Archives: March 2010

A Morning Paper Run – In Drag!

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Published on: March 31, 2010

Have you ever felt the urge to wake up and face the day as a woman? Perhaps spending a few beautiful hours before the masculine reality of your day sets in? Today’s crossdressing success story comes from Vicki, our very own guest author on Crossdresser Heaven. You can read many of Vicki’s writings about Crossdressing and Christianity on this website as well.

Before we share Vicki’s success I also want to let you know about another success story we have coming up soon from Sarah. Sarah transitioned two years ago, and has a heartwarming story to share with all of us about her journey into womanhood, her loving friends and supportive church. Her words will be a blessing to you – take a moment to subscribe to Crossdresser Heaven so you don’t miss out!

Vicki’s Morning Crossdressing Success Story

Well, it’s a small step but a step nevertheless. My cross dressing success story involves a decision to just go out and get the Sunday paper this morning. I was still in my makeup and had nail polish on from my day off Saturday which I spent most of lounging around the house and indulging my feminine side. I had slept well, and when I woke up, I was just enjoying the feeling of still being dressed, in a nightgown and still having traces of makeup and my bright red nails. My usual routine is to go out in the dark, and take a walk, or if my tired knees will handle it a short run, come home, scrub any leftover makeup off, remove the nail polish and drab off to the store for the paper and maybe a bite to eat. But I was enjoying the luxurious feel of the nightgown and I decided this was it, I’ll freshen up, fluff my hair, put on something discrete and just go get the paper while the coffee brewed.

Still in panties I pulled on a pair of pantyhose, a pair of faced blue jeans, a bra and a pink blouse. I decided on a pair of ankle boots and with a quick makeup touchup, I was ready to go. I put my wallet in a purse I borrowed from my girlfriend; put on her denim jacket grabbed the car keys and headed out the door. I was up pretty early so it was still dark and my plan was to head for a fairly remote, (for the city, 7-11. Tucked away in the northeast part of Seattle and across from Magnusson Park, I felt that the only eyes I would have to deal with were the clerk’s. I drove off, got to the store and parked and without any hesitation got out and went in to grab a paper, pay, and leave. The clerk looked at me briefly as I walked to the paper stand. Dang!. The Sunday edition had not reached this part of town yet. The Advance Bulldog was there but no Sunday edition. I turned around, smiled at the clerk, muttered something about the wrong edition, and went back to my car. Whew… that was pretty easy. Well, I’m out to get a paper so let’s just do this.

Giving up the cover of remoteness I drove a short distance to a better traveled road, a more central 7-11 and parked the car. I was the only one there, as it was still pretty early, but I got out, went in, found the paper, went to the counter and paid for it. I looked the clerk in the eye, if he had any reaction he was very good at concealing it, and said in my best feminine voice, “just the paper today”, and “thank you, have a good day” and headed back to the car. I drove home, shed my outside clothes, put the gown back on, grabbed a cup of coffee and sat down to enjoy my morning paper and the satisfaction of making one more bold step out.

Crossdresser Heaven Loves Facebook

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Published on: March 29, 2010

It seems like just about everyone I know is either using or addicted to Facebook. I find that it’s a wonderful way to stay in touch with friends and family, and to build communities amongst like minded people. I’ve lost count of the number of Facebook groups that cover crossdressing or transgender issues.

As of this week you no longer need to leave your friends behind when you’re commenting and having discussions on Crossdresser Heaven. In just two easy steps you can connect your Facebook account to Crossdresser Heaven, so that whenever you’re logged in to Facebook you’ll be able to quickly comment without having to enter your name and email address.

Getting Crossdresser Heaven and Facebook to Talk

When you go to comment on an article you’ll now see a button that looks like the one below. Simply click on the button:

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Enter your Facebook email address and password when you’re prompted (it will look similar to the image below)

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And have fun commenting!

When you’ve submitted your comment you’ll now have the option to share it with your Facebook friends. I encourage you to share your comment with your friends as well. Just make sure all of your Facebook friends already know about your transgendered side :)  I’ve already had some wonderful discussions with my friends after I replied to a comment on Crossdresser Heaven.

Since this is technology, it’s possible that it could fail in interesting ways. If you’re having a hard time getting your Facebook account to work on Crossdresser Heaven please let me know. I’ll help you get going.

Hugs,
Vanessa

Do You Want Men Dressed as Woman Teaching Your Kids?

Categories: Transgender Rights
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Published on: March 27, 2010
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Using children to perpetuate discrimination

Google must have a sense of humor. Their ad network displays relevant ads on websites that use their service. So far I’ve found the ads on Crossdresser Heaven to be mostly interesting and relevant. Ads for crossdressing stores, or woman’s clothes – things that your average red blooded, blonde wig wearing crossdresser might want to check out.

Imagine my shock when I visited Crossdresser Heaven to find this ad prominently displayed! It’s an ad by a right wing organization (that I won’t grace with a link) that opposes ENDA – The Employment Non-Discrimination Act. What better way to perpetuate discrimination than taking advantage of children, distorting facts and sowing fear? Reading this ad one would think that once ENDA passes that perverted sex offenders in dresses would be in our schools molesting our kids.

