Be Encouraged by What You Learn Crossdressing
At the start of every yoga class we’re urged to set an intention for the practice. The intention is set as something to grasp onto when the practice gets tough. When your muscles are aching and sweat is dripping down your forehead you can come back to your intention for strength and motivation.
Recently I made my second trip to an advanced yoga practice. The first one had been a miserable experience. Overwhelmed and unable to follow along with the instructor I spent most of the class lying on my mat. It had taken a few months before I braved the advanced class again, yet the memory of my failure was still in my mind.
I knew that the class was going to be just as hard, and I would feel overwhelmed, tired and frustrated. So I chose my intention carefully. This practice I was going to focus on one thought:
Be Encouraged By What You Learn
Be encouraged by learning, not by perfection. Even if I try a pose and fail, my muscles become stronger, I learn more about the technique. Even if I’m too tired to stand up, I watch others and learn from them.
Throughout the practice I felt encouraged by my frustrations. I felt encouraged when I couldn’t do a pose. I felt encouraged when my muscles ached and my body quivered. I felt encouraged by what I was learning in every moment.
Crossdress and Be Encouraged
Sometimes crossdressing is like the most difficult yoga practice. You’re frustrated because you can’t seem to get your makeup right. Your clothes don’t fit properly, you struggle to walk in heels and you ladder your stockings. Every step you take as a crossdresser seems manly, clumsy and awkward. You may even have people laugh at you, or stare with intense interest. Your feet might be hurting, sweat ruining your makeup and the teller calls you, ‘sir’.
Despite being excited at the prospect of a wonderful day spent en femme you end your day in despair. Cursing your transgendered misfortune.
But Be Encouraged By What You Learn
It’s easy to get caught in the perfection trap. Always striving for perfect, yet never achieving it. Each failure chipping away at your pride until you barely feel like wearing anything at all. Don’t let your own judgments stop you from crossdressing.
Wear those clothes, do your makeup, put on that wig. Do your feminine best, and be encouraged by what you learn. Even if all you learn is how ill suited that red sweater is for your figure, have fun being awfully gorgeous.
We’re all just practicing our femininity, some of us have been at it a while longer, that’s all.
That’s some good advice and I love the comparison to Yoga
. There is a lot of learning to do and many women still have to practice just to get their look right. We just have to do our best and remember to always have fun with it, regardless of how serious we are about dressing.
I shall never be able to do a Salute to the Sun without thinking of this blog post
(weak) Jokes aside, it’s true. It – cross dressing – is a learning curve. Sometimes quite a steep one, but it’s fun studying!
I find it encouraging that even GGs don’t get it right all the time. All the problems that we have they have also had at one time or another, the only advantage they have is the practice of doing it longer. We haven’t had that luxury, but once we start putting on the dresses and other things, we do get the practice. Keep going.
I love the Yoga comparison. It takes discipline to be a beautiful, confident, resourceful, and comfortable in your skin. Great advice
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Thanks for this post, I was actually using this information tonight (for martial arts as opposed to yoga), I find I wind myself up over aiming for perfection when I should realise its a long slow journey and not even those furthers along it have reached perfection yet
Thanks for all the great comments. I find it amazing how so much of life mirrors the struggle and joys we go through crossdressing. It truly is a blessing to be able to learn so much about life through crossdressing