Comments on: My boyfriend is a crossdresser, what do I do? http://www.crossdresserheaven.com/my-boyfriend-is-a-crossdresser-what-do-i-do/ Fashion, makeup and body movement tips for crossdressers who want to look and feel more feminine Fri, 10 Feb 2012 19:04:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Ashleigh http://www.crossdresserheaven.com/my-boyfriend-is-a-crossdresser-what-do-i-do/comment-page-3/#comment-8757 Ashleigh Mon, 06 Feb 2012 07:29:20 +0000 http://cdhtest.dreamhosters.com/my-boyfriend-is-a-crossdresser-what-do-i-do/#comment-8757 I too am a woman suffering with how to deal with the man I love being a cross dresser. We were high school sweethearts and fell madly in love 8 years ago. I thought I found my soul mate and had no idea he was hiding such a big secret from me. I've known he was doing this behind my back but even despite catching him in the act he would deny it and kept it from me up until recently when he admitted it was a part of his life he could and would not change. The issues I am dealing with is how do you learn to deal and accept it and how do you get over the anger of him keeping such a hurtful thing from you. I know it's not like they can say it on a first date but why did he make me fall for him and then put me through all of this. I know it isn't easy for him but I too am having a very hard time and would like some support with how to deal with this if there was any. Thank you very much for your time. I too am a woman suffering with how to deal with the man I love being a cross dresser. We were high school sweethearts and fell madly in love 8 years ago. I thought I found my soul mate and had no idea he was hiding such a big secret from me. I’ve known he was doing this behind my back but even despite catching him in the act he would deny it and kept it from me up until recently when he admitted it was a part of his life he could and would not change. The issues I am dealing with is how do you learn to deal and accept it and how do you get over the anger of him keeping such a hurtful thing from you. I know it’s not like they can say it on a first date but why did he make me fall for him and then put me through all of this. I know it isn’t easy for him but I too am having a very hard time and would like some support with how to deal with this if there was any. Thank you very much for your time.

]]> By: LisaLovitt http://www.crossdresserheaven.com/my-boyfriend-is-a-crossdresser-what-do-i-do/comment-page-3/#comment-7971 LisaLovitt Sun, 01 Jan 2012 19:44:57 +0000 http://cdhtest.dreamhosters.com/my-boyfriend-is-a-crossdresser-what-do-i-do/#comment-7971 What I don't understand, especially in today's world and society, why woman just can't accept a partner who is a CD. And while some of us are bi (and there are plenty of women who are bi but that seems ok for society), what does that have to do with the love and caring for the woman? Nothing. I can be either a man or a CD, be with a woman partner and still have urges and desires to be with a man on occasion, and STILL want to be with the woman partner (much more so than being in a relationship with a man or else I'd be in one). Basically, if I am with a woman, and dress and sometimes want to play with a man (either alone or maybe even with her), why and how does that change the fact that I am, and want to be, with the woman? It doesn't. Denial of either basic human urges or hidden desires only causes tension and eventual heartbreak. If people (whatever gender) could just accept their partner/spouse and their love, the world would be far better off. I know I would. What I don’t understand, especially in today’s world and society, why woman just can’t accept a partner who is a CD. And while some of us are bi (and there are plenty of women who are bi but that seems ok for society), what does that have to do with the love and caring for the woman? Nothing. I can be either a man or a CD, be with a woman partner and still have urges and desires to be with a man on occasion, and STILL want to be with the woman partner (much more so than being in a relationship with a man or else I’d be in one).

Basically, if I am with a woman, and dress and sometimes want to play with a man (either alone or maybe even with her), why and how does that change the fact that I am, and want to be, with the woman? It doesn’t. Denial of either basic human urges or hidden desires only causes tension and eventual heartbreak. If people (whatever gender) could just accept their partner/spouse and their love, the world would be far better off.

I know I would.

