Are you thankful for crossdressing?
My mom always used to say, “If life hands you lemons, make lemonade.” At least I think it was my mom, or some other suitably sage adult who influenced my growing years. Here in the US we’re just a few days away from Thanksgiving. Apart from turkey, football (of the non-soccer variety) and the occasional family feud, Thanksgiving is a time I use to reflect on all the blessings I’ve been given in my life.
After just a few minutes I’m hard pressed not to weep with gratitude to my creator for all I’ve been given. A family who loves me, a good job during troubled times and the blessing of health. In fact, if you’re reading this right now you’re likely wealthier than 95% of all people in the world. (If you don’t believe me, take a moment to find out where you are on the global rich list). Truly a blessing, even though it’s almost entirely an accident of birth.
But speaking of accidents of birth… If you’re reading this you or your loved one are probably dealing with the mixed blessing of being a transgendered person. This can be a difficult struggle, but I can honestly say that I’m truly grateful for being transgendered. It has made me a better person. Do you consider being transgendered a blessing? What are you most grateful for?
Loading ...Last Week’s Crossdressing Poll
Last week I asked if you could go back and change your birth gender, would you? It looks like most of you would choose to be born a girl. Though almost 30% of you were quite happy as a man, even if you occasionally don feminine attire. Truly we are blessed to be part of such a diverse community. Whether you’re a woman inside, on your way to becoming a woman outside as well, or happy dressing part time you are a unique and loved person.
I answered this poll with, “I don’t know”, though I was sorely tempted to exclaim how joyous it would be to be born my true gender. I couldn’t get past all the experiences I would miss out on being born a man, and how unpredictable my path as a woman would have been. Not least of which is meeting my beautiful wife, which would never have happened if I were born in my true gender.
Love and blessings this Thanksgiving to you and your loved ones.
Vanessa
Vanessa is a happily married 30 year old transgendered woman from Seattle. It's been a long road to acceptance for her, despite the fact that she has been crossdressing for more than 25 years. Sometimes, when she looks in the mirror she longs to see the girl that lives
within her. 
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A very happy thanksgiving to you, yours, and your many friends and fans here in Cross Dresser Heaven. So glad to have met you on my journey.
I ‘D BE MORE THANKFUL IF I WAS BORN A GIRL,,, I’VE ALWAYS HAD THE FEELING IN ME I SHOULD HAVE BEEN ONE,, BUT HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO EVERYONE IN HERE… MELONY
Happy Thanksgiving Melony and Petra!
We should be all thankful each morning, when we wake up. As we take this road as a transgender. Ask for blessing for family and friends.
I have been a “closet” crossdresser since I was 10 yrs old. I am now in my mid 30’s and still enjoy dressing up.Even though I only dress in private and plan to stay in the “closet” as I have so much fun dressing up even if I am only walking around the house in a dress or skirt. I am very thankful for being a crossdresser.I have become very sensitive over the years and have found I have a very strong feminine ego. I dress up every night when i get home and I am always buying something feminine when i go shopping which is another rush with being a CD.I guess maybe since I am submissive to the female sex i am also submissive towards my feminine ego.
I am thankful for being a crossdresser for a lot of reasons. But as I was just roaming about the house thinking about this question, the main reason I am thankful I am a crossdresser is because if I hadn’t been, I would never have met the love of my life, my gf Molly.She is a rare gem ladies, she gets us, and mostly she gets me. It was through a CD site that we met, and when we met in r/t we fell in love. The rest is history.
So for my love, my all, my blessing from God, for I truly believe he put her in my life, I give thanks
Vicki
Hello to all our Sisters,my name is Leona and i have finally and greatfully have come to except who i am. And that is a 56yr. old transgender. I wish that i could say that it had been easy steps for me.But the truth is i felt ashamed and torrmented that a man would or could feel the way i did. I found myself looking to all kinds of differant ways to suppress how i was and who i denyed for so long. But i met a person that i could be completly honest and open to. To top it off she came from a background that i never would have thought. But where she came from is not important right now. When we first met i did not open to her that i was a transgender. I still had those old feelings of shame. But as our friendship grew and trust developed i could not or wanted to hide any longer. That is the greatest guilt. We hide not from others but more from ourselves. I opened to my friend and the release and shame started to slip away. Iknow now that my journy is not an insult to my Creator. But that i am living the life that was placed there long before i knew what my life was. Thanks to this true friend i no longer shy away to my room to express Leona. I know that our lives are short and that shame and guilt can and will hold us back from expressing that person that is loved by the Great Spirit. I have so far to go. SO many years of denial and shame to erase. But i am LEONA loved by the one who gave me this treasure. I am not ashamed any longer to be trangender. And i will do my very best to live this life, my life to its full potentual. PEACE TO ALL MY SISTERS.
Leona – these are words that everyone should here. Bless you darling.
If there had been an ‘other’ selection…
Personally, I think it’s a combination of the items you put on the poll. Sure, there were some bad times – in the early days – but hardly at all now (dare I say that?
