What a wonderful and important question. We all worry about hour our actions and lifestyles will affect our children. I was worried about the exact same thing at one time in my life and will share with you the advice I received from my psychologist.

First your children will sense the emotions you and your husband feel about his dressing, so the two of you need to be completely honest with each other about how those feelings and how it effects you both of your lives emotionally. Your level of acceptance will be projected out onto your children, if you treat it as natural so will they.

The important part throughout the process it to preach diversity from an early age. Unfortunately from preschool on they will be forced to interact with peers who will project the beliefs and mores of their parents. They will be subjected to all sorts of unfortunate biases including many racial, sexual, and religious biases. You have to remember these innocent children learned these biases from their parents. Many of these biases were deeply ingrained into their sub-consciousness minds before they were even three and without a major catalyst will be there for life.

You cant control the way other people raise their children but you can yours. It is my belief that by introducing diversity into their lives from the onset including gender your children will be more loving and accepting of others and will live much happier lives.

But please don’t take my opinion as fact, please, please, please, contact a professional who specializes in children and seek out their advice. I would never want to pass myself off as a professional.

She helped pick out my wig and clothes, taught me how to do my makeup, taught me how to walk, sit and so on like a proper lady. She encouraged me to get dressed up. She also liked playing BDSM games with me dressed .

Sounds like heaven doesn’t it?

But time passed and at some point it dawned on her that my dressing was not just a passing fantasy, not the “flavor of the month” she thought it was. That’s when it started to scare her and she pulled away, feeling like she had created a monster. Eventually she would have nothing to do with it at all and she viewed anything I did without her as a betrayal.

This has been going on for FIFTEEN YEARS

I think some women are *very flippant* when it comes stuff like cross-dressing and bdsm. Sure they think it’s “hot” because it’s new and different, an erotic novelty. It may even bolster their image of themselves as a “sexual outlaw” (as it did with my wife). But what happens when the novelty wears off?

I see two possibilities. Either the woman will dump you or if she loves you she might stay with you and *tolerate* your xdressing. But for most women like my wife, it will be very hard on them to do so and cause them a lot of pain and they will ultimately wish you to stop.

If you want to see what I’m talking about, subscribe to the CDSO mailing list.

http://www.tri-ess.org/spice/CDSO/CDSO.htm

This is a support group for wives of cross-dressers. My wife belonged for a time several years back and we would read the posts together. We left the group because we became overwhelmed with the complete lack of hope and pain displayed by these women over their husbands xdressing. I read the posts too and it was absolutely heartbreaking to hear how much pain and torment these men had put their wives through.

Sure there are women who will embrace cross-dressing long term, I see their posts here. But what are we talking about? .1% of the female population? You will be struck by lightning, bit by a shark, AND survive a plane crash before you EVER meet anyone like that.

So I guess if all you want to do is date, then you can probably find multiple women who will find this aspect of you *hot*. But if you are looking for a life partner, that person needs to understand the *permanence* of this piece of you; that it is a natural expression of the psycho-dynamics of your personality and will be embraced by both of you until death do you part.

If I could go back knowing what I know now, I should have had this kind of talk with my wife when we were 25. Unfortunately I can find no evidence that I wouldn’t *still be single* if I had.

PS
I want to be clear I am not angry with womankind in general or my wife for not accepting this side of me because…

If the shoe were on the other foot and my wife wanted to dress as a man and treat me like her gay partner…I would find it repulsive and there is NO WAY I would put up with it.