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Best Cross-dressing book: My Husband Betty

Last week I finished reading My Husband Betty, a book by Helen Boyd about Love, Sex, and Life with a Crossdresser. I can honestly say that this is the best book I’ve read about the cross-dressing experience. Helen compassionately shares her struggles living with a crossdresser, exposes the hidden truths about cross-dressing that Tri-ESS doesn’t want you to know and shares the real experiences of other woman who live with crossdressers.

My Husband Betty Book

As mentioned in a previous article for women married to a cross-dresser, I still think Peggy Rudd’s book My Husband Wears My Clothes is a valuable resource. Peggy’s book is an excellent guide to cross-dressing 101. Helen’s book is more akin to Transgender 202.

The things I especially appreciated about Helen’s book are her frank and open discussions about cross-dressing and sexuality. This is a topic generally avoided by Tri-ESS, and other books about that discuss cross-dressing purely as a the expression of inner femininity.

I enjoyed Helen’s overview of all members of the transgender community, and discussing the difference between transsexual and transgender. Helen has a keen appreciation for where crossdressers fit into the larger transgender community, as well as some of the conflict that occurs between crossdressers and the same community.

Helen is also not shy to share the “darker side of crossdressing”, very vividly portrayed through the stories of wives and ex-wives of crossdressers. In some sense, the book could be titled “What your husband won’t tell you about crossdressing, but probably should.”

The Crossdressed Husband

My Husband Betty is valuable for the wife of a crossdresser, but I think the crossdressed husband has a duty to read this. An area that we often lack as crossdressers is empathy for our significant other. Resources that help us accept ourselves and share our transgendered nature with others are valuable, but often they don’t prepare us fully for the struggle our loved ones will have.

A highly recommended read - but be warned, My Husband Betty could shatter some of your preconceptions about crossdressers.

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The Transgender Companion is not worth it

Jennifer Seeley wrote the Transgender Companion, which claims that it is the complete guide to becoming the woman you want to be. Intrigued by this, I recently bought and read through the transgender companion.

Jennifer is a non-op, male to female transsexual, and unfortunately spends most of the time justifying her decision not to go through with sex reassignment surgery. Her approach in the book goes overboard in trying not to offend the reader by prefacing almost every opinion she puts forth with words like “this is only my opinion and it’s okay if you think otherwise”. After reading this for the tenth time I started to wonder if she was trying to communicate a hidden message - perhaps she believes there is something wrong with alternate views, and in an effort to appear welcoming she over emphasizes her openness?

The information about transitioning and presenting yourself more convincingly as a woman is okay, but nothing you couldn’t find searching the Internet for a weekend.

The most helpful part of the book was Jennifer’s emphasis on self acceptance and not overly focusing on any one part of your body that you don’t like. Whether it’s your height or broad shoulders, or something else that communicates your masculinity.

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