For the last few weeks it seems as though the only crossdressing related activity I’ve engaged in is moving Crossdresser Heaven to a new server (phew!). I haven’t had much time to wear womens clothes, let alone write any new articles. When I sat down the other day to write another article I realized just how much I miss writing. And how much I enjoy it.
I had been letting the busy-ness of life get in the way of something I love doing. Even though I could probably have made some time, I found I was much better at making excuses - I’m too tired, I’m not inspired, nothing has happened this week worth writing about. On and on the excuses came. I was sabotaging my own enjoyment.
As I was thinking about this, I realized that we all do this in regards to crossdressing as well. My advice to you is to do what you love…
Even if it’s wearing womens clothes!
We seem to find even more reasons not to crossdress. There are the all too common trio of guilt, shame and unintentional discovery. Once I moved past those, I encountered such debilitating excuses as "I feel fat" (sheesh - woman’s plus size clothing is out there if that’s really a problem). Then another favorite of mine "It’s too much work for one day / weekend". One would think wearing woman’s clothing was a chore reserved for … well … women.
As I’m listing out all these excuses I forget how much I enjoy it. I’ve sacrificed what I love for a plethora of lousy excuses.
So girls, get out there and have some fun! Don’t stop yourself from enjoying this gift you’ve been giving!
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P.S. If you are struggling to come to terms with your desire to crossdress, I highly recommend Helen Boyd’s book - My Husband Betty. It’s one of the best books I’ve read yet on crossdressing and the transgender experience.
Tags: ladies fashion, tall women's clothing, transgender, wear woman's clothes, wearing womens clothes, woman plus size clothing
September 7th, 2008 at 9:23 pm
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September 12th, 2008 at 1:22 pm
> enjoying this gift
It may not feel like it at the time, but I think it [being TG] is a gift. As you wrote your last line a few memories drifted into view.
There was a spoof called ‘Trannyspotting’ which contained the line: ‘I chose something else.’ Laughter and choice aside, it rings true. We are different from your typical man (not better; just different) and that makes our journey through life start on a different track.
I’m also reminded of an interview with a lady who ran a dressing service. She said that having seen her clients go from being wound up to relaxed, she wished she had something like cross-dressing that would let her unwind so quickly.
Bright sides eh?
ps: I’m loving the new style for the blog!
September 17th, 2008 at 10:02 pm
Thanks Lynn!
It strikes me how important our differences are - not that we’re better or worse, but different. Celebrating our differences is such a beautiful thing!
Hehe, I can imagine, there are few things that make me more relaxed than dressing. I wear makeup most days (very subtle though), and putting it on in the morning before I go out is a wonderfully relaxing way to start the day