This week I am truly honored to hear from Amy. This is the first time that a genetically born woman has shared her crossdressing success story on Crossdresser Heaven. Amy’s story is a blessing to all of us, and shows us that love’s embrace can strengthen even with – and sometimes because of – crossdressing.
If you’d like to share you crossdressing success story, please take a moment to submit your story. I’d especially like to encourage wives and girlfriends of crossdressers to share their successes. Even if you’re still struggling with your loved one’s crossdressing your small successes will bring encouragement to many others who are walking the same journey.
Meet Amy
Hello, I’m Amy; I’m a 36-year old female who lives in a small town in Georgia.
Amy’s Crossdressing Success Story – A Wife’s Perspective
I don’t know if I can publish a story being a female, but I am so inspired by all of your stories that I had to tell mine. I met my husband about 5 years ago at a pizza restaurant where we both worked at the time. I had identified myself as a lesbian for 10 years, but hadn’t found the right woman. I had had two boyfriends, both of whom validated my reasons for choosing the lesbian lifestyle, even bearing a child from one of them.
But this one, 9 years younger than me, there was just something about him I couldn’t put my finger on, but I knew I had to have him. I heard was a preacher’s son and had a good reputation, unlike the last one who’d left me and my son 5 years earlier. Anyway, we hit it off and dated for 4 years before getting married. I always felt like he was more of a woman in bed, which naturally I liked, having been a lesbian before.
Now I had a kid, plus living in the Bible belt is not easy when you’re not living the “straight” and narrow, so I no longer had the desire to seek out a woman. So he was perfect, the best of both worlds. Little did I know just how perfect.
I knew he liked wearing my tank top I once put on him, but I thought it was no big deal since it never came up again. Later I found out that he was attracted to me from day one, having listened to my lesbian escapades. It seemed a part of him identified with/wanted to be one of those women. This might sound strange, but one night 3 years into our relationship, I heard in a dream or vision from a beautiful goddess (crazy, I know) telling me that I needed to tell him that it was ok to wear women’s clothes; that it was an ancient part of him that would be very healing if he would just allow it to happen.
I told him this, but he said nothing and I forgot about it. It wasn’t until our wedding night that I experienced the full extent of my husband’s desire to cross dress. We went and bought lingerie that I was hoping he would especially love on me. It seemed he cared more about himself wearing the clothes than me. I was actually jealous of a robe!
This was such a downer for me on our honeymoon. But how could I have known? We hadn’t been able to live together during our engagement, between his conservative background, and my not wanting to shack up only to be abandoned again. And he’s quite shy about such things.
Well, I am happy to say after nearly 2 years we have adjusted and grown together, and through a lot of communication and encouragement have created a beautiful relationship that is like no other. Thanks to Vanessa’s website, Vicki’s wise words for Christian Cross Dressers, and all the CD stories, I have come to understand why my husband feels the way he does; it even endears me to him more.
The stories have made me cry at times. One day I saw on Oprah a transgendered man (woman now) and her wife who would shop for jewelry together, and something about their story, their kinship made me cry as well. It wasn’t tears of sadness, but more of a cleansing and a relieving. It felt like, “Yes, that is it”, like a resounding truth.
Now I dress him up all the time. Occasionally he will put something on, but he is more passive and the thrill for him is someone else doing it to him. I no longer see his desire to wear women’s clothes as taking away from me. In fact, I think this has strengthened me to be more, to explore my masculine side, my dominating side (grin), and now I play video games with him and fix things around the house.
I’ve even explained to my 11 year old son that his step dad feels good in women’s clothes, and he was ok with that. He actually said it explained a lot and seemed relieved to now know the truth. (I’m sure he’s noticed him wearing my jeans and pj’s from time to time.)
My dream is for us to move to a place where he could be comfortable to be himself, be it in women’s clothes or makeup or even transitioning to transgendered. This whole experience has taught me that gender is a very complex thing and that we all have a varying degrees of masculinity and femininity in us.
It has taught me to question, what makes us a man or a woman? Doesn’t our Creator create us to express ourselves the way we want? Isn’t there a feminine aspect to our Creator that he/she wants to shine through us? What would the world be like if we were more free to express both male and female sides of us, or just one if that’s what gives us joy? I think it would be an infinitely better world.
