Here is a Blast from the past from our site owner, Vanessa. Published originally on March 3, 2008
The first time a man puts on a dress he looks like – a man in a dress. In our minds we picture ourselves as dainty, feminine and gorgeous, but we’re actually a man caught wearing girl’s clothes. Looking good as a woman is a hard thing to do – just ask any lady who has spent an hour doing her hair and makeup!
If you’re just looking for some quick tips on what to wear the first time you cross dress then my previous article is the right place for you to start. If you want to look fabulous, and pass as a genetic woman – then read on!
There are seven aspects to looking great and passing as a genetic woman every time:
- Wearing clothes that make you look good
- Making sure your curves are in the right places
- Feminine body movement
- Hairstyle that feminizes your face
- Natural makeup
- A feminine voice
- Loving who you are as a woman
Do we want to look like men wearing dresses?
NO! If you’re like me, the image you hold of yourself is as a beautiful movie star, not a guy in drag. The truth is that we can all look and feel beautiful – but it takes some work. Over the next few weeks I’m going to share with you some of the secrets to looking like the woman you see inside – to cross dress for success.
If you’re eager to look fabulous today, I highly recommend Lucille’s Stepping Out Secrets. You’ll get all the tips and tricks you need to be the woman you are, and complete your male to female transformation! I used Lucille’s resources when I completed my transition many years ago, and she is the real thing!
Learn How to Crossdress and Step Out
Before we get started though, I want to share with you the biggest mistake men make when they wear woman’s clothes. This is probably the number one reason why cross dressers fail to pass, and end up looking like a guy in drag instead of a passable woman.
Before I share it with you, think for a moment on how you picture yourself as a woman. Let me guess, high heels, short skirt, dramatic makeup and plunging neck line. Am I right?
The biggest mistake the transgendered make is that:
When men cross dress they try to look like a whore
Not many woman would be caught dead wearing 6″ heels and a mini-skirt that barely covers their panties. Yet cross dressers try to dress like this – they’re dressing as their own fantasy girl. Take a tip from genetic woman – most of the time they are dressing for their girl friend, or to impress other woman. They are trying to out do other woman, not fulfill a man’s sexual fantasy.
Even if you’re lucky enough to have all the other attributes of a woman, if you dress like a whore you will stand out.
In the first lesson (coming next week), I will teach you how to wear clothes that make you look good, so you can cross dress with confidence.
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Hi,i would realy lik 2b name jessica am nt happy to be a man i always dream to b a beautiful cute grl with a big ass,as am from mauritius its hard to lived enclose am nt happy at all,if cn any1 help me am 24 am old ya but want to b a girl thats my dream can any1 help me i always crossdress at nite i even 1d invite my bestfriend to f*** me and it was amazing woah i rembered i always wear panties n bra whch i brought from ebay cn any1 help me please i… Read more »
have to have a new face to even pass anything and i have been on hormones for 4 years and am in hell lucky ones get to b ladies we like myself wind up luckily in a grave i gave up everything to b a miss miserable guy loaded on hormones that is trying to be female i will take so many one day i will die happlily ever after seriously dont do it if you are not good looking no matter what
Ahh chin up bird, sucks to hear. Just meet the right cd and you’ll be right, thinking of you
Ii have recently started CD and need more advice. Since I am younger than most and my actual nme is Kacie but spelled differently. I hoped to get support so I can talk more about my feelngs with this situation.
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Years ago, when I dressed up, I wanted to look like a whore. I was young and it was my look. Now I want to look good and wear appropriate attire and makeup for what I’m doing.
HI Vanessa, I’m a 49yr. old male and new to this site. I am writing because i need some advice on crossdressing. I want to look and dress like a young girl of about 12 or 13. I have obtained some girls clothing from stores such as Macy’s, JC Penny, H&M, Sears, Old Navy, and Justice for girls. I do not have a problem shopping and purchasing girls clothing. I am having a slight problem purchasing girls panties and under shirts or bras. I am able to fit into a girls size 16, or size xl. The reason I’m writing… Read more »