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]]> By: sweetbeautiful http://www.crossdresserheaven.com/my-boyfriend-is-a-crossdresser-what-do-i-do/comment-page-3/#comment-2899 sweetbeautiful Wed, 16 Mar 2011 00:00:00 +0000 http://cdhtest.dreamhosters.com/my-boyfriend-is-a-crossdresser-what-do-i-do/#comment-2899 O wow, I don't even know where to begin:( I've been reading through some of the posts, and I can honestly say just as the other women on here, I want to be as supportive as I possibly can, but yet I don't know. I'm scared. The sad thing is, my BF, of almost 2 years doesn't even know that I know right now. And I don't know whether to approach him about it or not and just let it go. He's not a very 'open' individual as far as his feelings and thoughts are. When he has something to say, he will. And I'm not sure what his reaction would be to be quiite honest! And I really don't feel that the response will be very pretty..... When we fisrt started dating it was great! The 'intamacy', was always spontaneous and 'hot', I then got very sick, unfortunately, it took a while before I was feeling better. There were a few other contributing factors in our lives that also stopped the 'initmacy' for awhile. Work, family, what have you. then after that it just seemed that 'intimacy' was always on his terms, and seemed to be about a once a month thing. We talked and brought it up, but there was never really any resolution. But I will have to admit, with in the last week and a half for about 2-3 days, things changed....it was about 2-3 times a day... but.... exactly that, 'BUTT'.... IF you get my meaning.... this has set him off and has turned him 'on'..... I am OK with this!!!! Can't get in to too much detail right now u will know why in a minute.... . He also just seemed oblivious when I would flirt with him, put on new lingrie myself or really go out and make myself look really 'hot' when we would go out, I get no compliments whatsoever from him. I would do eveything I could to make him feel proud to have me on his arm... I would get compliements and 'omg jaw drops from other's.... I have sent 'naughty' pics, and still no response. All I get is 'NICE HONEY', I would even try initiating 'intimacy'... and no response.... We talked about this... things have changed a little...I thought for awhile he was cheating on me, than I just started having DOUBTS.... not that he was cheating..., as we don't live together, but he is here at my home about 90% of the time. But yet i work a regular M-F 8-5 job... he works a 48 shift every four days...I know he love's me, he wouldn't be here if he didn't, he wouldn't do things he does for me if he didn't and does show me to a certain degree. But it has always been in the back in my mind that there is STILL something just not quite right. Call it 'woman's intuition'. I admit it, I snooped for the first time ever!!!!! And I know, KARMA WILL come back to bite me in the ass! And probably really hard!!!! And I WON'T enjoy it... no 'pun' intended... I will have to admit that the ummm, computer history, actually even brought up this website! And when I typed in 'help my BF is a cross dresser', this website came up! I tried to let it go, there's so many pop ups now days that even they will make it look at though you've been on the site. Anyway, it kept eating at me, and it got the best of me. I snooped again! I know, I feel like such a '$$!&' head and feel so bad, but to know what's going on on this end, I honestly think you would understand, however, this is not my nature, I have been so extremely frustrated and stressed trying to figure out what is going on! So frustrated to the point that I am actually drinking more and have put on a few pounds... this I AM NOT PROUD of!!!!!! I first found an empty shoe box. Not a 'normal' woman's size. I first started thinking, ok, he's been to Halloween parties before he and I, maybe these are just part of an old costume. This justification still wasn't working for me. I have now found his 'stash of lingerie, along with the shoes that were missing from the shoe box....., as well as 'various' toys. My first thought was holy 'F'! These are bigger than mine.! WTF!!!!!! ARE YOU DOING!!!!! Yes, we do bring 'bob' into the picture every once and a while and I have never denied to him about using it! And we both enjoy the 'moment ' from time to time when we bring 'bob' into into the 'moment'.... I am so 'shell shocked' right now, I don't know what to do, how to react, what to feel, what to think or who to talk to. I love him sooooooo much, and I don't want to lose him, he's sooo good to me...I just don't know what to do. I really do want to be open minded about this. I just don't know what the next step is... if there is another step or how to bring this out... I DON'T want to confront him... I NEED him to come to me about it... and I don't know how to do this...... Please, any advice... any thoughts...any suggestions......I really truely honestly feel that I CAN handle the 'extra toy's'.... I have ALWAYS told