أنا مؤخّرا قرأت [أمي] نور كتاب عاديّة, [أس ولّ س] [هلن] [بود] كتاب زوجي [بتّي]. (وجدت ي [كروسّدرسّينغ] [بووك رفيو] هنا). [أبرت فروم] [ألّ ث] أخرى معلومة عظيمة في هذا كتب, كان واحدة موضوع الى حدّ بعيد جلّيّة. إزدراء عامّة للسياسات ومبادئ من [تري-سّ].
يتمّ كلّ [ترنسجندر] عرفت حول [تري-سّ]?
يصفبنفسي ل أنّ من أنت الذي لا يعرف, [تري-سّ] على موقعتهم بما أنّ:
"تربويّة, اجتماعيّة ودعم مجموعة ل [كروسّدرسّرس] مشته للآخر, شريكاتهم, الأزواج من يزوّج [كروسّدرسّرس] وأسراتهم. نحن نصدق أنّ باركت نحن مع سطيح إضافيّة إلى شخصياتنا. إن نحن نقبل نا [كروسّجندرد] جانب, ويستكشف هو, نحن سيجد يوسّع من الشخصية كاملة, أيّ يستطيع كنت جدّا أنجزت. نحن نرتدي في تأهيل, [رثر ثن] في سخرية, من أنوثة."
ال [تري-سّ] فلسفة يستطيع كنت عبّر عن في اللفظة ليفة:
- [ف] - يشبع شخصية تعبير في على حدّ سواء ه مذكّر وه مظاهر أنثويّة. نحن لا نتمنّى أن يدمّر ذكورتنا, غير أنّ أن يلطّف مظاهره [هرشر], وكلّ نحن يستطيع كنت.
- [إي] - دمج من ذكورة وأنوثة أن يخلق شخص سعيدة كاملة.
- [ب] - ميزان بين ذكورة وأنوثة.
- [إ] - تربية أو [كروسّدرسّرس] وأسراتهم نحو [سلف-كّبتنس]; تربية المجتمعة نحو يقبل [كروسّدرسّينغ] الناس.
- [ر] - [رلأيشنشيب-بويلدينغ] في السياق من [كروسّدرسّينغ].
هكذا ماذا يكون المشكلة مع [تري-سّ]?
![جيّدة [كروسّدرسّينغ] كتاب](http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/41QWV0VGZ4L._SL160_.jpg)
[هلن] يبدو يؤخذ [أبك] بالمقصوريّة وعدم تحمّل من [تري-سّ]. يدلّ [إين برتيكلر] إلى ميثاقهم ضيّقة من يموّن إلى [كروسّدرسّرس] مشته للآخر. [تري-سّ] يستثني جنوسيّات و [بيسإكسولس]. هم أيضا يثبّطون مشاركة بأخرى في ال [ترنسجندر] جماعة, [إين برتيكلر] [ترنسّإكسولس], الذي يكون لا يمنح يشبع عضوية حقوق.
أنا أفكّر أكثر من يرى المقصوريّة, [هلن] المبادئ من [تري-سّ] ك يحتوي [هلف-تروثس]. [إين برتيكلر] الإنكار متحمّسة أنّ يتلقّى [كروسّ-درسّينغ] عنصر جنسيّة. بما أنّ أنت قد رأيتني شاركت في موقعات أخيرة فوق لما رجال [كروسّدرسّ], والتغذية مرتدّة أنت زوّدت في ال متابعة إلى لما رجال [كروسّ-درسّ], [كروسّ-درسّينغ] يستطيع لا يكون وصفت ك "[نون-س]![[كروسّ-درسّينغ] و [ترنسجندر] كتاب](http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/41GV1CTXZPL._SL160_.jpg)
[إإكسول]" فائدة ل كثير رجال. [هلن] يسحب استنتاجات ممتعة حول لما [شس] [تري-سّ] بعيدا من الطبيعة جنسيّة من [كروسّ-درسّينغ]. هو استطاع كنت الرغبة ل [كروسّدرسّينغ] رجال أن يكون لاحظت بما أنّ خلاف ذلك معدل, وأنّ المحظورة من بد جنسيّة بغيضة إلى ك نموذجيّة "مسيحية, جمهوريّة أسرة رجل الذي يحدث إلى لباس ثياب على النهاية أسبوع".
