I am an unemployed girl with luck running out and with time going so fast and so much to do, I am unable to post as much as I would like to. But here are a couple cents worth of good common sense this ashamed issue.

In the Bible and I’ll look into it hopefully I’ll find it, God said to one of his prophets when he stepped out of line; ‘If you want me to listen to your prayers, shake up you skirt.’ Is that indicative of the fact that in the old times skirts were for men? The ancient Greeks had three fashions, one for males, one for females and one was gender neutral, more like pants for women today. The folklore of many Eastern European nations shows man wearing short skirts over a long legged pant. Climate and geographical conditions also influenced fashion. If you lived in Greece or Italy, a man wears skirts, if in Scandinavia he would wear trousers.

Then, what’s a man jacket or a rain coat if not an altered short or long dress? What’s a summer short pant if not a two legged skirt? And isn’t that tights or a control pantyhose good for varicose in preventing it?

The crossdressing was not, and is not tolerated by God, if you want to extort some privileges you don’t deserve, or for criminal reasons such as;
Eliciting sex with a man unaware that you are not a woman while pretending to be a one.
Dressing as a woman with the intent to kill someone and throw off the trail of justice.

The only way I am ashamed of been a woman is only if I dress looking like a dirty whore while heading off to the restaurant. I’ve seen examples like that or even minor ones like the guy has a five o’clock beard, not just a shadow and yet wears a dress, has a man hairdo and sports a blatant Red lipstick. Go figure, right?

I have also had the idea that a wife should know of my feminine side before she says ‘I Do’ and not after. I am not married likely because of it, still looking, but at least I don’t have the problems which comes along with hiding.

I wish we would have a post for people like me looking for that understanding genetic girl for a partner, one for us to socialise on the web and one about jobs, given the economy. We could exchange e-mails too.

And finally, the reason I think ladies have a hard time with crossdressers is because they’re perceived to steal their identity and doing so in stealing what’s convenient, comfortable and easy, but not the hard parts like pms and childbearing. Let’s face it, men have it easy, that’s why we don’t get the part for example, where it takes her an hour to look at her best when we do it in five minutes. And I’ve seen women who just went out dressed like ‘right after washing dishes and taking the garbage out’ to say it politely and I didn’t wanted to take a look at them even as a male.

I wish we would wear the best outfits all the time even in menial tasks, but oh well…

And I love shopping the clearance racks at WalMart and Kmart as well as the Sears Home Essentials stores. Always can find great articles of clothing at amazing low prices.

I was shopping WalMart once and found several pieces of clothing that I loved. Didn’t even realize until I got home and decided to try a few of them on that one of the skirts I bought matched perfectly with one of the tops I bought. I wasn’t even trying to match anything, just picked out individual pieces that I liked. So it was a pleasant surprise when I saw how well those two articles of clothing looked together. I wore them to work the next night and it is still one of my favorite outfits.

One thing I have found is that there are so many different styles of clothing, and certain types may look better to you when you are wearing them than others. (in terms of you thinking you are passing better).

Some fashion websites and even store websites will have articles on-line about the best types of tops, skirts, pants, dresses, etc. to wear for certain body types.

And if a certain style appeals to you more than another, then you will probably feel better about yourself as well, feel more feminine, and less self-conscious about how well you are passing or not.

You can experiment without spending a whole lot of money by buying some of your clothes at thrift stores or at places like Wal-Mart, where for example I bought a White Stag top tonight for just $3 on clearance sale and a pretty red patterned dress for just $5.

Sometimes it may help to just browse the stores to see what is on display or browse store websites and after a while you will get an idea what styles appeal to you.

If you are wearing a design you like to start with you will probably feel more feminine and feel you are more passable than if you are wearing women’s clothes just because they are women’s clothes.

Hope this helps,
Hugs,
Pam