him... I AM WILLING to do anything at least once or twice to give it a 'shot'...I do love you baby! I really truely do love you baby! I'm just so scared and sooooooooooooooooooooooo confused :(.......... O wow, I don’t even know where to begin:( I’ve been reading through some of the posts, and I can honestly say just as the other women on here, I want to be as supportive as I possibly can, but yet I don’t know. I’m scared. The sad thing is, my BF, of almost 2 years doesn’t even know that I know right now. And I don’t know whether to approach him about it or not and just let it go. He’s not a very ‘open’ individual as far as his feelings and thoughts are. When he has something to say, he will. And I’m not sure what his reaction would be to be quiite honest! And I really don’t feel that the response will be very pretty….. When we fisrt started dating it was great! The ‘intamacy’, was always spontaneous and ‘hot’, I then got very sick, unfortunately, it took a while before I was feeling better. There were a few other contributing factors in our lives that also stopped the ‘initmacy’ for awhile. Work, family, what have you. then after that it just seemed that ‘intimacy’ was always on his terms, and seemed to be about a once a month thing. We talked and brought it up, but there was never really any resolution. But I will have to admit, with in the last week and a half for about 2-3 days, things changed….it was about 2-3 times a day… but…. exactly that, ‘BUTT’…. IF you get my meaning…. this has set him off and has turned him ‘on’….. I am OK with this!!!! Can’t get in to too much detail right now u will know why in a minute…. . He also just seemed oblivious when I would flirt with him, put on new lingrie myself or really go out and make myself look really ‘hot’ when we would go out, I get no compliments whatsoever from him. I would do eveything I could to make him feel proud to have me on his arm… I would get compliements and ‘omg jaw drops from other’s…. I have sent ‘naughty’ pics, and still no response. All I get is ‘NICE HONEY’, I would even try initiating ‘intimacy’… and no response…. We talked about this… things have changed a little…I thought for awhile he was cheating on me, than I just started having DOUBTS…. not that he was cheating…, as we don’t live together, but he is here at my home about 90% of the time. But yet i work a regular M-F 8-5 job… he works a 48 shift every four days…I know he love’s me, he wouldn’t be here if he didn’t, he wouldn’t do things he does for me if he didn’t and does show me to a certain degree. But it has always been in the back in my mind that there is STILL something just not quite right. Call it ‘woman’s intuition’. I admit it, I snooped for the first time ever!!!!! And I know, KARMA WILL come back to bite me in the ass! And probably really hard!!!! And I WON’T enjoy it… no ‘pun’ intended… I will have to admit that the ummm, computer history, actually even brought up this website! And when I typed in ‘help my BF is a cross dresser’, this website came up! I tried to let it go, there’s so many pop ups now days that even they will make it look at though you’ve been on the site. Anyway, it kept eating at me, and it got the best of me. I snooped again! I know, I feel like such a ‘$$!&’ head and feel so bad, but to know what’s going on on this end, I honestly think you would understand, however, this is not my nature, I have been so extremely frustrated and stressed trying to figure out what is going on! So frustrated to the point that I am actually drinking more and have put on a few pounds… this I AM NOT PROUD of!!!!!! I first found an empty shoe box. Not a ‘normal’ woman’s size. I first started thinking, ok, he’s been to Halloween parties before he and I, maybe these are just part of an old costume. This justification still wasn’t working for me. I have now found his ‘stash of lingerie, along with the shoes that were missing from the shoe box….., as well as ‘various’ toys. My first thought was holy ‘F’! These are bigger than mine.! WTF!!!!!! ARE YOU DOING!!!!! Yes, we do bring ‘bob’ into the picture every once and a while and I have never denied to him about using it! And we both enjoy the ‘moment ‘ from time to time when we bring ‘bob’ into into the ‘moment’…. I am so ‘shell shocked’ right now, I don’t know what to do, how to react, what to feel, what to think or who to talk to. I love him sooooooo much, and I don’t want to lose him, he’s sooo good to me…I just don’t know what to do. I really do want to be open minded about this. I just don’t know what the next step is… if there is another step or how to bring this out… I DON’T want to confront him… I NEED him to come to me about it… and I don’t know how to do this…… Please, any advice… any thoughts…any suggestions……I really truely honestly feel that I CAN handle the ‘extra toy’s'…. I have ALWAYS told him… I AM WILLING to do anything at least once or twice to give it a ‘shot’…I do love you baby! I really truely do love you baby! I’m just so scared and sooooooooooooooooooooooo confused :( ……….

