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Crossdressing and church…

By vanessa | Published February 9, 2008 | 3 Comments |

Often the hardest thing for you to do as a crossdresser to do is to reconcile crossdressing with your faith. In my previous article I wrote about crossdressing as it relates to sin. Hopefully you have started the journey down the road to accepting who you are, and learning to love God with all the might and soul of the person He (She) made you to be. Reaching that point is something to be celebrated – it is a long road to acceptance that few have undertaken.

You may be wondering though, how to come to terms with the stigma that Christians have placed on you as a transgendered person. I’ve found it helpful to ask the question Would Jesus Discriminate?. After reading this, and some of the material made available by the Metropolitan Church it should be clear that throughout history Christians have made many grave mistakes.

Christians have supported slavery, opposed the right of woman to vote and opposed interracial marriage. That is to say nothing of the brutal and violent crusades that were perpetrated in the name of God. I know that the God I worship looked on in great sadness at the action of these Christians.

If you are not ‘out’, and choose to keep your crossdressing a secret, then attending church shouldn’t pose much of a problem. For those of us who go out in public wearing woman’s clothes and living our alter ego this may pose more of a dilemma. Especially if you would like to attend church in your feminine persona.

I strongly recommend that you talk with your pastor before showing up to church in your best Sunday dress. It is possible that your pastor will support your wish to attend church dressed, or perhaps while not giving outright support may tolerate it – at least as long as it doesn’t cause a stir in the church family.

At worst, you may want to look for a church that is more open to transgendered people. The Metropolitan Church I mentioned earlier is openly welcoming of those in the transgendered community.

God bless you in your journey. May He bring you closer, lead your life with love and help you become the person you were meant to be.

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You are fearfully and wonderfully made, no matter what clothes you wear

By vanessa | Published February 3, 2008 | 2 Comments |

Psalms 139:13-14 says, ‘For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.’

The video below touched me, and reminded me again that God made us in all His love and power. As someone once put it, ‘God don’t make no junk.’

Never let anyone tell you that God doesn’t love you because of who you are. Jesus died for everyone, not just those who lived up to societies image of ‘normal’.

Never let yourself feel unloved. God knows your pain. He knows your struggle. When you’re saddened by who you are, His heart breaks. He made you with a purpose for this time in history.

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They say there is no cure for crossdressing

By vanessa | Published February 1, 2008 | 7 Comments |

Search the Internet for “cure crossdressing”, and you’ll find a plethora of web pages telling you that there is no cure for crossdressing. They’ll have this statement in bold, italics, capitalized, as if it were some golden truth to center your life on.

The next thing they’ll do is lambaste anyone for suggesting that it is something that needs curing (surely only diseases need curing?!). I’ll address the second point in a later post. As you can see by my previous post I don’t believe that crossdressing is ‘evil’, ‘wrong’, ‘sin’, or anything of that nature. These judgments are distracting and only serve to allow one group of people to feel superior to another, and cover over flaws they perceive in themselves.

I’ll tackle the question of being ‘incurable’ first.

We have a mistaken notion that because we do not know how something is cured, that it is not possible for there to be a cure. You hear stories every week of people who have been cured from cancer without undergoing any treatment, and often just months after the doctor diagnosed them.

Hold on, isn’t cancer ‘incurable’? Or at best there is some chance that the treatment we give (chemo) could facilitate a cure (with no guarantees). How then , could these people be cured without any treatment?!
I don’t know how, but I do know that it happened.

If you are a Christian, I have another challenge for you.
Jesus healed the blind man, and he could see again.
Jesus healed the lame man, and he could walk again.
Jesus told us (John 14:12) that we would do even greater things than this if we have faith in Him.
How trivial it must be for Him to cure crossdressing.

Yet in all our ‘wisdom’ and power we prevent this cure. We have more faith in the incurable nature of crossdressing than we do in our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

Jesus told us (Matt 17:20) that even faith as small as a tiny seed will allow us to move mountains.
It seems it will take much less faith than that for us to cure crossdressing.
So what can you do right now?

If you believe a cure to crossdressing is right for you (see post below):
1. Ask God to cure you
2. Believe that you are being cured
3. Picture who you will be when you are cured (don’t think ‘not a crossdresser’, bring to mind those qualities of your masculinity you’ll treasure when you’re no longer a crossdresser).
4. See yourself as this person. Be this person.
5. Give thanks to God for your new life. Receive the healing.

It may take a while for the cure to manifest itself in your life. Maybe weeks, or months. Continue picturing yourself as the person you’ll be when you are cured. Continue giving thanks to God for your new life.
Don’t keep asking to be cured, you’ve asked once, just believe that you’re receiving the cure. If you keep asking, you’re expressing doubt that you’re actually being cured.

If you need encouragement or support, please leave a comment.

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My Purpose

By vanessa | Published January 30, 2008 | Leave a comment |

I received my membership renewal forms for Tri-Ess yesterday. I thought I would share the comments I wrote, as I declined to renew.

After much soul searching, pain and gnashing of teeth I have realized that crossdressing was ‘something I did’, not ‘who I was’. Through God’s grace I’m being healed each day, and led deeper into my true purpose in this life.

I thank Tri-Ess for their support as I found my true purpose. Even though I believe differently for my life, the grace and hope you extend to thousands of others is a priceless treasure.

My challenge to you is this – what is your true purpose in life?

Is crossdressing helping you to fulfill this purpose?
If the answer ‘yes’ to the second question comes from deep within your soul, I wish you all the best on your journey through life.

If you can’t answer ‘yes’ to the second question, I urge you to spend time finding your true purpose, and invest all your passion and energy into that. If crossdressing was not part of it, you’ll find it’s grip on you fading with time.
Please take some time to look at some of the resources I’ve linked to. They will be helpful for you, no matter where your true purpose lies.

God Bless

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What does a cure look like?

By vanessa | Published January 29, 2008 | Leave a comment |

I’ve been thinking about this a lot, and thought that it bears some clarification.

When I talk about ‘cure’, I’m not talking about SRS (sex reassignment surgery), which in some circles is regarded as a cure – you become who you were meant to be. This presupposes that who you were meant to be is someone of the opposite sex. There are many crossdressers who are happy dressing part time, and for whom SRS would ruin their lives. I also don’t mean ‘never thinks about crossdressing again’, as this is a fairly high bar for a cure, and is surely as inane as asking a dieter to never eat another donut again.

The dictionary defines cure as: ‘a means of healing or restoring to health’

I’d love your comments on this, but as a start, let’s use this as a working definition for cure:

Removing the continuous compulsion to dress in clothes of the opposite sex, and thus the act of dressing that typically follows.

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