Comments on: Living between the man I am and the girl I want to be http://www.crossdresserheaven.com/living-between-the-man-i-am-and-the-girl-i-want-to-be/ Crossdresser Heaven offers fashion, makeup and body movement tips for crossdressers who want to look and feel more feminine. Transgender news and issues are also discussed, along with Christianity and crossdressing. Tue, 16 Mar 2010 08:49:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Robert http://www.crossdresserheaven.com/living-between-the-man-i-am-and-the-girl-i-want-to-be/comment-page-1/#comment-3076 Robert Mon, 08 Mar 2010 15:19:00 +0000 http://cdhtest.dreamhosters.com/living-between-the-man-i-am-and-the-girl-i-want-to-be/#comment-3076 Emily, Being straight up about it really isn't accomplishing what you seek to accomplish by staying inside your home. You need to get OUTSIDE the prison you are encapsulating yourself in. Even if you look like a guy in a dress or skirt. The more you go outside the freer you will be. Your stress levels will initially rise, but subside as you find out that most people don't care what you wear as opposed to how you act. If you carry that chip on your shoulder of being different while dressed it will be reflected by how you act in public. Try wearing a nice A-line skirt to the store (like Kmart), a polo shirt, socks and shoes. You will find that people won't bother you as a rule. Or just go for a walk to ther park in the same outfit. Try NOT TO over express your femininity, people don't like that. In other words act as if your in jeans at the auto parts store. Mothers, sisters and girlfriends don't overly express their feminie side by gestures, walk or talk, they act the same in jeans as they do in a dress or skirt. Do you understand what I'm saying. Later as you get more comfortable being out in skirts you can change over to dresses. Just make sure you wear the appropriate undergarments such as slips. panties and etc. The manner in which you display yourself is what will or will not cause commentary on your attire. I wear my skirts everywhere, grocery or clothing shopping, to the parks or to the library. My personally stays the same whereever I go, the only changes are in what I am wearing that particular day. Emily,
Being straight up about it really isn’t accomplishing what you seek to accomplish by staying inside your home. You need to get OUTSIDE the prison you are encapsulating yourself in. Even if you look like a guy in a dress or skirt. The more you go outside the freer you will be.
Your stress levels will initially rise, but subside as you find out that most people don’t care what you wear as opposed to how you act. If you carry that chip on your shoulder of being different while dressed it will be reflected by how you act in public. Try wearing a nice A-line skirt to the store (like Kmart), a polo shirt, socks and shoes. You will find that people won’t bother you as a rule. Or just go for a walk to ther park in the same outfit. Try NOT TO over express your femininity, people don’t like that. In other words act as if your in jeans at the auto parts store. Mothers, sisters and girlfriends don’t overly express their feminie side by gestures, walk or talk, they act the same in jeans as they do in a dress or skirt. Do you understand what I’m saying. Later as you get more comfortable being out in skirts you can change over to dresses. Just make sure you wear the appropriate undergarments such
as slips. panties and etc. The manner in which you display yourself is what will or will not cause commentary on your attire. I wear my skirts everywhere, grocery or clothing shopping, to the parks or to the library. My personally stays the same whereever I go, the only changes are in what I am wearing that particular day.

]]> By: Emily http://www.crossdresserheaven.com/living-between-the-man-i-am-and-the-girl-i-want-to-be/comment-page-1/#comment-3075 Emily Mon, 08 Mar 2010 14:33:11 +0000 http://cdhtest.dreamhosters.com/living-between-the-man-i-am-and-the-girl-i-want-to-be/#comment-3075 hiya Robert, totally agree with what you're saying and good technique for coming out too. When I came out to my parents, I was straight up about the subject, no nonsense like it or loathe it. Although my parents don't like it much, they don't mind me dressing in the house. Kind Regards Emily hiya Robert, totally agree with what you’re saying and good technique for coming out too.
When I came out to my parents, I was straight up about the subject, no nonsense like it or loathe it.
Although my parents don’t like it much, they don’t mind me dressing in the house.

