Comments on: Sometimes I Think The Stares Lead To Acceptance

By: Carol

Carol — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 20:08:49 +0000

Racquel Lynn, Im shocked at your experience. I too am aquainted with many medical professionals, teachers, doctors, and nurses. never once have I been looked over, at least scrutinized. NEVER. I would hope I didnt rate their curiosity bell going off. I have had some kids over at the college, not guys but teenage girls give me a little grief. maybe percieved by myself, but not really fact. I had a couple young girls seem to notice me, and they walked toward me, and I stepped out right in front of them, looked em right in the eyes, and said " lovely day isnt it"?? and they just turned and walked away. No nothing, no reaction…… I bluffed them. Carol

By: Vanessa Law

Vanessa Law — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 18:08:58 +0000

Yikes, not a fun experience hon, sorry about that…

By: Racquel Lynn

Racquel Lynn — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 14:02:13 +0000

The only reason it bothered me this time is because it was the worst case I had seen and these people are supposed to be medical professionals (not one person coming out for a glimpse was a visitor, they were all staff, nurses, etc.) They are supposed to be trained to act better and deal with things like that with more respect and dignity. Quite frankly, the busload of middle school field trip students that came into McDonald's while I was eating once were far more adult about it and gave far less stares and snickers than the staffers at the hospital.
I totally understand peoples curiousity and usually do not mind the stares, but medical professionals I hold to a higher standard. Not that they shouldn't have a little stare, but to go out of their way like they did to get it was totally unprofessional.
I do have to say though, that I do prefer the person that will come up and talk to me and ask me questions over someone who just stares. I think it is great therapy to talk about it with other people and it helps to educate people and spread a more positive image for us.

By: Racquel Lynn

Racquel Lynn — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 14:02:06 +0000

I have had the stares and occasional parade of people taking turns walking past who were OBVIOUSLY trying not to be obvious. But it only really bothered me one time when I went to visit a friend working in a hospital. I was waiting by the elevator accross from the cafeteria until she was ready for me to come up to her floor. Then the first person comes out of the cafeteria and walked past me, then does a u-turn back into the cafeteria where I could see her pointing me out to others in the cafeteria. Immediately, it was one after another walking out and going past me to get a closer look. Not all coming out at once and trying to space it out as to not be obvious, but it was, especially when most of them pretended to walk down the hall like they were going to do something but only turned around and went back into the cafeteria.

By: Racquel Lynn

Racquel Lynn — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 14:01:33 +0000

I agree. I think that anything that is new or different or not the "norm" to any of us gets our couriousity and that these days, there are many more people willing to accept us, although, for most people, it is still rare that they encounter a transgendered person during their day. I believe that most people do not mean any harm in their stares, they just want a good look at something they don't usually see and want to be able to take it all in and get used to it or to simply convince themselves that they really are seeing what they think they see.