What Is Your Crossdressing Personality?

Last night my wife and I were watching the episode of Boston Legal where Clarence - the otherwise shy unassuming lawyer who enjoys crossdressing in his spare time - enters a singing competition as his alter ego Clarice. We watched the dramatic transformation - his feminine persona shone radiantly with confidence when she set foot on stage. Singing, dancing and shaking her booty with freewheeling abandon. As if crossdressing psychology had dazzled her mind and switched her personality.

After the show my wife asked me a question which got me thinking about my crossdressing personality. Am I more confident and outgoing when dressed as Vanessa? Does my personality change in ways not easily explained by being more feminine?

What Is My Crossdressing Personality?

When I put on my makeup, heels and hose I become more feminine, more outgoing, more confident, more excitable, less contemplative, less uncertain and more open to being vulnerable. When I’m in male mode I’m constantly worried about what people will think of me. I try to be perfect, to not offend anyone, I shape who I am to fit into the person I believe others want me to be.  When the transvestite inside of me comes out I realize that I’ve probably already offended some people. I don’t mold myself to their expectations, but find myself free to be who I am inside.

It’s a strange balance. I find myself less interested in what others think about me and more interested in them. Even a light dusting of makeup and a feminine mindset will find me chatting with cashiers in the checkout line, willing to share a piece of my day and eager to hear a bit more about theirs.

In truth I like who I am when I’m crossdressed. I think that if there was socially acceptable cross dressing more people would feel comfortable expressing a different side of themselves. We may even find that crossdressing psychology is sometimes the best kind of psychology.

What Is Your Crossdressing Personality?

Does your experience mirror mine? Think about what it’s like when you’re the woman of your dreams. Who do you become when you’re dressed?

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A Crossdressing Lesson from Isis – America’s Next Top Transgender Model

As many of you know Isis is a transgender model competing in America’s next top model. She has already done incredibly well, passing through the first two rounds of the competition, despite being perilously close to being eliminated last week. (For those counting, I may be a week behind thanks to the wonders of Tivo – I’ll try and keep up with the episodes in the future).

Isis has two valuable crossdressing lessons for us from last week’s episode. The first has to do with handling yourself in the face of intolerance. One of the other girls in America’s next top model was clearly uncomfortable with Isis being transgendered. Even pushing her away during an evening when the girl’s where partying and hanging out. I was very impressed with how Isis responded – she didn’t get angry or upset, and pretty much just ignored it. Therein lies a valuable crossdressing lesson for all of us. As crossdressers and the transgendered there will be people in our lives who show us disrespect, disgust and discrimination. In many situations the best answer is to treat the other person with respect, ignore the insult and carry on with your life.

The next valuable lesson was more akin to a crossdresser beauty lesson. When doing modeling shoots, Isis struggled with her face – she would often forget to use the full range of expression, most often ending up in a stony look. One more suited to chopping wood in the forest than modeling in a beauty contest. The lesson for crossdressers and the transgendered is to watch your face! If you notice women they are often smiling. A scowl, frown or stony look is the first sign that something is amiss. Don’t let your face give you away. Smile – it’ll make you feel better, and help you to pass!

Here’s a brief video about Isis, for those who aren’t yet familiar with her.

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3 Transgender Makeup Secrets you won’t learn at home!

A few days ago I did something I’ve never done before - I visited the makeup counter in our local mall for a makeup consultation. For many women getting a feminine makeup makeover is just another relaxing stop on a shopping trip. As many of my readers know, when a man gets a crossdressing makeup consultation different emotions are at play. Fear, anxiety and a good dose of self conscious doubt.

Some of those emotions came into play when I first sat down (in guy mode) and began talking with my consultant. Normally it’s my wife who notices when people are looking at us, as my powers of observation seem limited to what’s directly in front of me. It was a small makeup store, and even I noticed that the whole room got quite and looked at me. Yikes! I might as well have worn a sign over my head:

Crossdresser Makeup Application in Progress

Then ten seconds later everyone went about the business of making themselves look fabulous. Perhaps they made a few comments about the transvestite sitting next to them, but noone said anything to me.

Don’t let the weight of society’s unease scare you off. If you go through with it you can learn, in person  these three

Transgender Makeup Secrets

I’m about to share with you now.

