Archives: December 2008

Lynn's Crossdressing Success Story – Courage and Communication

Crossdressing Success Stories are real stories from real crossdressers who have overcome some obstacle in life to achieve their own measure of transgender success. Whether it’s the first time going out dressed, a major life realization or the first purchase of a feminine delight. The crossdressing journey has many joys and these stories are shared to provide hope, encouragement and upliftment to all in the transgender community. If you would like to provide strength to a sister, please go here to share your own crossdressing success story, and I’ll post your story on Crossdresser Heaven within a few weeks.

Our first story comes all the way from the UK, from a friend I met over the Internet through her thought provoking transgender website – Yet Another T-Girl Blog. Thanks Lynn for being the first to share your story – which I’ve titled ‘Courage and Communication’.

Meet Lynn Jones

My name – or at least my TG name – is Lynn Jones. I live in the UK, the midlands to be precise, and I’m in my mid 30s. I’m married to a lovely woman and we’ve two young kids. I’m out to my wife but I keep this side of my life away from the children. I feel no shame in what I do, I just don’t think they need to know. But that’s a story for another day. :-)

Lynn’s Crossdressing Success Story

Like a lot of TG people I dreamed of going out. Making yourself all pretty at home is one thing, but it can get tired after a while. I wanted to meet other people like me and, if I’m honest, to feel included. Email and blogs are one thing, but I don’t think they’re a good substitute for a trip out.

After a few weeks of mental hand-ringing, I asked my wife if it would be okay. While I was already ‘out’ to my dear wife, she (understandably) had some concerns: Would I be safe? How would I get there? What’ll happen? Where would I get changed? We talked about all of these questions and more. I think that talking is the key. It isn’t easy, us blokes, well, we’re not exactly the most communative gender are we. :-) Still, I tried hard and it was worthwhile for two reasons: Mrs Jones’ peace of mind and also to question why I wanted to do it. Other than the rush of going out, because we can feel that, would meeting up with other transgender people help me? I hoped that it would.

A week or so later I packed a bag and set off for the venue. I’d agreed to meet up with a friend I’d met on the Internet (hi Maddie!) at the venue. The place was a quiet out of the way community hall somewhere in Nottingham. We were met by a friendly (genetic) lady who helped run the group and shown where I could get changed.

After some time I was ready. All my male clothes were packed away in my bag and I took one last look in the mirror. My lipstick was okay and at least my hair (wig) was on straight. Was I too smartly dressed? I had no idea what to expect! I clearly remember my hand resting on the door handle for a few seconds. I took a deep breath and opened the door. I shouldn’t have worried, but you can’t help it can you? What if people laugh? What if I look a mess or if I met someone I knew?

None of these bad things happened. Instead, I was made to feel very welcome and I had a great evening talking to some very nice likeminded people. Most people were trannys, but there were one or two wives present too. It certainly didn’t feel like some kinky joint, more like a parent’s social evening! My nerves made me babble a bit, but no one minded.

If I’m honest it helped me feel that it’s okay to be a tranny. Sure, what we do is unusual, but there’s a big difference between “unusual” and “abnormal”. That first visit was many months ago, years in fact, and I’ve made some good friends. The fact that I can go and see the group means I no longer ‘panic dress’: rushing to the cupboard when I’ve got a day off and the house to myself. Indeed, I don’t dress at home much and there have been times when I’ve been happy to go along simply for the good company rather than for the chance to get all dressed up.

Well, unless there’s a party on. You can’t ignore the chance to wear your party dress can you? :-)

When Hate Has Been Said And Done, Let Love Remain

Categories: Transgender Rights
Comments: 5 Comments
Published on: December 7, 2008

Julie Nemecek wrote a moving article a few weeks back on her website, that I believe is a transcript of the speech she gave at the MSU rally protesting proposition 8. Within it are words of wisdom for those fighting injustice, as many in the transgender community are passionately doing.

She starts strong, saying:

We are here today to celebrate the beginning of the end of the political power of the extreme right. They have lost their self-proclaimed moral authority and we have now claimed the moral high ground.

Indeed, I have felt for a long time that those on the far right claim to be followers of Jesus, but look more like those Jesus spoke out against. The higher moral authority comes from those who do as Jesus commanded – to Love others as you love yourself. To love your enemies as your friends.

