Crossdressing Success Story – An unusual success story

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Today’s crossdressing success story is a heart warming story of a lady that finds an unusual twist on the road while she’s out and about as her femme self. There’s something about the peace of being who you are that changes everything. If you’d like to submit your story to be featured on Crossdresser Heaven, please send 500-700 words of your own sincere awakening – whether large or small – to If you’re comfortable sharing pictures, that would inspire others.

An usual success story

An unusual crossdressing success story

An unusual crossdressing success story

My story is quite typical of a cross dresser in some respects but then goes off on a tangent. I first fully cross dressed in 1990 and was as afraid and paranoid as they come to step out in public but I did it with the help of Virginia Prince herself. Shirley was born when I saw the woman in the mirror. She was me and I had to give her a name. I went out as Shirley once or twice a month from then until 1997 when suddenly it wasn’t good enough anymore. I wanted to be a real woman as in genetically complete but that isn’t currently possible so I withdrew resigned to my fate in deep depression. I locked Shirley away for 13 years but in 2010 a change came. My spirit started to lift for what reason I still don’t know but I started to feel more and more girly and by May of 2011 I got Shirley together and she was free again. This time however it was with a different attitude. I no longer cared if I passed or not or if anyone liked it or not. I am to this day defiant. Just try and stop me and I’ll make you pay.

So I started going out as Shirley again once or twice a month but suddenly there came a day I’ve feared for 22 years. I was out as Shirley 6 weeks ago and felt so comfortable as a woman and happy as my natural self and so warmly accepted by everyone suddenly I didn’t want to go back to being Gordon the actor, the clown, so sad, miserable and depressed on masculine island. I’m happy for you boys here having a ball and I hate to leave in what might seem like an undignified rush but that person you see out on the water madly rowing away to the opposite shore is me.

Something magic has happened contrary to what most would expect. I go out as my very friendly, upbeat, humorous loving self and everybody loves me back whether they read me or not and is happy to see me as Shirley. Is it just my personal charm or is it just that no cares anymore? I think it’s a combination of both but mostly my personal charm. I think I could sell bikinis to Eskimos and charm the socks off almost anyone. It works for me and I love it. I can either build my own computer business or go back into computer programming. I’m still thinking about it.

So I’m successfully transgendered and living like or as a woman could and probably will the rest of my life. I am so happy and comfortable in the feminine role my life would’ve been better if I had done it long ago. I was miserable as a man.

So I’ve pulled a Virginia Prince. I’m living as a woman but will not transition like a transsexual. I suppose that makes me a pretty rare bird but it doesn’t really matter in a world where everyone is absolutely unique.

That’s my success story. It was supposed to be impossible or at least very impractical but here I am living my dream. Freedom is priceless.

Shirley xoxo


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Vanessa Law is a women enjoying the freedom to be who she is every moment of her life!

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  1. Antome says:

    Sorry, i mean very nice, and interesting story, but, not to cathegorize, this is more transexualism and feeling or even being a woman, not crossdressing and feeling outside gender boundaries or more girly from time to time.
    You are not transitioning, but are you operated through surgery?

    • Shirley Corning says:

      Hi Antome. If I understand what you’re saying correctly I can see why you might think I’m a transsexual but really I’m not. I have not undergone sexual reassignment surgery (SRS) and am unwilling to do so. For me SRS would be a pointless waste. I will keep the organs I was born with. I have no plans to get hormone replacement therapy (HRT). The feminizing effects of HRT would be nice but it also causes chemical castration and again I am unwilling to pay that price. I am transgendered, not transsexual, and there is a big difference. So yes I live as a woman and I’m very comfortable in the feminine role. It comes quite naturally to me but should not be confused with sexual orientation or actual sexual behavior. I’ve only been in relationships with women, never men, and that’s the way it’s going to stay. The extent to which a cross dresser feels feminine varies widely and I’ve personally met more than 300 of them. I met a cross dresser once who was nicely dressed from head to toe and he told me, “I don’t feel feminine.” I had no reason to doubt his word but it certainly made me wonder why he bothered to get dressed up if he had no interest in feminine expression. The difference between him, transsexuals and everyone in between is today considered a gender spectrum made up of infinite points. More appropriately in this regard I’d call it a transgendered spectrum. We can try to categorize people many different ways but the bottom line is human beings are not that simple.

      According to the best statistics I’ve gathered cross dressers are about one out of a hundred men and transsexuals may be about one out of 10,000 but those who choose to live as women but do not transition like a transsexual are apparently very rare indeed and I happen to be one of them.

      Good luck you guys. lol

      • Antome says:

        I have to say I did all people expression, from clothing to sexuality, crossdressing as well as transgenders etc, and I can’t understand how some people want to dictate normality and are so concerned for the “wandering” of customs. Probably they have no more compass of their own and need to stick to trivial and superficial “certainties” and cathegories.
        But sorry I meant transgender, not transexuals and now I’m seeing I wrongly put it under “transsexualism” assuming it was a form of it, when you said “So I’m successfully transgendered and living like or as a woman could and probably will the rest of my life.”. I always assumed transgender was a lighter form of transsexualism, shortly before, which involved Hrt.
        Your experience is wonderful, though mine is different, I am a man, but I don’t wanna feel miserable and restrained in my personality and style as one, I despise gender boundaries, so I want to integrate part of what’s commonly known as female clothes or accessories, in my style, especially the dark, gothic or rock/punk ones and obviously the usual dark fingernail polish and eye makeup :). But I mostly wanna make them part of my male personality and image, which is a bit outside gender roles. Some called manly men see it as cowardly opt out the duties of being a man and substantially being weak, but first this is like saying women are weak, second I wanna be strong as a person, only then as a man, third it has no bearing with strength, rather with self expression, which can be a strength in itself, if said expression is still a bit impopular.
        If I use makeup, or say goth black lace bordered tops is not for fetish (but if one has some is cool and ok to me) but just because I like the cloth and the look of it, I like to pull it off, for me first, then to those who could appreciate, same for fishnet gloves, to take care of me. I could feel it as feminine or masculine or a synth of the two, depending on the mood. The differences are indeed curious, Mycdlife for instance almost switches between a female and male self if I understood right, retaining part of it when in male mode.
        It’s partly trying to groom oneself to look nice as a boy in a similar way as a woman would, because it’s part of the image and style spectrum, there are many good example of it not only among the rockstars but also all over youtube. Obviously one needs to adapt it to his particular case.

      • Antome says:

        errata corrige. I meant “I dig”

  2. Joan says:

    que maravilla, que te haigas decidido, yo tambien e salido muchas veces a pasear como una chica normal, detesto que las chicas ahora solo quieren usar pantalones tallados, me encantan las faldas, cuando hago ejercsio la mayor parte es para entonar mis piernas y muslos, y prefiero las faldas para mostrar estos atributos, tengo un busto bastante pronunciado para un hombre, y con el sosten adecuado pasa a ser un busto muy elegante de talla C, que impacta en un vestido sin mangas.. un beso Joan

    • Shirley Corning says:

      Muy buena Joan. Usted va muchacha. Muéstrales cómo se hace. Amo las faldas y vestidos también. A muchas mujeres les gustaría tener las piernas tan suave y hermosa como la mía. Ama lo que eres y hacer alarde de ella. Voy donde quiero ocasiones donde otros temen ir y adivina qué. Todo el mundo me ama y yo también me amas. Yo vivo ahora en las palabras de Henry Ford: “Tanto si piensas que puedes o piensas que no puedes tienes razón!” Creo que puedo y debo hacer. Usted recibe un fuerte abrazo Joan. Gracias por tu comentario.

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