). Now it’s just good fun. I have trans friends – real and internet – who I can be open and honest with. I’m not so worried about the whole dressing up shebang, now I just accept and enjoy the occasions where I can be pretty (or at least try to).
As is so true in life
You’re right that it becomes easier than in the beginning (where every step is filled with anxiousness)..
I just got finished reading Lynns post.And do hope that with time the anxiousness fades as i continue on this wonderful journey. I say that because today i went and bought a really great pair of slouch boots. And i will say that at first i was nervous, I usualy buy my cloths on- line. But i was determined to follow my desire. I had a wonderfull experiance and even bought a beaded necklace to match. Will the time ever come that i will not ever be anxious? I do hope so. I even stoped at a salon to get my hair styled but that will come a little later
I just had a sudden flash of knowledge this evening, and felt Ishould share it with the community. I realized why I have just now decided I must “come out of the closet.” I don’t paticularly WANT to pass, per se – what I want is to be accepted wearing what society normally considers to be be female clothing. Becaue I work from home, I am able most of the time, to go around the house wearing whatever makes me feel good about myself. I don’t dress “over the top”; that is, my dress is fairly conservative by any standards, except that I am very obviously male (and happy to remain so, thank you very much) but I wear women’s clothing. I DO have boobs, partly because I have been on Saw Palmetto fro about three years for BPH, but also because I like having them, and have embarked on the Flat to Fem program to develop breasts. (Let’s face it – they are nice toys, and it feels good to play with them) So I can wear a bra (36 B) and fill it without wearing breast forms. But I have no hips and am definately a “flat-ass white boy”, so need padding in that department. So I don a four-pad girdle, and a bra, then whatever I want to wear for the day – usually a conservative top, jeans and a pair of flats, or low heeled boots. I keep that same clothing on when I walk out to get the mail, or if I drive somewhere that I do not have to get out of the car and go inside. But it is a genuine PITA to have to change into drab if I decide I want to go to the grocery store, or the bank, or something of that sort. So I feel I am being forced by society to learn to pass. I wonder how namy others are in my same position?
I did take a fem name – a woman, born in my family in the mid 1800’s, who was a lesbian. So you can call me either David, or Elizabeth. And thank you SO MUCH for having this forum! You can but imagine .how much it has meant to me, to be able to know I am not alone.
Thanks Elizabeth – ‘I don’t want to pass – what I want is to be accepted wearing what society normally considers to be female clothing.’. That’s such a powerful statement and realization, and one I wish more crossdressers would see too. Otherwise the path to passing will be long, hard and fraught with failure. Much better to travel the path to acceptance, which starts with self acceptance.
Hugs,
Vanessa
I’m a very tall transvestite. i stand 6′3″ tall in bare feet yet i’m very statuesque and i do find that being a tall woman is senseous. i love dating tall men and believe me thet are not hard to find. thank you. erlene————–if there is anything anyone would like to talk to me about feel free to e-mail me at————-ean1945@hotmail.com——————–
This is the first time I post. Your website is so wonderful. All you girls are brave and lovely in and out. God has bless us all.
Thanks Ronnie dear – welcome, it’s wonderful to have you as part of the community on Crossdresser Heaven.
To all darling sisters.
I love to wear fem underclothes, Started in puberty, now I am 57. I had denied this to myself for so many years until recently somehow the urge came back. I never married and am hetero, so the urge was very strong and I indulged some. To my dismay, I feel soooo afraid, fearful that I will be in an accident or something really wrong will happen to me, something like God´s punisment, so I do use them only indoors. I tried a new item and to my scock had an accident that left my nose broken in 8 parts. Is it I am being punished by God? I would really like to hear from other CD´s who share this fear with me. <god Bless and thank you. Warmest wishes for the season.
Sunseearry Rowan
SUNSEEARRY, “faith,hope and love but the greatest of these is love. If we are to live to these would it not seem true also that the Creator would also apply this to him, her self? I do understand the feelings that you are having but untill you see the great gift you have been given and love yourself for who you are you will only bring disappointment to yourself and to those so close to you. Ibelieve that there is a punisment to those who perpetrate evil but not against an Enitie but to those who perpetrate it against our sisters and brothers in the world. There should be no fear expressing the gift that you have been given. If there were such a punishment then all the sisters on this great site would be living in fear. But as you can see fear is not. Love yourself find joy that you can embrace this wonderfull life. Be who you have beengiven the freedom to be. Peace to you sister Leona
Rowen, I have delt with this issue for many years, my transgender feelings and cross dressing.(I’m 44) I recently have come to terms with my self and with the understanding the The Lord made me. I did not choose to be this way, I just am. That fact that I feel/I am a woman inside does NOT change the fact that I love the Lord and he loves me. My salvation is safe with Him,and it does not depend on what I wear or how I feel.
Accepting one self is the first step and many. Be happy with your self.
Do not beat your self up, pray lots and love your self and others.
One final thought I have a very very supportive wife which she has helped me with this journey I’m on. She much rather have my as her wife/girlfriend then a husband…I love it!!