Amy
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What a beautiful story, great to hear that these two people are together and happy 🙂
I was moved by this story and thank Amy for publishing it. I am a CD in GA and would love to develop a friendship with this couple. Hopefully they will want the same and touch base with me. The story gives us all hope.
> I have come to understand why
> my husband feels the way he does
That’s wonderful to hear and thank you for taking the time in sharing yours story. So often we hear only from a husband’s or boyfriend’s point of view, so it’s great to hear a partner’s story too.
This is a rare story and wish more wives would try this. I’ve had 1 failed marrige and 1 failed engagment because of my dressing. Either they run away or they have to protect their kids from it. Where is my Amy at?
Hello! Thank you all for your kind comments. I am honored to have my story told on Crossdresser Heaven. To have a positive impact on the community, which is my goal, is truly awesome! I would love to get the message out to those struggling wives that embracing crossdressing can benefit not only our spouse but ourselves. It breaks my heart that marriages end because of simply not understanding and not allowing our one true love to be and express who they are. To answer Lacey and Michelle, I am interested in making friends, but I’m not sure my husband… Read more »
You can email me anytime Amy
Michelle
Nice story make ur wife happy always…..and u b the hero
All sorts of awesome!
Utterly new to the arena at age 53, and despite some awkward adjustments for us both, I have a wonderfully supportive wife of coming up on 33 years next month.
She goes beyond “tolerance". Picks out and suggests things for me…frequently compliments what I chose to wear (I wear lady duds/makeup even in “guy mode").
I couldn’t be luckier in a mate!
K
P.S. This is all showing up in maroon for a text color…clueless why and can’t make it stop…it means nothing…
Hi Amy
I wish that my wife can be as open-minded as you are. Your husband is so lucky to have you. My wife shames me when she sees me in woman underwear. She becomes very angry. I like dressing up as a woman. I just want to be a woman at home, although I have always want to be a woman….since I was a young boy.
Wish that my wife understands and supports me!
This is a nice story. I’m a cross dresser and my wife was a lesbian before. We both love each other !
me & MY WIFE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER IN THE BEEDROOM AS TWO WOMAN FOR ABOUT 2 YEARS USING ADICK SHAPED VIBRATER & ITS THE BEST SEX WE EVER HAD ITS GREAT NOT HAVING TO BE A MAN IN THE BEEDROOM NOW WE ARE BFFS & 2 WIVES IN EVERY WAY EVEN HOW WE LLOK AT GUYS I ALWAYS NEW I WAS A WOMAN BUT ALWAYS WANTED TO BE WITH MY WIFE JUST NOT AS A MAN & SHE ALWAYS LOVED MY GIRL SIDE IT IS SOON GOOD BEING BFFS
me & MY WIFE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER IN THE BEEDROOM AS TWO WOMAN FOR ABOUT 2 YEARS USING ADICK SHAPED VIBRATER & ITS THE BEST SEX WE EVER HAD ITS GREAT NOT HAVING TO BE A MAN IN THE BEEDROOM NOW WE ARE BFFS & 2 WIVES IN EVERY WAY EVEN HOW WE LLOK AT GUYS I ALWAYS NEW I WAS A WOMAN BUT ALWAYS WANTED TO BE WITH MY WIFE JUST NOT AS A MAN & SHE ALWAYS LOVED MY GIRL SIDE IT IS SOON GOOD BEING BFFS
Dear Amy,Iam very encurage to your story.Ithink I may have meet someone like you but am too shy to approach her,She works at Sears and sells lingerie and she was great buy from and says she would like to see more me. ?.Good luck and God bless Bob
I’m a married crossdresser, and although my wife knows of my dressing, she doed not participate or encourage me in any way. She knew of my crossdressing before we were married, and I was in the hope that it could be somehow a part of our marriage. In return, I’d even be open to her seeing other men in some relationship if she so desired. I feel that would be an even trade off for her encouragement or participation. I’ve even recently got a new pair of sexy red high heeled pumps for halloween. If she only knew of some… Read more »
Hi my name is Candy a very passable cd. I love your story Amy there should be more women like you. The worl would be a better place.