Comments on: Learn how to cross dress

By: Ragina

Ragina — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 20:48:29 +0000

Justin, I’m so happy that you now have the support that you need to begin your transformation. Hang in there, I’m sure that your Dad will come around if you talk to him in a positive way. It’s a real shock to a father when a son has to make such a drastic change in his life such as what you are doing. I don’t have any suggestions as to what to say to your Dad to help him understand why you are doing this, so unless someone else out there can give you some advice…
Otherwize, My prayers are with you as you start your transition.
Stay safe, stay beautiful, and be happy. Ragina

By: Justin

Justin — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 09:30:07 +0000

so i told my parents today and my step sisters my dad is heart broken cause i felt i couldnt go to him about as I was afraid to tell him that he would pop a vein. My step mom is very supportive i hugged her twice tonight and told her i loved her and she loved me she had to fight back the tears each time. My step sisters are so supportive its amazing despite how distant we have been for so many years and todl my step mom hey like we have to support him and my step mom agreed. my step mom and dad talk about it for atleast two hours a night and it’s dad who brings it up each night. I’m gonna talk to dad in person for the first time about it this weekend and im extremely nervous. I need to leave town though to be successfully a woman as the city I live in will not accept this change and I will be in a lot of trouble if I get caught this city is not a nice place for our kind. I am greatly relieved and starting to be more reassured about my endeavor with the feminine life.
thoughts and advice support????

By: Ragina

Ragina — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 00:36:25 +0000

Hi! As far as the confidence issue goes, that wasn’t much of a problem as I’m rather outgoing to begin with. The looks came courtesy of my wonderful wife. From the time that she accepted me she has made it her job to see that I know what I’m doing so that I look acceptable.
Now for me personally. I’m 55 yo, and retired on disability. I am married for 20 years and have 5 children, the youngest is 8 yo. I spent 22 years in the military, including a tour in Iraq.
As far as your questions, the answer is no to all. I’m just a crossdresser, and plan to keep it at that. I still have to keep a male presence as my youngest just wouldn’t understand, so I keep it on the downlow.
I hope that this has helped a bit. I don’t really know what else to say other than to take things at your own pace. The confidence will come with practice, especially the makeup and the look. Develop a look that is completly you and work to perfect it. Don’t expect to be a beauty queen the first time out. A suggestion to you. Adopt a ‘good enough’ approach. Get to a place where you like how you look, then work on the details to perfect the look.All of this will also build the confidence you need to step out as the woman you want to be. I hope this will help. keep me posted as to your progress. Stay safe, stay beautiful and love yourself.

By: Justin

Justin — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 07:18:22 +0000

How did you get to the point that u were confident in looking enough like a woman that u could go out in the day time and still be able to meet peoples eyes and smile as u walk a busy street and deal with all the eyes u know are on you or think are on you? What do you do for work now? Have you grown breasts or had implants? Are you pre-op? I know I do want the reassignment surgery but in time. I dontw ant to get implants id rather grow them but im worried about the dangers of taking estrogen….

By: Ragina

Ragina — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 05:54:31 +0000

Hi again. I can relate about the confidence issue. The first time I went out dressed was several years ago. I worked in construction and the big boss would let me use his camper trailer at the yard when we were out of town as security. I’d be in bra and some makeup and would take my time checking the area. I loved it. Be patient dear and it will come to you soon enough.

By: Justin

Justin — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 08:03:51 +0000

hey Ragina thanks for the advice and vote of confidence I just have a hard time building that confidence cause i know as soon as someone meets my eyes they will know im a man still and I cant do much about it until i get some facial features changed eyebrows waxed make up done right and so on and so fourth my shadow of my beard always shows and its just hard to really be a woman at this stage i need my ears pierced with some nice earings to go with. maybe some colored contacts or something idk im just worried about meeting peoples eyes i have gone out but not far just had enough courage to walk from my front door to the front of the house and into the garage but thats about it. I want to go out but i just know my facial loks right now arent to standard to even pass as a woman with a wig on and a full cute outfit its quite unnerving im working on telling my parents and seeing the doctors thursday about hormones to try and start growing breasts naturally and try to get some hips

By: Ragina

Ragina — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 22:04:04 +0000

Hi Justin, I’m Ragina. Just a suggestion to you about going out dressed. Why not just go for it and go out all dressed up. I know that it can be a very scary thing to do at first, you need to build your confidence. Try to go out at night for a while when there are few people around and just walk around your neighborhood. If you have a dog that needs to walk, why not use that time to your advantage. Get dressed and go. then, after you get used to being out, move it up a bit. You’ll be surprised at what can happen. The biggest part of being out is to be confident in yourself. Stand strait, look like you belong there and don’t be afraid to meet people’s look and smile . You’ll feel better and more people will not bother you. And if someone does try to “out” you, be nice to them and not defensive. You never know, you may even make a new friend or two. Good luck. Stay safe, be pretty and be yourself. Let us know how it goes.