Stay safe,stay sexy and God Bless… Ronnie
Hi Ladies
I have never had an opportunity to openly say what I feel until i found this site. Thankyou so much!
I have been a lover of feminine things – mainly lingerie, since as early as mid primary school. I used to sneak into my sisters room to get some of their panties to wear to make me excited and it has grown and continued to the present time. I am now 49 years old but still in the closet.
I am married and have two sons aged 4 and 12. I have tried to come out through discussing with my wife via fantasy play but she tells me she is repulsed by trans people. So I feel I have no real support here.
I know deep down that I should have been born a female and would love to be able to make the transition for real instead of in my mind.
I have puchased lots of panties, as I no longer allow myself to wear male undies and I wear panties every day. I have a skirt and strapless dress some Bras and breastforms of which I havecto hide in my desk at work so my wife doesn’t discover them. I also purchased lipsticks and foundations.
I long for the day when I can be my true self as a woman without the fear of ridicule from my family and friends.
I am so happy that I have been able to express myself hee as a start on my journey home.
Thankyou and Merry Christmas to all my lovely sisters.
Regina
Hi Regina, never allow you “true self” to disappear.
I understand that you have small children at this time in your life. They depend on you and that should be your upmost priority.
I also had to live in the “closet” for many years when raising my 4 children. They are all grown, my oldest 23 youngest 15. Only my youngest daughter is accepting of me. ( I have not opened up to my other children,my boys are 19,oldest daughter 23 )I also have a step daughter who is very accepting along with her boyfriend. It is a great support to have along them along with my amazing wife,but it has taken a long time.
So Regina, do not give up. Dress when you can (with caution) and enjoy and cherish those moments. The time will come when you will be able to express “Regina” more often.
Be strong and know that you have many other sisters that are going and have been in your situation.
Our prayer and thoughts are with you… Stay safe and stay sexy and God bless. Ronnie
Reading all these posts gives me a view of the diversity of gender expression. Since I was about 10 I felt as though I wanted to be a girl. By 14 Envied them so much it really bugged me. When other boys were watching them, I was wanting to be one of them. I have always had business, or personal friends who got in the way of moving foward with this, and while Ive been out for years, Im finally going to get myself right as Ive retired, and friends have drifted away. Been on hormones years ago, have nice real boobies, Im so proud of, and still have good legs. which I still love to show off. Im old now, but still am pretty when dressed. Thats the most important thing in my life right now. The hurting though has been a burden all these years, but now Im going into the new year with a smile, and I wish all of you blessings and happiness in the future. Carol ann.
Hello Carol Ann, I read your post and someway connected to what you said. I was wandering if we might e-m each other and share? I to am older and it took years for me to finally accept that person that has desired to be set free. I thought that maybe we could just share. I have several e-m’s and would love to hear from you! senecanation@yahoo.com
I am extremely grateful for being the person I am. My only regret is that I can’t outwardly be more the woman I always feel inside.
If by proud, you mean do I like being a crossdresser? the answere is Yes!! While I may not be able to dress all the way (Home situation) I at least underdress and really enjoy it. I suppose if I could go back my 58 yrs, I would ask the Lord to be born a girl. I have worn skirts and dresses in past times and it feels ‘right’ for me. Unfortunately, that is not my reality. But regardless, I am happy to be a CD.
Good morning to all. It is so cold here and not to warm for a time. I would like to get some advice on purchasing breast enhancers. I am on a herbal breast enlargement program and is working but slow. I guess all good things do take time. I have been to many sites that sell but to be honest it can be quite confussing at times. I am not looking to over exagerate but to keep to my size. I am 5′6″ and 135lb. So i do not want to look foolish just compliment. Would really like to hear from someone. Thanks, Leona
Hi, Leona –
I have found that most breast forms are just too large, jiggley, and fake-looking. BEsides – they are all unbelieveably HOT!!! You sweat like a pig under them. The best ones I have found for slight enhancement, without being ‘over the top’ are sold as silicone no-strap bras. I wear Braza brand. They are more teardrop – shaped than most others, and you can try wearing them with the taperec elongation in different positions until you find the one that most naturally fits your body shape. They are also only about one cup size incease, so, if you are a NB, as I was for several years, you will find they will make youa full B cup or just slightly largerBy the way – I guess I should add I am in my mid sixties, and didn’t realize the woman in me was so strong until only a few years ago. I knew I was different, but I didn’t realize that I wanted to cross-dress until after I played Cabaret, where the orchestra has to appear as drag queens. That was too much, but it opened my eyes to how sesxy I felt, and how more comfortable I felt in women’s clothing.
Good luck with your search, Dear – I hope this helps.
Elizabeth
Elizabeth, thank you for your reply. I to am not real young anymore. I have reached the age of 57 and i to within the last few years have come to the place that i am comfortable and pleased in my new life. It was a soul searching and quite exciting to accept that which was there but always suppresed. But no more! I am in counseling, not to be cured. But to grow as woman. And i have recieved only encouragement and great hope. I will look for the enhancers that you have written about. And hope i can share my descoveries with you. It trully does amaze me the peace that i have finally found and live. Thank you dear sister
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