Julie continues with the wisdom of how to fight prejudice, and is Martin Luther King-esque in the admonition to maintain the moral high ground. To speak with dreams of a better future, not out of hate and hurt but channeling our righteous anger into peaceful change this world needs.

We are angry today. It is a righteous and just anger but we must avoid words and deeds of violence or hate and harness that anger into positive expressions of the dreams we have. We are angry at some religious leaders, but we must not forget that many religious leaders, and true religious expression, are on our side.

Yet in this time we shouldn’t remain quiet – there are those who want to take away the gains we’ve made – to de-legitimize our claim to the fundamental rights every person should have.

Keith Olbermann’s comments on proposition 8 nearly brought me to tears, and are well worth watching:

Transgender Rights / Transgender Discrimination

I believe that despite all the challenges we face in the transgender community – despite the challenges that our gay and lesbian brothers and sisters face – that the United States was founded with a declaration that promises a bright future for all. I’ll end this post with Julie’s words of hope, because when all the hate has been said and done, love will remain.

230 years ago our country – our country! – issued a bold declaration proclaiming ALL are created with the inalienable rights of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. It took awhile before ALL included blacks, but we got there. It took awhile until ALL included women, but we got there. “ALL” still does not include lesbians, gays, bisexuals, and transgender people, but we will get there!

Do You Have A Crossdressing Success Story?

Dear readers,

It’s been a wonderful blessing to receive your emails and comments. I read every one of them, even though I don’t always have the time to respond to each of you personally, your words inspire me. The thing I love reading the most are stories of of your crossdressing breakthroughs. Whether it’s a small success or a major personal achievement my heart sings along with yours. When I struggle with my transgendered nature (which I do, from time to time), your stories bring me strength.

The other day I was thinking – there are other crossdressers out there who would love to read your crossdressing success story. Whether it’s the first time you got your makeup done in public, or your first night our as your alter ego – your words will help lift up a sister when they’re down and give hope to someone who has yet to leave the closet.

If you’ve had a crossdressing success please take a few moments to write it down to share it. You don’t need to be Shakespeare, and your story doesn’t need to be long – just a few sincere words spoken to a friend.

Share Your Crossdressing Success Story

If you would like to share your crossdressing success story, please email me at vanessalaw@crossdresserheaven.com and let me know you’d like me to share with others. Please include:

  • Your femme name
  • A brief introduction (1-2 sentences about where you live, how old you are and such)
  • Your story (if you go over 700 words I’m going to edit you down :) )
  • Optional – A photo of you (no nudity please)

Thanks for your courage, beauty and care. I look forward to hearing from you.

A Crossdressers Christmas List

Christmas songs are in the air, as the cool wind dances through the trees. A blanket of white covers the mountains and trees with a shivery frosting. Gingerbread and carols and shopping for gifts – Even those of us who have gone many turns around the sun find our eyes sparkling with anticipation. Ahh – yes, the Christmas season is upon us in Seattle.

For loved ones and wives shopping for their transgendered girl offers a wonderful array of gift options, and perhaps those who crossdress would find room in their Christmas shopping for a little Christmas gift. So with bouts of ‘Ho Ho Ho’, I’ll share with you

My Crossdressing Christmas List

A little black dress to wear to the party,

A necklace of diamonds that shine and are sparkly,

A book for my mind,

A few pounds from my body,

I think would be a good way to start, my crossdressing Christmas.

But if I could have anything for Christmas I think I’d choose to pass as a women whereever I went. With breasts of my own or even for rent. Locks on long golden hair to tickle my shoulders. And this Christmas has become a bounty of crossdressing fun!

It would delight my heart to receive a pair of high heels. Dress boots are my favorite for fall and winter weather, just make sure they’re not too small – I’m a 12 wide you see.

The list of fabulous gifts you could buy your man who would be a women goes on. Each present unwrapped will bring untold joy. Not just in the gift that’s received, but the thought and the love and the acceptance it brings.

While Christmas is coming I think there’s still time – to write to Santa and tell him what you’d like. Comment here and let us know what would make your Christmas magical this year.

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