This week Ellen shares a beautiful story about accepting her crossdressing, and the wonderful friends that she has made along her journey. Thank you dear, for sharing the encouragement you’ve gained on your journey.
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Meet Ellen
I have been this way likely since birth. I have distinct memories since I was only four years old. I have followed the same trail as countless other TG’s have. The pleasure, the purgings, the abstinence until it hurts, and the comforts of returning to the dressing. I have finally disposed of all of the acts of denial and I have finally accepted no only myself, but more importantly that there isn’t that much wrong with me to be ashamed of. Part of my story?
Ellen’s Crossdressing Success Story
Ellen accepts herself and steps out in style
I lived through all of the same issues most of us have, thay are countlessly cataloged elsewhere. I am currently 57 years old and I have been relentlessly been searching for the kindred souls that could make my life complete. Can you imagine a lifetime without the ability to be actully free with any conversation? Especially about your own Transgenderism.
After making contacts through various “support Groups”, I made a pact with my wife to seek qualified therapy. This I did. I did not take long to realize that what I was wasn’t “wrong”, just not for everyone, if I really didn’t already realize that!
The single most important thing I did learn was that isolation is a very bad word. That is when a plan was developed to end it, once and for all. The plan, get out and find the right people who can matter.
Although it sound quite simple, where do you look? Through all of my searching and posting, I fell upon a site that many of us know, URNA. After a while of entertaining some internet friends, looking for some more local girls to talk with, I was invited to join a group central to the Albany NY area. Note, this is quite a distance from home, 140 miles. My work gets me there a couple of times every month so I was finally able to attend some meet n greets. I met some nice girls but not the ones I could be truely comfortable with, I was an outsider, some of you will know what I mean.
I persevered and attended one particular meeting month after month and continued to reach out. I kinda now feel like the treasure hunter who found a sunken galleon. I met probably three friends there , people I believe I could call friends, and subsequently almost by accident I met a few more, one turns out to be a UNRA friend who lives in Isreal part of the year, I think she will be my forever closest one. All of these “new” friends treat me like the no one ever has. I can finally be me. What a feeling. Actually, as I write this I am planning my next visit the day after tomorrow. My message: “Friends are the sugar that makes life so sweet”
An Update on 11/14/2009…
It has been a few months since I wrote about my life and I would like to mentiun that I now have three very dear friends, ones I mentioned earlier. I feel so close to them at this time that it is worth shouting that good things can come if one looks carefully and is patient. Rushing into a friendship will likely cause more pain than joy. It takes time and listening to gain trust and acceptance. I am truly happier than at anytime in my life, I expect it to continue for sometime.
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Vanessa is a happily married 30 year old transgendered woman from Seattle. It's been a long road to acceptance for her, despite the fact that she has been crossdressing for more than 25 years. Sometimes, when she looks in the mirror she longs to see the girl that lives
within her. 
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Ellen please email me we have so much in common. What a great story.I have found a great friend also who is a post op girl. She is absolutely stunning. We give inspiration to each other and no topic is off limits.We have such great times together. We go cloths shopping and just be ourselves. Through this experience I have directly helped another girl who didnt have a friend to talk to and needed some direction and advice. It is very difficult to be alone with no one to talk with about what you feel inside. This is what Ellens story said to me.Thank you Ellen.
Dear Leslee, I never expected my story to ever be posted. As a matter of fact, I was a little depressed and feeling blue when I wrote it. I was feeling lonely.
I have a short addition that I hope Vanessa adds regarding the value I hold for my few true friends.
DO we have anything in common? I truly imagine so. I can speak of and discuss things that I cannot to any others.
My best friends are ejther pre-op’s or non-op. It doesn’t matter. I will always be pre-op mself
Doesn’t it make you feel so good to help another girl?
We need to talk.
Ellen
I just updated the post Ellen. FWIW, I thought your story was inspirational and heart warming – if you were lonely, you fooled me
Leslee, I thought you might have gotten my e-mail address, but of course not! I don’t have yours, so I will risk offering mine to you- prettyellen38@yahoo.com
If I start to get a lot of junk from this, I will need to change it. This is for Leslee’s eye only!
Ellen
> I can finally be me. What a feeling
I don’t think you can put a price on that. Thanks for sharing your story.
Amen to that! There is nothing as freeing and beautiful.
Dear Ellen and Leslea
Wanted to say thanks to both of you Ellen seen and being close to your age, i think i can understand some of your thoughts. i know for me back when i started was before the advent of the Internet. i had no other resources or groups, other than a Domina that liked cross dressing and took me way beyond the underwear state. When i started going to new church and had finished school so had time for dating, stopped dressing because convinced myself it was wrong.
Fast forward to now and all the info on Internet, came to realize this is part of me. i started dressing again, while i was trying to come up with how to tell my wife, she found my journal on PC. Yes if you also follow CDLife, this is one of Dear Gabi current articles. i really appreciate all that have, are and will be sharing their stories. They are so helpful to the ones either watching but not talking, pre Internet and have a whole new thing to learn and accept.
Like Ellen i have started looking for support groups, etc in the Central Ohio area. Hopefully i can find some good groups like the both of you. Nice to see others help and outreaching to each other. If you are sitting out there and reading form the closet(nothing wrong with that) find a support group system or friends, it helps and makes it more fun. BIG THANKS to Vanessa for not only the website but her personal tidbits when she shares with those that ask. i found her first on twitter and followed to here and started finding other sites. All a wealth of information related to all parts of cross dressing TS and TG. ETC. For now and me it is only dressing but when we aren’t disagreeing about my wife keeps talking about the whole way being the only reason to cross dress. i hadn’t even thought about till she brought it up. Oh boy.
Thanks to all for your sharing advise, and helping others you are wonderful people.
thanks georgette