Kind Regards

Emily

]]> By: Robert http://www.crossdresserheaven.com/living-between-the-man-i-am-and-the-girl-i-want-to-be/comment-page-1/#comment-3074 Robert Mon, 08 Mar 2010 10:49:54 +0000 http://cdhtest.dreamhosters.com/living-between-the-man-i-am-and-the-girl-i-want-to-be/#comment-3074 Eve, Hiding only causes stress. Stress leads to depression. depression leads to a destructive life style (alcohol & drugs). You and your sister need to talk to your parents. Your mother first. You need to let this out. Try this while Dad is out, have your sister help you dress completely from the skin out. Go into the room where your mother is with your sister. Have your sister ask your mother if the dress looks okay or should it be hemmed-up a little or let the hem out. Right away moms gonna ask why you are wearing it. Tell her to help your sister. Chances are your mother will go back to your sister telling her whatever she needed to know about the dress. After this conversation have your sister say something like "keep the dress on for now so I can fix it or for some other reason" Wear the dress the rest of the day. Casually bring it up how comfortable the drerss is and you like the way it feels. This will bring your mother into the conversation. Then let it out that you wouldn't mind having a couple of the dresses yourself for around the house. Then ask your mother if she would get you one or two dresses just for around the house. This works, a friend of mine did it, he now has a closet full of them. Also at hisclo.com shows boys wore dresses until 1947 , also Robert Moores Pictures are available on the web. You could discreetly show them to your mother. They are NOT PORNOGRAPHIC, just everyday photos. As far as your father he will do as mom tells him, trust me. Eve,
Hiding only causes stress. Stress leads to depression. depression leads to a destructive life style (alcohol & drugs). You and your sister need to talk to your parents. Your mother first. You need to let this out. Try this while Dad is out, have your sister help you dress completely from the skin out. Go into the room where your mother is
with your sister. Have your sister ask your mother if the dress looks okay or should it be hemmed-up a little or let the hem out. Right away moms gonna ask why you are wearing it. Tell her to help your sister. Chances are your mother will go back to your sister telling her
whatever she needed to know about the dress. After this conversation
have your sister say something like “keep the dress on for now so I can
fix it or for some other reason” Wear the dress the rest of the day.
Casually bring it up how comfortable the drerss is and you like the way it feels. This will bring your mother into the conversation. Then let it out that you wouldn’t mind having a couple of the dresses yourself for around the house. Then ask your mother if she would get you one or two dresses just for around the house. This works, a friend of mine did
it, he now has a closet full of them. Also at hisclo.com shows boys wore dresses until 1947 , also Robert Moores Pictures are available on the web. You could discreetly show them to your mother. They are NOT PORNOGRAPHIC, just everyday photos. As far as your father he will do as mom tells him, trust me.

]]> By: Eve http://www.crossdresserheaven.com/living-between-the-man-i-am-and-the-girl-i-want-to-be/comment-page-1/#comment-3071 Eve Mon, 08 Mar 2010 03:10:48 +0000 http://cdhtest.dreamhosters.com/living-between-the-man-i-am-and-the-girl-i-want-to-be/#comment-3071 Robert, you are soooooooooooo lucky to have all your clothing I only have what my sis (secretly) lets me wear which is only one dress that fits my slim size. Me and my sis know if our parents find out were dead. Unfortunatly, we can only when they are gone but when they are she paints my nails puts extentions in my hair and does my makeup. Robert, you are soooooooooooo lucky to have all your clothing I only have what my sis (secretly) lets me wear which is only one dress that fits my slim size. Me and my sis know if our parents find out were dead. Unfortunatly, we can only when they are gone but when they are she paints my nails puts extentions in my hair and does my makeup.

]]> By: Robert http://www.crossdresserheaven.com/living-between-the-man-i-am-and-the-girl-i-want-to-be/comment-page-1/#comment-3014 Robert Wed, 17 Feb 2010 11:23:42 +0000 http://cdhtest.dreamhosters.com/living-between-the-man-i-am-and-the-girl-i-want-to-be/#comment-3014 Donna, I have been xding since I was 11 yrs of age. I didn't have to hide it because my mother believed boys should wear dresses. She xded me and my brothers. I took to the dresses like a duck to water, my brothers did not. I loved the feeling. I loved being the special girl in the house. I had party dresses with attached petticoats and plain dresses. I had panties of cotton and silk and slips for the plain dresses. Take you girls clothes out of the boxes. Put something on you really like, that you feel comfortable in. Then go to crossdressermeetup.com. These are groups that are all over the country. They have meetings and get togethers. Their are women who attend as well who like crossdressers. You need to do this for your own safety. After reading your comments I felt you are in danger of slipping into a dark abyss, and its hard to climb out. Enjoy your full self. By being or feeling the same things as a man and woman you are actually closer to God. If you have not been christened or baptised, DO IT. God has given you a gift, you must use it wisely. God created man and woman, then he made us. WE are the ones that face hard times face forward as a man, and cry when we see the inhumanities around us. I believe God made us as close to the Angels as possible. Our Feelings are stronger then ordinary men. We are more compassionate then ordinary women. We are almost the perfect being, to be able to enjoy life from both sides of the human spectrum. Donna,
I have been xding since I was 11 yrs of age. I didn’t have to hide it because my mother believed boys should wear dresses. She xded me and my brothers. I took to the dresses like a duck to water, my brothers did not. I loved the feeling. I loved being the special girl in the house. I had party dresses with attached petticoats and plain dresses. I had panties of cotton and silk and slips for the plain dresses.
Take you girls clothes out of the boxes. Put something on you really like, that you feel comfortable in. Then go to crossdressermeetup.com. These are groups that are all over the country. They have meetings and get togethers. Their are women who attend as well who like crossdressers. You need to do this for your own safety. After reading your comments I felt you are in danger of slipping into a dark abyss, and its hard to climb out. Enjoy your full self. By being or feeling the same things as a man and woman you are actually closer to God. If you have not been christened or baptised, DO IT. God has given you a gift, you must use it wisely. God created man and woman, then he made us. WE are the ones that face hard times face forward as a man, and cry when we see the inhumanities around us. I believe God made us as close to the Angels as possible. Our Feelings are stronger then ordinary men. We are more compassionate then ordinary women. We are almost the perfect being, to be able to enjoy life from both sides of the human spectrum.

