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There is Only One Toilet

by Vanessa Law

Categories: Crossdressing: The Lighter Side, Vanessa's Transgender Experience

Tags: transgender bathrooms

Comments: 1 Comment

Published on: March 22, 2011

Transgender Bathrooms Aren't All Fun And Games

I was going about my business the other day, as one would on any regular day. I was finishing up some errands before heading home to get ready for an evening out with friends. It must have been one too many Peppermint Teas – which I’ll admit are now my all time favorite and are doing their best to keep my newly kicked coffee addiction at bay – when I just had to go. I rushed into the ladies room to ensure that the tea took it’s rightful place in the circle of life. <Cue Elton John, juxtapose African wildlife with a sewage treatment plant, music crescendos>.

Then it hit me.

There is only one toilet

I’ll never again enter a men’s bathroom.

Not that I consider this much of a loss. Stepping over puddles of urine and trying to avoid all manner of foul odors and hygiene faux pas was never high on my exciting weekend activities.

But it hit me hard. If they introduced a new technology in male urine capture, I would be obvious to it. I’d never get to use the spray-guard 2000 urinal with build in mini-game and real time facebook score tracking. This what it.

Forever I’d have to make do with the pleasantly scented and relaxing confines of the ladies. With it’s walls adorned with artwork, vases overflowing with flowers and floors suspiciously clean and urine free.

With Great Toilet Power Comes Great Responsibility

As I brushed my hair and checked my makeup in the restroom this morning I pondered my earlier advice to crossdressers about using the ladies bathroom. Find a private restroom if possible, get in and out quickly, smile and be confident. When there is only one toilet this advice no longer holds true. It’s not practical to confine myself to single-use restrooms, or to leave my makeup in a state because I couldn’t touch it up for fear of lingering.

This is real life now – there is only one toilet. I’ll wield it’s power wisely.

Transgendered Bathrooms Hit Thailand Schools

by Vanessa Law

Categories: Transgender News and Issues

Tags: crossdresser bathroms, crossdresser in Thailand, crossdresser pee, transgender bathrooms, transgender school

Comments: 3 Comments

Published on: August 6, 2008

Transgender Schools in Thailand

Schools in Thailand have the right idea. According to a recent story from the BBC, a provincial school in Thailand is offering transgendered children their own toilet!

This compromise was reached since the students who identified themselves as transgendered were teased and belittled for using the boy’s bathroom. The girl’s were uncomfortable with them using their bathroom, since the transgendered children weren’t presenting as girls.

I found it interesting that the school was willing to accommodate their students with a third bathroom, yet still require they wear male clothes, and not allow them to wear makeup.

I think it’s a tremendous step forward, in a country where 10%-15% of children identify as transgendered. Yet I can’t help wondering whether this is another form of half acceptance. “At least they’re not wearing makeup”, sounds awfully like many a crossdressers claim that “at least I’m not gay”.

I’ll take the win though, if transgender schools can embrace the diversity of our children it won’t just make the world better for crossdressers in Thailand - who knows how a new generation of children raised with love and acceptance will change the world?

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P.S. Even though the children in Thailand can’t look dress as girls, you can look like the fabulous woman you are – learn how to crossdress and pass as a genetic girl!

Cross-dressing and the female privilege

by Vanessa Law

Categories: Transgender News and Issues

Tags: crossdressing, crossdressing expression, female privilege, Gender Expression, transgender bathrooms

Comments: 10 Comments

Published on: June 9, 2008

A few weeks ago I wrote an article about crossdressing and ladies restrooms. As you may know, opponents of laws protecting gender identity and expression use the terrible threat of “men dressing up as woman to enter the ladies restroom and assault women” as a rallying cry. I can assure you that

Most cross-dressers just want to use the bathroom

Autumn recently posted a thoughtful article about gender expression as it relates to the fear of men using the ladies restroom. It is clear that over the last few centuries straight white males have enjoyed many privileges. As if somehow they were proto-humans, non-gay Caucasian men enjoy more job opportunities, better wages, less discrimination and favorable media coverage.

With all that privilege, though, women do enjoy at least one of their own in this day and age. As Autumn astutely observes – Women are not perceived to be predators.

I think the root of concern about protecting gender expression is intolerance – “you’re not like me”-ism. Yet this is far more difficult to sell to the public – we’re enlightened enough these days that hate and bigotry aren’t good ways of winning the majority to your cause. It is far easier to inflame the already existing fears that “men are predators” as a tactic to prevent free gender expression.

You don’t even need to look hard to come up with a credible sounding case. After all, if the men of God are caught molesting altar boys, surely the transgedered can’t be far behind?

I don’t have a solution for this deep seated fear. Perhaps if we spent more time cherishing all that is good in this world, in our society, we would embrace the unknown rather than running from it.

In that spirit, a dose of good news this morning. The UK has begun a program called

Living Libraries

Rather than a book, people can “borrow a stereotype”, and spend 30 mins with someone who is Muslim or gay or transgendered. The idea is that the best way to break down prejudice is to get to know someone. You can find some more details on transgendered in the living library and a good article here. If you’re in the UK, I encourage you to borrow someone who you may not understand and spend some time listening.

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P.S. Feminize yourself through hypnosis. Become the woman inside today!

Let us take a piss!

by Vanessa Law

Categories: Transgender Info

Tags: crossdresser piss, Crossdressing Cure, transgender bathrooms, transgendered

Comments: 4 Comments

Published on: March 29, 2008

I regularly post on Yahoo Answers, answering questions about the transgendered and cross dressing. (My Yahoo profile). I really enjoy helping people come to terms with their transgenderedness, or that of a loved one. Recently Fire Falcon answered a question about the transgendered using the ladies bathroom, and I thought it was too good not to share with all of you:

[[One of my friends was ranting about how some transvestite was saying he wanted to be able to go to the ladies’ bathroom and all this other crap.]]
So what? A bathroom is for taking a leak and other such things. While I don’t necessarily agree with transvestites or crossdressers using the bathroom of the gender they are presenting as, I have no issue with it because GASP… Dressing like a girl and going into the men’s bathroom is asking to get your face beat in, and there’s already too much violence and hatred in this messed up world.

A transvestite, transgender nor a transsexual is coming in there to peer at your goodies or try and rape you– they’re coming to use the bathroom they feel is right for them, so they don’t get the crap beat out of them in the other bathroom. Calling the cops on someone who runs in, tinkles, washes their hands and runs back out is not only absurd, but borderlines on cruel.

For god’s sake, let people take a piss.

I think that pretty much says it all…

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