I find the notion of a conservative cross-dresser somewhat amusing though - if anything my transgendered nature has forced me to become more tolerant and accepting of the differences in others.
Many of these thoughts are echo’d by Amy in her book Normal.
Tri-ESS has helped thousands of cross-dressers
For all it’s failings, Tri-ESS has helped tens of thousands of cross dressers find peace and acceptance. It has given men a framework for talking about their transgendered nature with their wives and wives to be and shone a light of understanding where before there was only the darkness of prejudice.
While I am no longer a member of Tri-ESS, it has helped me immensely in my self esteem, self discovery and relationship with my wife. The people I’ve met at Tri-ESS have been among the most loving, caring and supportive. As an anecdote, one of the founders of our local chapter drove 200 miles to meet with me over lunch to discuss cross-dressing and introduce me to Tri-ESS. This is in sharp contrast to my pastor at that time, who told me “crossdressing is a sin”, pointed me at this web page, told me he “loved me” and then never contacted me again. I still occasionally hear from my sisters in Tri-ESS, yet when I ran into my former pastor a few months ago he didn’t even know who I was.
Tri-ESS gave me the tools and information to communicate with my wife. The advice to tell my wife before we got married is a blessing I am eternally thankful for. While the environment is very narrowly focused, I am sure my wife would have felt a great deal of discomfort attending meetings where sex reassignment surgery was openly discussed as an option. By limiting the meetings to deal with “one social taboo” at a time,Tri-ESS prevented my wife from being totally and completely overwhelmed. (She was still overwhelmed - as any spouse would be - just not totally and completely 
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Transgendered or Cross-dresser?
Personally I don’t think I fit into the narrow category defined by Tri-ESS. I think I’m more to the middle of the transgender spectrum. I am very grateful to them. Anyone who is lonely, uncertain and tormented by their crossdressing -? I strongly encourage you to join Tri-ESS. You’ll find acceptance, love and support. If you find there’s more for you than just wearing a dress or makeup, find other transgendered sisters to share your experience with as well.
Tags: crossdresser politics, Crossdresser Support, transgender politics, Tri-Ess
November 9th, 2008 at 11:05 am
It hurts me to read your statements concerning Tri-Ess and how it is supposedly “exclusive”. I, as many transgendered, am married. When I came out to my spouse we talked and read and learned and one of the places we chose to go was to Tri-Ess. It provides us with what WE need. It gives me a place which has helped me grow as a woman and which has helped my spouse understand that I am not a freak, nor am I alone in my specialness. It gives her a place to go with me and not feel overwhelmed by the broad spectrum of T-life.
Tri-Ess does not exclude others, rather it provides a safe haven for the needs of a particular segment of our society. There are many groups that are “open” and welcome any…or so they say. I use caution here as I have attended some of those meetings and felt “excluded” since I was not transitioning. Seems as though there is bias even within our own kind…and yes, I view us all as one kind, whether we are TV, CD, TG or TS. We all strive to be accepted in one form or another and to be free of the bias society places on those that are different.
Tri-Ess is more a niche group than an exclusive club. There are many more places for the gay or bisexual transgendered than there are for those of us who are hetero and either dating or married. Please do not be confused by this and mar the many good things Tri-Ess does for the community.
Were it not for Tri-Ess I would still be in the closet. Thanks to them my spouse has found that I am not that different, she welcomes me, aides me, and goes everywhere with me. Thanks to them I have gained the confidence to let the rest of the world know Cheryl and proudly venture anywhere and everywhere.
November 10th, 2008 at 11:32 pm
Hi Cheryl, thanks for your comment - I’m happy that Tri-Ess was able to help you and your wife. I agree that they have done a lot of good for a lot of people (myself and my wife included).
I think you’re right that the broad spectrum of transgender life is, well, broad, and sometimes intimidating to those on their first journey of discovery. I know for sure I would not have taken my wife to one of those meetings (I think she’d still be freaking out about it)
I agree that Tri-Ess serves a specific need. I think the part I’m challenged with is the desire to portray crossdressing as different, but still part of the acceptable (i.e. not gay) lifestyle. This seems somewhat hypocritical.