transgender community in India. The first step to acceptance is for more people to be exposed to transgendered who represent a positive role model. This gives people a language they can use to talk about gender identity beyond using words like ‘weird’, ‘gay’, and ‘perverse’. They can come to see us as people, and though we are different, we are also the same.

I’m hopeful that Rose will become an accepted and widely watched program in India, and reinvigorate the tolerance and gender diversity that was so widespread before the British occupation.

Iowa offers fair opportunity in the face of Largo, Florida’s discrimination

Susan Stanton - Transgender Woman

Susan Stanton - Transgender Woman

Susan Stanton (formerly Steve Stanton) is a finalist to become city manager of Iowa city. She used to work as the city manager of Largo, Florida before she was fired for having a sex change. It was heart wrenching to read her story of transition, of how friends, coworkers and her employer abandoned her, but heartening to hear of those who rallied around her.  While the media attention on Susan dwarfs her experience being a woman (as some have noted), I think it’s wonderful that she is finding doors open for her. Even though she may not be the “perfect” representative for the transgender community, her success, as high profile as it is, will help many people realize that there is more to us than the clothes we wear and the pills we take.

I applaud Iowa for looking at Susan’s “skills, knowledge, ability, education and work history”, and are basing their decision “souly on her resume and qualifications”. I’m especially impressed that some in Iowa have noted Susan’s sex change as a positive, that gives her the ability to empathize with people from many walks of life. I know that in my own experience being transgender, I have become more tolerant and understanding of others who are different from me. I’ve also learned that there are more compassionate, loving people in the world than obnoxious assholes. It’s an unfortunate fact that obnoxious assholes are usually loud, and drown out the kind caring words of others unless we listen.

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