]]> By: Donna http://www.crossdresserheaven.com/living-between-the-man-i-am-and-the-girl-i-want-to-be/comment-page-1/#comment-3013 Donna Wed, 17 Feb 2010 05:49:21 +0000 http://cdhtest.dreamhosters.com/living-between-the-man-i-am-and-the-girl-i-want-to-be/#comment-3013 I felt relief reading a lot of your comments. I am an older male now and have been CD'ing since I was young. I always felt guilt and shame about it praying to the god I believed in at the time to help me find a woman so I could settle down, get married and have kids. (I also thought by getting married I'd be able to stop the CD'ing.) I'd meet a woman and toss out all my girlie clothes thinking I wouldn't need them anymore. But marriage never came and I stopped believing in any god. I just feel that is there is a god, and he/she makes us with sexual organs, why not match us up with someone we'd be compatible with. At the age of 50, I gave up the idea of getting married and just cross dressed whenever I felt stress and wanted sex. I used to want a sex change but no more. I used to think I was really sick but no more. I feel no more guilt and shame. I currently live by myself, watch a lot of sports and movies, and have 5 boxes of female clothes in my closet. I especially like wearing babydolls and of course a blond wig. I can no longer walk in high heels. I love the cover of PINK's "Funhouse" CD and have tried to duplicate that outfit. I feel like I cross dress primarily for sexual satisfaction and to relax, as after it's over, I go right back to being a male again. I find it odd that as a male, I like my clothes to be loose, whereas when I dress as a female, I prefer things a tad tight. Finally, I don't know why I was created since I feel like a freak of nature. No wife, no kids, but a closet full of female clothes. Where is there a purpose??? I felt relief reading a lot of your comments. I am an older male now and have been CD’ing since I was young. I always felt guilt and shame about it praying to the god I believed in at the time to help me find a woman so I could settle down, get married and have kids. (I also thought by getting married I’d be able to stop the CD’ing.) I’d meet a woman and toss out all my girlie clothes thinking I wouldn’t need them anymore. But marriage never came and I stopped believing in any god. I just feel that is there is a god, and he/she makes us with sexual organs, why not match us up with someone we’d be compatible with.
At the age of 50, I gave up the idea of getting married and just cross dressed whenever I felt stress and wanted sex. I used to want a sex change but no more. I used to think I was really sick but no more. I feel no more guilt and shame.
I currently live by myself, watch a lot of sports and movies, and have 5 boxes of female clothes in my closet. I especially like wearing babydolls and of course a blond wig. I can no longer walk in high heels. I love the cover of PINK’s “Funhouse” CD and have tried to duplicate that outfit. I feel like I cross dress primarily for sexual satisfaction and to relax, as after it’s over, I go right back to being a male again. I find it odd that as a male, I like my clothes to be loose, whereas when I dress as a female, I prefer things a tad tight.
Finally, I don’t know why I was created since I feel like a freak of nature. No wife, no kids, but a closet full of female clothes. Where is there a purpose???

]]> By: Robert http://www.crossdresserheaven.com/living-between-the-man-i-am-and-the-girl-i-want-to-be/comment-page-1/#comment-2904 Robert Mon, 25 Jan 2010 14:21:32 +0000 http://cdhtest.dreamhosters.com/living-between-the-man-i-am-and-the-girl-i-want-to-be/#comment-2904 I totally agree with the first commenter here. When I'm dressed It feels like the whole world is different. I feel more relaxed, more intouch with everything around me. I don't know why or can really explain it. Its almost like being in a more powerful universe and I am an important part of it whole being. A state of unimaginal bliss. Its like being bathed in lavendar and lace and my body tingling from the inner joy that has enveloped me. I totally agree with the first commenter here. When I’m dressed It feels like the whole world is different. I feel more relaxed, more intouch with everything around me. I don’t know why or can really explain it. Its almost like being in a more powerful universe and I am an important part of it whole being. A state of unimaginal bliss.
Its like being bathed in lavendar and lace and my body tingling from the inner joy that has enveloped me.

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