Before I go further it’s worth mentioning that there are many valuable resources on the Internet that can help you become proficient in makeup application - Thanks to regular reader and commenter Lynn who shared videojug.com as a great place to get makeup tips. Amazon is also a great place to find high quality mineral makeup at a reasonable price. This mineral makeup starter kit is perfect for crossdressers - you get two colors of foundation, brushes, finisher and bronzer (perfect for that sunkissed look!) as well as a load of other free goodies.

The first makeup secret I learnt is: Start applying foundation from the outside of your cheeks in. This allows you to control your coverage better, and helps you avoid dumping all your foundation on your cheek bones.

For the longest time I had started both my foundation and bronzer on my cheek bones. Usually I ended up struggling to cover an overly enthusiastic application - after all, I was trying for the “less clown, more well made up women look”.

The next crossdresser makeup tip is: apply bronzer as if you’re drawing a three on your face. Starting at your forehead, paint the brush down the side of your face and in to your cheeks, then curl down again to your jawline. If you’ve already got a well defined and muscular jawline you may not want to accentuate it futher, so just do the top half of the three.

Over the last few months I’ve become partial to lipgloss. It gives me a more fresh, young look, and it’s easier to apply than lipstick. The makeup consultant convinced me to give lipstick another try - especially for the subtle day time look. Her makeup tip is to apply lipstick with a small brush (slightly smaller than your concealer brush). This allows you to put the lipstick on more precisely - avoiding the need for lip liner.

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Makeup mistakes crossdressers can’t afford to make

Take heart fellow crossdressers - genetic girls make mistakes with makeup as well! Sally did a good job listing the 12 makeup mistakes to avoid, and if you read nothing else in this article you should take heed of these words from Jessica Liebeskind, a New York City makeup artist:

“Makeup is a wonderful tool to enhance your look, but used correctly, it should never look fake or like you’re wearing a mask.”

I’ll take a gander through some of the mistakes, and share my thoughts on how these makeup mistakes apply to the crossdressers among us as well.

Wearing too much (or too little) makeup

I don’t know about you girls, but I’ve never been accused of wearing too little makeup I think a major problem crossdressers face is wanting to hide their face behind a mask of makeup. Whether it’s stubble to be covered over, or just an over exuberance with the newly discovered paint jars we need to be careful to tone down our makeup. Remember, you with makeup should be you, only better.

Using the wrong color foundation

I think we’d all like to get this one right. For crossdressers though it can be tough to walk up to a makeup counter and start trying different shades. If you’re nervous of doing this at the makeup counter in a department store try asking your hair stylist. Often hair dressers are trained in cosmetics as well and can help you select the right shade. You might also feel more comfortable going to a beauty school to be color matched, where the atmosphere is decidedly more liberal.

If you’re still weary of these, try buying three shades of foundation, one the color you think matches, and a darker and lighter shade. See which matches best at home but keep the others. Your skin will get lighter during the sunless winter months, and sport a golden bronze tan during summer so you can put those other shades to good use.

Crossdressers not caring for their skin

I can’t say enough about this - Moisturize, moisturize, moisturize! I’ve seen many girls who would pass tremendously well if only they had dipped into the moisturizers more liberally when they were younger. Your face is the first thing most people will see, so treat it with care and love. What about the crossdressers who haven’t taken care of their skin? There is still hope - there are many innovative new facial treatments from dermabrasion to laser resurfacing that will roll back the years. As with any procedure you need to carefully evaluate the risks and speak with a qualified dermatologist.

Crossdresser Party last night and the makeup is still on?

Yikes! Don’t go to bed with your makeup on! Your average crossdresser probably never got good advice from your mother to remove your makeup before going to bed. Now you have no excuse - just do it hon.

Sally has a few more tips to share - good luck, and look fabulous!

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The order to put on makeup - for cross dressers

Crossdressers often struggle with putting on makeup - firstly finding out just what you should be using, and then the right way to put them all together to achieve the sexy, feminine look you’ve always wanted.

I have an order that I put on makeup, which I think makes it easiest to finish up looking gorgeous, and avoid wasting time redoing your makeup. In the interests of science I did some Internet research to find out how other girls apply their makeup.

