Are you thankful for crossdressing?
My mom always used to say, “If life hands you lemons, make lemonade.” At least I think it was my mom, or some other suitably sage adult who influenced my growing years. Here in the US we’re just a few days away from Thanksgiving. Apart from turkey, football (of the non-soccer variety) and the occasional family feud, Thanksgiving is a time I use to reflect on all the blessings I’ve been given in my life.
After just a few minutes I’m hard pressed not to weep with gratitude to my creator for all I’ve been given. A family who loves me, a good job during troubled times and the blessing of health. In fact, if you’re reading this right now you’re likely wealthier than 95% of all people in the world. (If you don’t believe me, take a moment to find out where you are on the global rich list). Truly a blessing, even though it’s almost entirely an accident of birth.
But speaking of accidents of birth… If you’re reading this you or your loved one are probably dealing with the mixed blessing of being a transgendered person. This can be a difficult struggle, but I can honestly say that I’m truly grateful for being transgendered. It has made me a better person. Do you consider being transgendered a blessing? What are you most grateful for?
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Last Week’s Crossdressing Poll
Last week I asked if you could go back and change your birth gender, would you? It looks like most of you would choose to be born a girl. Though almost 30% of you were quite happy as a man, even if you occasionally don feminine attire. Truly we are blessed to be part of such a diverse community. Whether you’re a woman inside, on your way to becoming a woman outside as well, or happy dressing part time you are a unique and loved person.
I answered this poll with, “I don’t know”, though I was sorely tempted to exclaim how joyous it would be to be born my true gender. I couldn’t get past all the experiences I would miss out on being born a man, and how unpredictable my path as a woman would have been. Not least of which is meeting my beautiful wife, which would never have happened if I were born in my true gender.
Love and blessings this Thanksgiving to you and your loved ones.
Vanessa
A very happy thanksgiving to you, yours, and your many friends and fans here in Cross Dresser Heaven. So glad to have met you on my journey.
I ‘D BE MORE THANKFUL IF I WAS BORN A GIRL,,, I’VE ALWAYS HAD THE FEELING IN ME I SHOULD HAVE BEEN ONE,, BUT HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO EVERYONE IN HERE… MELONY
Happy Thanksgiving Melony and Petra!
We should be all thankful each morning, when we wake up. As we take this road as a transgender. Ask for blessing for family and friends.
I have been a “closet” crossdresser since I was 10 yrs old. I am now in my mid 30′s and still enjoy dressing up.Even though I only dress in private and plan to stay in the “closet” as I have so much fun dressing up even if I am only walking around the house in a dress or skirt. I am very thankful for being a crossdresser.I have become very sensitive over the years and have found I have a very strong feminine ego. I dress up every night when i get home and I am always buying something feminine when i go shopping which is another rush with being a CD.I guess maybe since I am submissive to the female sex i am also submissive towards my feminine ego.
I am thankful for being a crossdresser for a lot of reasons. But as I was just roaming about the house thinking about this question, the main reason I am thankful I am a crossdresser is because if I hadn’t been, I would never have met the love of my life, my gf Molly.She is a rare gem ladies, she gets us, and mostly she gets me. It was through a CD site that we met, and when we met in r/t we fell in love. The rest is history.
So for my love, my all, my blessing from God, for I truly believe he put her in my life, I give thanks
Vicki
Hello to all our Sisters,my name is Leona and i have finally and greatfully have come to except who i am. And that is a 56yr. old transgender. I wish that i could say that it had been easy steps for me.But the truth is i felt ashamed and torrmented that a man would or could feel the way i did. I found myself looking to all kinds of differant ways to suppress how i was and who i denyed for so long. But i met a person that i could be completly honest and open to. To top it off she came from a background that i never would have thought. But where she came from is not important right now. When we first met i did not open to her that i was a transgender. I still had those old feelings of shame. But as our friendship grew and trust developed i could not or wanted to hide any longer. That is the greatest guilt. We hide not from others but more from ourselves. I opened to my friend and the release and shame started to slip away. Iknow now that my journy is not an insult to my Creator. But that i am living the life that was placed there long before i knew what my life was. Thanks to this true friend i no longer shy away to my room to express Leona. I know that our lives are short and that shame and guilt can and will hold us back from expressing that person that is loved by the Great Spirit. I have so far to go. SO many years of denial and shame to erase. But i am LEONA loved by the one who gave me this treasure. I am not ashamed any longer to be trangender. And i will do my very best to live this life, my life to its full potentual. PEACE TO ALL MY SISTERS.
Leona – these are words that everyone should here. Bless you darling.
If there had been an ‘other’ selection…
Personally, I think it’s a combination of the items you put on the poll. Sure, there were some bad times – in the early days – but hardly at all now (dare I say that?
). Now it’s just good fun. I have trans friends – real and internet – who I can be open and honest with. I’m not so worried about the whole dressing up shebang, now I just accept and enjoy the occasions where I can be pretty (or at least try to).
As is so true in life
You’re right that it becomes easier than in the beginning (where every step is filled with anxiousness)..
I just got finished reading Lynns post.And do hope that with time the anxiousness fades as i continue on this wonderful journey. I say that because today i went and bought a really great pair of slouch boots. And i will say that at first i was nervous, I usualy buy my cloths on- line. But i was determined to follow my desire. I had a wonderfull experiance and even bought a beaded necklace to match. Will the time ever come that i will not ever be anxious? I do hope so. I even stoped at a salon to get my hair styled but that will come a little later
I just had a sudden flash of knowledge this evening, and felt Ishould share it with the community. I realized why I have just now decided I must “come out of the closet.” I don’t paticularly WANT to pass, per se – what I want is to be accepted wearing what society normally considers to be be female clothing. Becaue I work from home, I am able most of the time, to go around the house wearing whatever makes me feel good about myself. I don’t dress “over the top”; that is, my dress is fairly conservative by any standards, except that I am very obviously male (and happy to remain so, thank you very much) but I wear women’s clothing. I DO have boobs, partly because I have been on Saw Palmetto fro about three years for BPH, but also because I like having them, and have embarked on the Flat to Fem program to develop breasts. (Let’s face it – they are nice toys, and it feels good to play with them) So I can wear a bra (36 B) and fill it without wearing breast forms. But I have no hips and am definately a “flat-ass white boy”, so need padding in that department. So I don a four-pad girdle, and a bra, then whatever I want to wear for the day – usually a conservative top, jeans and a pair of flats, or low heeled boots. I keep that same clothing on when I walk out to get the mail, or if I drive somewhere that I do not have to get out of the car and go inside. But it is a genuine PITA to have to change into drab if I decide I want to go to the grocery store, or the bank, or something of that sort. So I feel I am being forced by society to learn to pass. I wonder how namy others are in my same position?
I did take a fem name – a woman, born in my family in the mid 1800′s, who was a lesbian. So you can call me either David, or Elizabeth. And thank you SO MUCH for having this forum! You can but imagine .how much it has meant to me, to be able to know I am not alone.
Thanks Elizabeth – ‘I don’t want to pass – what I want is to be accepted wearing what society normally considers to be female clothing.’. That’s such a powerful statement and realization, and one I wish more crossdressers would see too. Otherwise the path to passing will be long, hard and fraught with failure. Much better to travel the path to acceptance, which starts with self acceptance.
Hugs,
Vanessa
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