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Archives: December 2009

Merry Christmas

by Vanessa Law

Categories: Christianity and Crossdressing

Tags: Crossdresser Christmas

Comments: 14 Comments

Published on: December 25, 2009

Merry Christmas from Crossdresser Heaven

Merry Christmas to all the readers of Crossdresser Heaven. May your Christmas be filled with the joy of special moments and the love of special people.

With blessings to you and those you hold dear.

-Vanessa

Vicki has written some of her thoughts this Christmas, which I’d like to share with you as you celebrate the festive season.

Crossdressing, Christmas Time and God’s Love

Wow, what a year this has been. One year ago today, just home from work, snowbound on Christmas Eve, I chanced upon this wonderful little site called Crossdresser Heaven. It was just what I’d been looking for, a place to talk about Crossdressing, but also a place where one could find some good Christian support for this little hobby, or maybe better to say, lifestyle of ours. It may have been percolating in my mind a bit, but I still hadn’t figured out a way to get the thoughts and ideas I had about my feminine side and it’s relation to my spiritual side out and onto paper, though I knew I had to somehow. Finally a place to discuss it and perhaps rummage around in my “closet”, and a few other closets as well to figure out how it all fit together.

Little did I know that I’d be contributing, much less did I know that before the year has elapsed I’d be taking my first steps in the real world with our lovely and talented hostess Vanessa.

We are asked at this time of year though to step back a moment, and focus on the reason for Christmas. Trust me it sometimes is hard to find much of anything in Scripture about crossdressing, and in the one place it is mentioned it is regarded as an abomination in God’s eyes. Not much hope to go on there is it? But that tends to categorize us as somehow different, and though in society’s eyes we are, the story of the birth of Christ tells us that we are all a part of God’s fallen world, sinful, screwed up, dead in some ways to hope and promise. In God’s eyes there is no differentiation. God looks on the world and sees a place that needs His Saving Grace.

I have many favorite parts of the Christmas story, I love to sit in a hushed church on Christmas Eve and be reminded of the way Christ came into our world to be God among us, Immanuel. There is a special silence that seems to fall on this night that is different than any other. It may simply be that when I leave church, nothing is open and the rest of the world is inside. Not everyone of course, for there are still those that are homeless, in search of a place to lay their heads. And there it is, that part of the tale that connects us intimately with God, or rather connects God intimately with us. For on the night of His birth he too was “homeless”, weary from a long journey, showing up perhaps after everything was closed, they had no place to rest, no place for Mary to give birth but the stable. If God, King of Kings had wanted to establish His special place of birth, to place Himself above us in His Kingdom, he could have done much better. But He didn’t, He chose to be born into a place of squalor, with animals as His bedmates, in a hidden dark corner of a tiny village in the Middle East. He came in humble birth to announce that He is with us to live our experience, not to preach about how we should change who we are, but to say I love you and accept you because I’ve been there, and all I want is for you to love and be loved, by Me, but to also love each other as I have loved you first.

From that birth story we take this message, that God truly is Immanuel, God among us. He has been in the dark corner we have all been in, He has and still to this day experiences our pains as well as our joys. Having been exactly where each of us has been, His only response is to love us. How can He not, for to do so would be to not love Himself.

Peace to all on this Christmas 2009. May you all be Blessed and come to accept the Love God pours out to us all.

Vicki.

Crossdressing Over The Holidays

by Vanessa Law

Categories: Crossdressing Polls

Tags: crossdressing holiday

Comments: 5 Comments

Published on: December 22, 2009

Do You Crossdress At Christmas?

The holidays are about to reach their climax – with friends and family travelling from all around to spend the season with those they love. Many of us have taken time off work, and days are spent selecting just the right gift, and wrapping it with love. During these busy times it might seem hard to find femme time. With family gatherings, holiday parties, gift shopping and decorating what’s a girl to do?

Personally I find that I crossdress about as much during the holidays as other times of the year, since I don’t typically take too many days off work. How about you?

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Santa Doesn’t Keep You Crossdressing

In last week’s crossdressing poll you shared your experience with crossdressing Christmas gifts. Or as it turned out the lack of crossdressing gifts at Christmas time. 55% of you lovely ladies haven’t received a crossdressing themed Christmas gift from someone special because your loved one either doesn’t know or doesn’t approve of your crossdressing. If this is you, don’t despair. Acceptance takes time, communication and huge doses of love from both of you. In case you’re wondering whether it’s possible – 37% of the gorgeous readers of Crossdresser Heaven have received woman’s clothes or all manner of crossdressing finery.

Here’s hoping that Santa makes this Christmas special for you, whether or not your gifts are for your feminine side.

Going Out Crossdressed For The First Time

by Vanessa Law

Categories: Crossdresser Support, Vanessa's Transgender Experience

Tags: first time crossdressed, going out crossdressed

Comments: 87 Comments

Published on: December 20, 2009

Were you nervous the first time you crossdressed?