]]> By: sweetbeautiful http://www.crossdresserheaven.com/my-boyfriend-is-a-crossdresser-what-do-i-do/comment-page-3/#comment-6310 sweetbeautiful Wed, 16 Mar 2011 00:00:00 +0000 http://cdhtest.dreamhosters.com/my-boyfriend-is-a-crossdresser-what-do-i-do/#comment-6310 O wow, I don't even know where to begin:( I've been reading through some of the posts, and I can honestly say just as the other women on here, I want to be as supportive as I possibly can, but yet I don't know. I'm scared. The sad thing is, my BF, of almost 2 years doesn't even know that I know right now. And I don't know whether to approach him about it or not and just let it go. He's not a very 'open' individual as far as his feelings and thoughts are. When he has something to say, he will. And I'm not sure what his reaction would be to be quiite honest! And I really don't feel that the response will be very pretty..... When we fisrt started dating it was great! The 'intamacy', was always spontaneous and 'hot', I then got very sick, unfortunately, it took a while before I was feeling better. There were a few other contributing factors in our lives that also stopped the 'initmacy' for awhile. Work, family, what have you. then after that it just seemed that 'intimacy' was always on his terms, and seemed to be about a once a month thing. We talked and brought it up, but there was never really any resolution. But I will have to admit, with in the last week and a half for about 2-3 days, things changed....it was about 2-3 times a day... but.... exactly that, 'BUTT'.... IF you get my meaning.... this has set him off and has turned him 'on'..... I am OK with this!!!! Can't get in to too much detail right now u will know why in a minute.... . He also just seemed oblivious when I would flirt with him, put on new lingrie myself or really go out and make myself look really 'hot' when we would go out, I get no compliments whatsoever from him. I would do eveything I could to make him feel proud to have me on his arm... I would get compliements and 'omg jaw drops from other's.... I have sent 'naughty' pics, and still no response. All I get is 'NICE HONEY', I would even try initiating 'intimacy'... and no response.... We talked about this... things have changed a little...I thought for awhile he was cheating on me, than I just started having DOUBTS.... not that he was cheating..., as we don't live together, but he is here at my home about 90% of the time. But yet i work a regular M-F 8-5 job... he works a 48 shift every four days...I know he love's me, he wouldn't be here if he didn't, he wouldn't do things he does for me if he didn't and does show me to a certain degree. But it has always been in the back in my mind that there is STILL something just not quite right. Call it 'woman's intuition'. I admit it, I snooped for the first time ever!!!!! And I know, KARMA WILL come back to bite me in the ass! And probably really hard!!!! And I WON'T enjoy it... no 'pun' intended... I will have to admit that the ummm, computer history, actually even brought up this website! And when I typed in 'help my BF is a cross dresser', this website came up! I tried to let it go, there's so many pop ups now days that even they will make it look at though you've been on the site. Anyway, it kept eating at me, and it got the best of me. I snooped again! I know, I feel like such a '$$!&' head and feel so bad, but to know what's going on on this end, I honestly think you would understand, however, this is not my nature, I have been so extremely frustrated and stressed trying to figure out what is going on! So frustrated to the point that I am actually drinking more and have put on a few pounds... this I AM NOT PROUD of!!!!!! I first found an empty shoe box. Not a 'normal' woman's size. I first started thinking, ok, he's been to Halloween parties before he and I, maybe these are just part of an old costume. This justification still wasn't working for me. I have now found his 'stash of lingerie, along with the shoes that were missing from the shoe box....., as well as 'various' toys. My first thought was holy 'F'! These are bigger than mine.! WTF!!!!!! ARE YOU DOING!!!!! Yes, we do bring 'bob' into the picture every once and a while and I have never denied to him about using it! And we both enjoy the 'moment ' from time to time when we bring 'bob' into into the 'moment'.... I am so 'shell shocked' right now, I don't know what to do, how to react, what to feel, what to think or who to talk to. I love him sooooooo much, and I don't want to lose him, he's sooo good to me...I just don't know what to do. I really do want to be open minded about this. I just don't know what the next step is... if there is another step or how to bring this out... I DON'T want to confront him... I NEED him to come to me about it... and I don't know how to do this...... Please, any advice... any thoughts...any suggestions......I really truely honestly feel that I CAN handle the 'extra toy's'.... I have ALWAYS told him... I AM WILLING to do anything at least once or twice