A few weeks ago I wrote an article about crossdressing and ladies restrooms. As you may know, opponents of laws protecting gender identity and expression use the terrible threat of “men dressing up as woman to enter the ladies restroom and assault women” as a rallying cry. I can assure you that
Most cross-dressers just want to use the bathroom
Autumn recently posted a thoughtful article about gender expression [Ed: unfortunately this post is no longer available] as it relates to the fear of men using the ladies restroom. It is clear that over the last few centuries straight white males have enjoyed many privileges. As if somehow they were proto-humans, non-gay Caucasian men enjoy more job opportunities, better wages, less discrimination and favorable media coverage.
With all that privilege, though, women do enjoy at least one of their own in this day and age. As Autumn astutely observes – Women are not perceived to be predators.
I think the root of concern about protecting gender expression is intolerance – “you’re not like me”-ism. Yet this is far more difficult to sell to the public – we’re enlightened enough these days that hate and bigotry aren’t good ways of winning the majority to your cause. It is far easier to inflame the already existing fears that “men are predators” as a tactic to prevent free gender expression.
You don’t even need to look hard to come up with a credible sounding case. After all, if the men of God are caught molesting altar boys, surely the transgedered can’t be far behind?
I don’t have a solution for this deep seated fear. Perhaps if we spent more time cherishing all that is good in this world, in our society, we would embrace the unknown rather than running from it.
In that spirit, a dose of good news this morning. The UK has begun a program called
Living Libraries
Rather than a book, people can “borrow a stereotype”, and spend 30 mins with someone who is Muslim or gay or transgendered. The idea is that the best way to break down prejudice is to get to know someone. You can find some more details on transgendered in the living library and a good article here [Ed: unfortunately these articles are no longer available]. If you’re in the UK, I encourage you to borrow someone who you may not understand and spend some time listening.
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I especially like your line about women not being percieved as pretators. That is so true. How often does a women beat a man and it is only after she was beaten up to start the problem. The women than had to catch the man in a weak moment for physial revenge as the men are physically so much stronger. Ive seen a few exceptions to this but very few. At least we have that going for us.
That’s not always true because one of my friends’ girlfriend attacked him with a fork and stabbed him five times in the arms and legs he wanted to press charges But being a male the court laughed at him and dismissed the filings its the prudes and the government that’s prejudice.
HI, I do agree that women really are given tremendous lattitude in their physical expressions.. If angry, they may hit or attack as much as they “fee" is appropriate.. They are allowed to physically express their emotions at will, virtually with impunity.. Men who react emotionally are demonized and are at legal risk.. probably only due to the public perception that they are capable of greater harm.. I see this attitude from both genders, but probably more from women, and the body of law.. think about it !!
I especially like your line about women not being percieved as pretators. That is so true. How often does a women beat a man and it is only after she was beaten up to start the problem. The women than had to catch the man in a weak moment for physial revenge as the men are physically so much stronger. Ive seen a few exceptions to this but very few. At least we have that going for us.
That’s not always true because one of my friends’ girlfriend attacked him with a fork and stabbed him five times in the arms and legs he wanted to press charges But being a male the court laughed at him and dismissed the filings its the prudes and the government that’s prejudice.
That is a wonder way of saying it,,Its a shift in mind set. At first I was so embarrased to go out dressed until I felt comfortible in who I was than it didnt matter so much anymore.
I especially like your line about women not being percieved as pretators. That is so true. How often does a women beat a man and it is only after she was beaten up to start the problem. The women than had to catch the man in a weak moment for physial revenge as the men are physically so much stronger. Ive seen a few exceptions to this but very few. At least we have that going for us.