I love spending a day as a woman out in the world. There’s nothing quite as liberating and uplifting as when I look out with the eyes of the woman inside and dare for a few hours to live the life I long for. When I’m truly in my feminine zone it’s as if the shafts of sunlight themselves are signing a chorus of beautiful music just for me to hear. It’s those same soprano voices that quickly dissipate when I open my mouth to speak, unleashing a discordant clang of the deep unwelcome stranger within. Needless to say this can be quite jarring to the unsuspecting person I’m talking to, and many a time I’ve seen a flighting look of perplexed surprise dance across the face of my conversation companion.
It’s with a longing for the beautiful music of my femininity to continue that I have spent (and am yet to spend) countless hours practicing my feminine voice. For the last few months I’ve been following the Voice Feminization training program created by Kathy Perez. I must admit that all the pitch and resonance practice seems to be paying some small dividends, though I realize the path to a ‘passable female voice’ is still yet long and arduous. I’m learning slowly to not to hesitate before I speak, and not to hold back because I’m afraid my voice will out me.
What do you do to sound more feminine? Are there specific exercises you practice, techniques you use or training courses you’ve taken to hone your transgender voice?
It’s Official – Crossdressers Sit To Pee
In the last crossdressing poll I asked how many crossdressers sit to pee. I was surprised at the overwhelming number of crossdressers who sit to pee at least some of the time. 95% of you lovely ladies share in one of the more inconvenient necessities of life as a woman. It makes me proud that so many of you are willing to sit for a while in their shoes.
It feels so right. Exercising my feminine grace, sharing my soul with a friend or stranger, working on being beautiful. Becoming a woman seems like the worthiest outcome of my efforts, and whenever I think about the necessary practice and perfection to get there it lights a smile inside my soul.
Yet for all my strong desires to be a woman, I go to work on Monday without a trace of the girl within me. I do not need to suffer the sacrifice so many transsexuals make when they transition. And I wonder, is my desire for womanhood just a fantasy that amuses me in my time away from real life?
My lovely wife has been wonderfully supportive. She’s shown more support than I dreamt I would receive. Yet, she loves me for the man I am, and I know that going further down the path to womanhood would mean that I lose the most precious thing in the world to me – the relationship I have with my wife.
Somehow, it feels false for me to split my time between being a man and a woman. It feels more whole to be a man on the journey to womanhood. That even though it is slow, each step is deliberate with a well known end goal. To set such a definitive direction would mean so many things, not least of which are many uncomfortable conversations with those I love.
Don’t misunderstand my confusion – I have come to terms with being transgender – I love and accept that part of myself, along with the many other talents and gifts God has blessed me with. Yet I still struggle with how to express it in a fulfilling way. Unless I have a clear path before me, I resist the necessary practice in the feminine ways that would take me closer to being a woman. If being transgender is part time, more of a ‘hobby’ than a lifestyle for me, how can I be fulfilled?
Close your eyes for a moment and picture a beautiful, feminine face. Think for a moment – what are some of the characteristics of the feminine face? Perhaps the high arching eyebrows, large soft eyes, and high cheek bones were the first thing you pictured. Think some more – what does every beautiful woman have?
That’s right! Smooth, clear skin! In fact, this is something that many crossdressers overlook. Along with movement and appropriate dress, your face will determine whether you pass or not. While guys may stray to other areas of our feminine anatomy, most woman first see your face. As we all know, it’s harder to pass when there are woman around.
This is a challenge for crossdresser who wants to pass well. Our faces have been roughed up from year of shaving, lack of moisturizer and no sun protection. Even if you’re lucky enough to be born with a feminine face, it will age faster unless, that is, you do something about it!
In just the last few years light therapy has shown tremendous promise for treating acne and revitalizing your skin, dramatically reducing the effects of aging. The NatureBright Clarity Skin Rejuvenation Light is one example that will have you looking fabulous in no time!
If you’re not willing to spring for light therapy, at least consider a good moisturizer (Olay is always a popular brand). The best time to start your moisturizing routine is before you get wrinkles, and even if you’ve missed out on years of good facial care it’s never to late to start!
So ladies, go forth looking beautiful, with smooth clear skin!
Lucille provides some great tips for crossdressers and transgendered people looking to increase their breast size. You can find out more at her website flat2fem
Before you spend lots of money on pills and lotions you should take a look at her website. Many of the tips allow you to boost your bustline using over the counter herbal medicines and exercise.