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I see T-People…

By Vanessa Law | Published February 10, 2009 | 4 Comments

T-Dar is an uncanny sixth sense we transgender seem to inherit when we embrace our trans-ness. It allows us to spot a potential sister hunting for a perfect skirt in the sale rack. Or an unusually tall woman from across the parking lot, or the otherwise perfect lady whose hands are just a bit large. With a few quick glances to confirm our suspicions (the adams apple and hands are usually the easiest places to tell), we feel a warm – if unspoken – bonding of community. Perhaps even a spark of inspiration at seeing a sister so confidently walking among us.

Transgender ShoppingStaci writes an enjoyable blog called Femulate and recently she asked ‘Got T-Dar‘? Sharing the pitfalls of a T-Dar false positive, and the inherent inspiration. After all, if the six foot tall blond “woman” is actually a woman, doesn’t that give us more hope that we can maneuver our six foot selves around society without always causing a stir?

Over the last few years I’ve found myself getting more and more sensitive. It seems as if every time I visit Nordstrom Rack there are one or two ladies who get my T-Dar ringing. I’m torn between approaching them out of a sense of community, watching them for some tips, or quickly moving on so as not to draw unnecessary attention to them. After all, I imagine that I wouldn’t enjoy a similar amount of attention. I may perhaps even become a bit more disillusioned with any hope of passing in my momentary lapse, forgetting that the transgendered have this uncanny ability.

I can’t say that there is any one thing that sets off my T-dar. Height is an obvious factor, but I’ve been wrong more often than not relying just on this. I would say that after height, voice and body movement are the things I notice next. It usually starts as a subtle sense that something is amiss, that makes me pay attention.

Have you seen a transgender sister out and about? Have you approached them, or wish you’d approached them? Have you been approached by a sister while out and about?

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Are You Trying To Crossdress With A Beard?

By Vanessa Law | Published November 11, 2008 | 6 Comments

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Let’s face it, men are hairy creatures. We’ve got hair on our faces, our arms, our legs. Hair can grow on our back, our hands and out our ears. EWWW! We’re not naturally made to have soft, smooth skin like the women we attempt to emulate. Yet with all our passion we try – enduring blades, hot wax and jolts of electric current in the name of feminine beauty. Because we know:

Crossdressing With A Beard Is Pretty Hard

I think shaving is the bane of the crossdressers existence and I used to hate shaving with a passion. A close shave would leave my skin sensitive, and sometimes cause break outs. If I was in a hurry and needed to put on makeup soon after I had shaved my skin would feel puffy, and sometimes burn. Needless to say that I was eager to find a solution to my crossdressing hair removal woes.

Options for Crossdresser Hair Removal

Shaving: Since our teenage years most of us have been shaving. It’s the quickest, easiest and cheapest way to get rid of unwanted hair. Yet the more you do it, the more you need to keep doing it – your hair grows back thicker and faster with every shave. For some crossdressers a close shave may only last until the afternoon, and there are few things that will give you away more readily than a five o’clock shadow.

Depilatory Creams: I’ve found that these work wonders for arms and legs, but don’t go near the face with them! I made that mistake once, and boy do I regret it. I had a nice bright red patch that glowed with pain to remind me of my foolish endeavor. If you decide to use Nair, or another of the depilatory creams on your body, try it on a small part of your inner arm first. Some people have a reaction even if it is used on their body. Depilatory creams will keep you smoother for longer, but won’t work on your face and beard.

Waxing: OUCH! You’re braver than I am if you get your body waxed. I would also be wary of waxing your face, as I can see how it will go wrong and leave unsightly scars. I get my eyebrows waxed every month or so, but can’t say I recommend waxing as a good hair removal technique for crossdressers. It’s expensive, painful and needs to be repeated on a regular basis. On the plus side you’re smoother for longer than shaving, and hair will gradually thin out after repeated waxing sessions.

Laser Hair Removal: If you’re willing to live without body hair on a more permanent basis I highly recommend laser hair removal. I’ve had it done myself – it’s painful while you’re undergoing treatment, but I find that I hardly ever need to shave anymore. The downsides are that it can be quite expensive (watch out for places that have prices that seem too good to be true – you want a qualified cosmetologist or esthetician to administer the laser hair removal), and works best if you have dark hair and lighter skin. I can get away with mineral makeup these days (which looks natural, but also feels better than any other makeup I’ve tried).

Electrolysis: This is the gold standard of hair removal. If your serious about being smooth and sexy when crossdressed and willing to go through many painful sessions this is THE way to go. As with laser you want to find someone who is experienced and qualified, as scarring can occur if done incorrectly. The biggest difference between laser hair removal and electrolysis is speed, pain and permanance. Laser is faster and less painful as a larger area is treated at one time, but is only semi-permanent – some hairs may grow back over time. Electrolysis is slower as each individual hair is treated, but once the hair is gone, it’s gone!

So there you have it – you don’t need to go crossdressing with a beard!

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