I’ll never forget my first time going out crossdressed, even though it’s almost eight years ago now. I had been dressing at home for many, many years and underdressing as often as I could, but I had never been out ‘en-femme’ before. A few weeks earlier I had joined a local crossdressing group and had finally plucked up the courage to attend a Tri-Ess meeting.

In my infinite wisdom I thought it would be a good idea to go out crossdressed for the first time. I was conservative in my femininity – I wore a blue blouse over some slightly feminine jeans with a bra for my breastforms and just a dash of makeup. With trepidation I exited my apartment, eager to quickly make the trip down two flights of stairs to my car without being seen. Then as I step foot into the parking lot I’m confronted by

Cops, everywhere – and they’re after crossdressers!

And I’m dressed. They’ll notice my boobs and my feminine blouse. Oh God! Now I’ve gone and done it I knew I shouldn’t have dared to venture out crossdressed. I almost died of embarrassment right there. I knew I was going to get into trouble, or at least a stern rebuke.

As it turns out, the police officer wasn’t outside my apartment waiting for crossdressers and he didn’t pay me much mind. I got into my car without any problems, and was off to my first Tri-Ess meeting.

Over exaggerated fear of what will likely never happen. That’s what I experienced the first time I went out crossdressed, and I have a hunch that I’m not alone. Our worst fears rarely come to pass yet we spend so long dwelling on them. It’s only when we’re out in the moment that the fear can be replaced with the joy of expressing one’s feminine self.

Going Out Crossdressed For the First Time

A few weeks ago I was blessed to take my good friend Vicki on her first crossdressing expedition into the cisgender world. She had visited the Emerald City (a local transgender club in Seattle) before, but leaving the safety of an understanding transgender group was new for her. We started out the afternoon with lunch at Chinese restaurant that we had all to ourselves, and despite some interesting smiles from our hosts it was a great way to ease into crossdressing in public.

Vicki truly showed mastery of her nerves when she suggested a quick trip to the mall together. Dining in a deserted restaurant is one thing, walking through a crowded mall is quite another. It was wonderful to see the sense of joy and accomplishment in her face as she took a proud step forward into the world as her feminine persona.

What was you first time going out crossdressed like? Was it nerve wracking, exciting, joyous, liberating or something else entirely? I’d love to hear, comment and let me know.

Does Santa Keep You Crossdressing?

by Vanessa Law

Categories: Crossdressing Polls

Tags: Crossdressing at Christmas, Crossdressing Christmas Gifts, Crossdressing Santa

Comments: 15 Comments

Published on: December 13, 2009

Hi ladies,

It’s been a busy last few weeks for me. Between Christmas shopping, decorating and trying to snag some downtime from some rough days at work I’ve missed you girls! Thanks to all of you who submitted your Crossdresser Success Stories (If you have one you’d like to share you can do so here) – they’ll start showing up on Crossdresser Heaven in the next few weeks.

I’d also like to thank all you wonderful ladies who sent me lovely emails about Crossdresser Heaven. You make my day! I’ve tried to respond to each of you personally, but if somehow I’ve missed you please know that I deeply appreciate your kind words.

Have you received a Crossdressing Christmas Gift?

I love giving Christmas gifts. My wife will sometimes chastise me for going overboard and pilling on presents and stocking stuffers and, well, just about anything I can find I think she’ll like. I love almost everything about Christmas – the gifts, lights, decorations even Christmas music is great – at least until 9pm on the 25th

Nearly every year my wife will surprise me with a crossdressing Christmas gift or two. Whether it’s jewelry, a cute article of clothing, or some special makeup I wouldn’t normally purchase for myself – my wife truly makes me feel special with these gifts. Far beyond the gift itself, her love and acceptance is wrapped up as well. Just a few months ago I received a lovely surprise crossdressing gift from my wife.

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We Are Tall Crossdressers

Last Crossdressing Poll I asked you how tall are you? Well dears, many of us grace the skies with our height – almost 40% of us are over 6′, and about the same as those of us who are under 5’9″ – the perfect passing height

It reminds me of an episode of Dr. Phil I was watching a few weeks ago. He had two very tall ladies on his show, one was a 6’7″ basketball player, and another was a 6’4″ athlete (I forget the sport). Both of them wore fabulous 3″ heels and looked absolutely stunning. The topic of discussion was whether parents should change characteristics of a child when they’re growing up (like given them more growth hormone to help them grow taller, or for girls – to make other changes so that they grow to a more normal height).

The consensus from the towering beauties was that they appreciated their height. The attitudes of their families, and then themselves to their height helped them achieve things other more minutely proportioned woman would have found very difficult. They didn’t shrink from the world because they were different – rather, they shone brightly because of it!

So whether you’re 5’7″ or 7’5″ – enjoy your height – it’s the only one you’ve got…

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I hope your festive season has been a blessed one so far, best wishes to you and your family. May your days be merry and sales be plentiful!

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