to give it a 'shot'...I do love you baby! I really truely do love you baby! I'm just so scared and sooooooooooooooooooooooo confused :(.......... O wow, I don’t even know where to begin:( I’ve been reading through some of the posts, and I can honestly say just as the other women on here, I want to be as supportive as I possibly can, but yet I don’t know. I’m scared. The sad thing is, my BF, of almost 2 years doesn’t even know that I know right now. And I don’t know whether to approach him about it or not and just let it go. He’s not a very ‘open’ individual as far as his feelings and thoughts are. When he has something to say, he will. And I’m not sure what his reaction would be to be quiite honest! And I really don’t feel that the response will be very pretty….. When we fisrt started dating it was great! The ‘intamacy’, was always spontaneous and ‘hot’, I then got very sick, unfortunately, it took a while before I was feeling better. There were a few other contributing factors in our lives that also stopped the ‘initmacy’ for awhile. Work, family, what have you. then after that it just seemed that ‘intimacy’ was always on his terms, and seemed to be about a once a month thing. We talked and brought it up, but there was never really any resolution. But I will have to admit, with in the last week and a half for about 2-3 days, things changed….it was about 2-3 times a day… but…. exactly that, ‘BUTT’…. IF you get my meaning…. this has set him off and has turned him ‘on’….. I am OK with this!!!! Can’t get in to too much detail right now u will know why in a minute…. . He also just seemed oblivious when I would flirt with him, put on new lingrie myself or really go out and make myself look really ‘hot’ when we would go out, I get no compliments whatsoever from him. I would do eveything I could to make him feel proud to have me on his arm… I would get compliements and ‘omg jaw drops from other’s…. I have sent ‘naughty’ pics, and still no response. All I get is ‘NICE HONEY’, I would even try initiating ‘intimacy’… and no response…. We talked about this… things have changed a little…I thought for awhile he was cheating on me, than I just started having DOUBTS…. not that he was cheating…, as we don’t live together, but he is here at my home about 90% of the time. But yet i work a regular M-F 8-5 job… he works a 48 shift every four days…I know he love’s me, he wouldn’t be here if he didn’t, he wouldn’t do things he does for me if he didn’t and does show me to a certain degree. But it has always been in the back in my mind that there is STILL something just not quite right. Call it ‘woman’s intuition’. I admit it, I snooped for the first time ever!!!!! And I know, KARMA WILL come back to bite me in the ass! And probably really hard!!!! And I WON’T enjoy it… no ‘pun’ intended… I will have to admit that the ummm, computer history, actually even brought up this website! And when I typed in ‘help my BF is a cross dresser’, this website came up! I tried to let it go, there’s so many pop ups now days that even they will make it look at though you’ve been on the site. Anyway, it kept eating at me, and it got the best of me. I snooped again! I know, I feel like such a ‘$$!&’ head and feel so bad, but to know what’s going on on this end, I honestly think you would understand, however, this is not my nature, I have been so extremely frustrated and stressed trying to figure out what is going on! So frustrated to the point that I am actually drinking more and have put on a few pounds… this I AM NOT PROUD of!!!!!! I first found an empty shoe box. Not a ‘normal’ woman’s size. I first started thinking, ok, he’s been to Halloween parties before he and I, maybe these are just part of an old costume. This justification still wasn’t working for me. I have now found his ‘stash of lingerie, along with the shoes that were missing from the shoe box….., as well as ‘various’ toys. My first thought was holy ‘F’! These are bigger than mine.! WTF!!!!!! ARE YOU DOING!!!!! Yes, we do bring ‘bob’ into the picture every once and a while and I have never denied to him about using it! And we both enjoy the ‘moment ‘ from time to time when we bring ‘bob’ into into the ‘moment’…. I am so ‘shell shocked’ right now, I don’t know what to do, how to react, what to feel, what to think or who to talk to. I love him sooooooo much, and I don’t want to lose him, he’s sooo good to me…I just don’t know what to do. I really do want to be open minded about this. I just don’t know what the next step is… if there is another step or how to bring this out… I DON’T want to confront him… I NEED him to come to me about it… and I don’t know how to do this…… Please, any advice… any thoughts…any suggestions……I really truely honestly feel that I CAN handle the ‘extra toy’s'…. I have ALWAYS told him… I AM WILLING to do anything at least once or twice to give it a ‘shot’…I do love you baby! I really truely do love you baby! I’m just so scared and sooooooooooooooooooooooo confused :( ……….

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