To start off, one girl stressed that there is no right or wrong way to put on makeup - I wholeheartedly concur, we all have different habits we’ve developed. The below steps are a guideline to help you out, but please don’t change your makeup routine if it’s working well for you!

I generally make sure my face is clean, apply foundation and then work from top to bottom. I find this makes it less likely for me to put my arm in makeup I’ve just applied - it’s always fun to have your clothes dripping with makeup while your face looks like a mini tornado passed through.

Cross Dresser How To Apply Make Up

Step 1: Cleanse, tone and moisturize: Makeup works best on a clean face, so start with your normal cleansing routine to get ready to apply makeup.

Step 2: Set the foundation: Apply concealer under your eyes, and around your nose. Especially important for cross dressers is to apply beard cover over your neck area and face. Follow this up with a base or foundation that closely matches your skin tone. Cover with a light dusting of powder to hold in place. (more)

Step 3: Light up your eyes: Start with eye liner (for me this is the most difficult, so I’ll spend some time struggling on this before starting to put on any other makeup). Then clean up your eye brows, filling in any holes, and finall apply eye shadow and mascara.

Step 4: Let your cheeks bloom: Then a light dusting of blush, as I work my way down to the lips. If you overdo the blush (which I’ve been guilty of), go back and apply some powder to lighten it up.

Step 5: Create Gorgeous Lips: Now bring your lips to a gorgeous shimmer, and you’re almost done.

Step 6: Make sure you haven’t missed anything: Check all over to make sure you’re beautiful!

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And lastly, here’s a great video that shows you how to get a ‘5 minute face’

Feminine beauty starts with your face

Close your eyes for a moment and picture a beautiful, feminine face. Think for a moment - what are some of the characteristics of the feminine face? Perhaps the high arching eyebrows, large soft eyes, and high cheek bones were the first thing you pictured. Think some more - what does every beautiful woman have?

That’s right! Smooth, clear skin! In fact, this is something that many crossdressers overlook. Along with movement and appropriate dress, your face will determine whether you pass or not. While guys may stray to other areas of our feminine anatomy, most woman first see your face. As we all know, it’s harder to pass when there are woman around.

This is a challenge for crossdresser who wants to pass well. Our faces have been roughed up from year of shaving, lack of moisturizer and no sun protection. Even if you’re lucky enough to be born with a feminine face, it will age faster unless, that is, you do something about it!

In just the last few years light therapy has shown tremendous promise for treating acne and revitalizing your skin, dramatically reducing the effects of aging. The NatureBright Clarity Skin Rejuvenation Light is one example that will have you looking fabulous in no time!

If you’re not willing to spring for light therapy, at least consider a good moisturizer (Olay is always a popular brand). The best time to start your moisturizing routine is before you get wrinkles, and even if you’ve missed out on years of good facial care it’s never to late to start!

So ladies, go forth looking beautiful, with smooth clear skin!

The power of a dress

What is it about a dress that captivates us so? When I see a sexy dress in the store my body tingles. I imagine myself wearing the dress, I imagine myself looking as good as the woman I see wearing it.

The perfect swoop of a well tailored dress, revealing just enough to entice, hugging my body like a lover. The femininity of it captures my imagine, and lights a fire in my soul. To be such a delicate creature as to wear this dress. That is divine.

You may ask me why I feel this way. To that I’m not sure. As surely as the need to breathe and express life in this world I need to wear this dress. Is this wrong? Wrong would be to deny who I am.

What does a cure look like?

I’ve been thinking about this a lot, and thought that it bears some clarification.

When I talk about ‘cure’, I’m not talking about SRS (sex reassignment surgery), which in some circles is regarded as a cure – you become who you were meant to be. This presupposes that who you were meant to be is someone of the opposite sex. There are many crossdressers who are happy dressing part time, and for whom SRS would ruin their lives. I also don’t mean ‘never thinks about crossdressing again’, as this is a fairly high bar for a cure, and is surely as inane as asking a dieter to never eat another donut again.

The dictionary defines cure as: ‘a means of healing or restoring to health’

I’d love your comments on this, but as a start, let’s use this as a working definition for cure:

Removing the continuous compulsion to dress in clothes of the opposite sex, and thus the act of dressing that typically follows.