This could not be further from the truth. Given recent scandals I’ll wager it’s more likely you should watch out for the priest in your local church than a transgender woman. It’s also offensive and ignorant to classify transgender women as ‘men in dresses’. Though it makes for a compelling stereotype, this statement makes it clear they’ve never met a transgender woman – or perhaps they have and they just don’t know it :)

What is ENDA?

In a nutshell, if this law were to pass it would make it illegal for employers to discriminate against people based on their sexual orientation or gender identity. Much like it’s illegal today to discriminate against people because of the color of their skin. Many ladies who have transitioned to living as a woman full time say they that it is difficult to find work because they are transgendered. ENDA would give them a fair shot at earning a living and taking care of their families. The Human Rights Campaign has a website describing more details about the Employment Non-Discrimination Act.

Why Should Crossdressers Care About ENDA?

If you ever plan to transition then it should be quite clear why ENDA is an important law to protect your livelihood. But even if you have no plans to spend every day as a woman a strong, healthy and financially viable transgender community is invaluable to the part time crossdresser. The counseling centers, support groups and even transgender friendly businesses flourish when the community has the financial means to support them. They wouldn’t be selling size 12W high heels if there was no market for them :)

Have I inspired you to take action? Good! The easiest thing you can do to support ENDA is to write your congressman in support of it, you’ll find a list of their contact details here. Your local transgender group might have more activities you can become involved in as well, so give them a call.

P.S. For what it’s worth, I filtered these ads from Crossdresser Heaven…

An Apology, and a Transgender Scholarship

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Published on: March 24, 2010

The other day I checked my Facebook inbox for the first time in many months. I was humbled by all the messages I’d received. Notes of appreciation, cries for help and heartfelt longings from many who want to share a small piece of their transgender journey with me. I also felt guilt in knowing I had left those cries for help unanswered for too long. Intellectually I know that I’m only one woman, blessed with just twenty four hours each day. Yet my heart aches for all those needs I was unable to meet. For all those beautiful souls I could have soothed. For those wonderful woman I could have laughed with and cried with.

To all of you who have sent me a Facebook message, or email that I have yet to respond to – I apologize. I started Crossdresser Heaven for you, you deserve more than a never ending replay proclaiming, “We’re experiencing unusually high call volume. All operators are currently serving other customers. Your call will be answered in the order it was received”.

If anyone in the Crossdresser Heaven community has ideas for how I could be more efficient, or better scale the ability to serve those in the transgender community please comment and let me know!

A Transgender Scholarship

Now for some exciting news I heard about last week. The Gender Alliance of the South Sound is offering a transgender scholarship to an outstanding transgender student. The scholarship offers at least $500, but could be more depending on available funds. This is a tremendous opportunity to get financial support for your education. I know that it can be hard finding support as a transgendered woman, and I’m excited about this step by the Gender Alliance of South Sound.

If you know of any other transgender scholarships please comment and share!

May the light of the day yet to come shine brightly enough to banish the demons from the shadows of today.

Blessings,
Vanessa

A Passing Fancy

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Published on: March 21, 2010
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Passing ain't easy

Ever had one of those days where nothing seemed to go right? Your hair frizzed up, your outfit so shocking it could make a teenage girl weep with shame, and your makeup looks like a bad rendition of kindergarten finger painting?

Or perhaps it is something more subtle. A feeling of disquiet, an awkward motion more robotic than feminine, or a strained high pitched sound in place of your usual confident contralto.

That would be a good description of my yesterday. I decided to wear one of my favorite patterned skirts of orange, blue, green and dabs of black and white beneath a plain orange top and unassuming flats. A comfortable outfit for running a few errands around town before spending an idyllic few hours in the park drenched in sunshine.

Passing (or not) when Crossdressed

It started out well – I made small talk with the teller at the bank while depositing a few checks, then I was off to grab a Starbucks. When I opened my mouth the barista at the drive through was clearly shocked. To his credit he recovered quickly with a smile, and we chatted about the beautiful mountains the clear day had made visible. Note to self – more voice feminization practice. Feeling a bit lazy, I decided to go shopping later in the day, and headed to the park.

Were I delusional I would think that the lingering looks from men in the park were all a natural male reaction to a beautiful, tall brunette passing them by. I’m not quite that pretty, and the somewhat confused looks I saw on a few faces betrayed a response of more than just appreciation.

Sometimes when I go out I’m fairly passable, but that on day passing was not in my destiny. As if to confirm this sentiment I exchanged radiant smiles with a few woman in the park. And it only got more fun when I walked into Safeway. The lady giving away free samples forgot her pitch momentarily when she saw me, and to my overwhelming joy and chagrin I was carded by the cashier on the way out. I must confess, there are better experiences in life than producing your male ID while out en femme. The cashier looked a bit befuddled before blessing me with an encouraging smile. Note to self – get your ID photo updated to look more gender neutral.

So, did I fail by not passing?

If you believe every time you fail every time you’re read, then perhaps you would recommend I review my own tips for passing as a woman. Looking back on the day, I went out as Vanessa, I felt great, chatted with a few people and was on the receiving end of many smiles. Everyone I met was pleasant – I even walked past a gaggle of teenage girls without inspiring shrieks of laughter (or even a comment). Perhaps it was my worst day in a while for passing, but I had fun and expressed my true self. In my book that’s a success.

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