It is very exhilarating to get out and do what you are comfortable with. As a first step, it is always the hardest one, but you have actually made the goal that you’ve set out to do.

For a few years I lived as a woman, went to work as a woman and went out as a woman. The first time I ever went out, I was full of anxiety and highly nervous. Some friends and I went to a TG Club in San Antonio, TX where they had drag shows. It made me feel much more at ease. After that, I started going out other places too… Straight clubs, bars, shopping (both clothing and grocery), and many other places. Each time you go out, you build your confidence in yourself.

There is one thing to be wary of though, and all of us need to be alert and aware of what is happening around us, those are the people who get angry and violent. Granted, we are still “male”. It does give us a bit of an upperhand to situations. Confidence in these types of situations helps.

You need to also prepare yourself for those who wish to make butts of themselves and point you out. Handle it in a polite way, and even sometimes others will step in, but never count on it. BE ON YOUR TOES.

I have been followed, poked in appropriately at places, breasts grabbed, fondled without my consent and other things. Fortunately, I am confident and used my head in each situation. I’ve had bartenders escort people out of the place, happen to find a police officer once when I was being followed.

I’m not telling you this to scare people, I am telling you this as you need to be VERY aware so you keep yourself safe.

Never drink to the point you are drunk, never wear heels that are too high that you will hurt yourself and always, always go with people you know.

Confidence is one thing, protecting yourself is the utmost priority when you go out.

Sorry if I got of track, I’ve just heard too many horror stories that I have become very cautious and I honestly do not want to see anyone get hurt or worse yet, get killed because of who they are and the lack of understanding by some.