Crossdresser Heaven

Do you want to help our transgendered sisters

Do you want to raise awareness of crossdressing?
Do you wish for a day when the transgendered could step out of the shadows?

I do. I long for the day when we would be treated as equals in society. As valuable human beings who get to share in all the joy that life brings - openly and without fear.

Through Crossdresser Heaven I have tried to paint a picture of the transgendered as human beings - in all their wisdom and humor, failings and folly. Through my writing I hope to shine a path for us out of the shadows and into acceptance.

But I can’t do it alone.

I need your help.
Right now you have a tremendous opportunity to help the transgender community. You can do it from the privacy of your own home, and it won’t take more than a few seconds.

If you want to help those in the transgendered community - please read on!

Yahoo has just released a tool that allows you to vote on articles you think others should read. It’s called "Buzz Up!". All you need to do is click the "Buzz Up!" button next to an article you would like to share, follow the short steps that Yahoo gives you and you’ve helped to share the transgender lifestyle with millions of others who may never be exposed to it.

Thanks for your help and support - together our community can stand strong!

Cross dressers - don’t apologize for who you are

“I can understand why they would think I’m a freak. After all, I look like a man in a dress.”
Does this sound familiar? Or perhaps you’ve said it to yourself in a different variation that involves condoning snide remarks, not letting you in to a bar or even calling the cops. After all, you’re a man in a dress and society has a right to be outraged, don’t they?

The answer is no. No human being should ever have to apologize for who they are. No one should be forced to hide the light of their soul to satisfy the norms of society.

Susan does a great job addressing what is essentially ‘blaming the victim’ in a podcast from two weeks ago. She argues strongly that in order to make any progress with civil rights for the transgendered we cannot continue to blame the victim - in this case the transgendered - for being who they are. It’s not acceptable to condone violence and hate because someone is different, any more than it is acceptable to rape a woman just because she is wearing a short skirt in a bad neighborhood.

Now, I’m not advocating that you throw caution to the wind, don your 5″ heels and strut self-righteously to the nearest tavern. You’re likely to leave with a bruised ego, or possibly worse. The object isn’t to try and make a fool of yourself. Next time you put in the effort to look like a natural woman, I am asking you to silence the voice inside your head that tells you ‘I deserve to be stared at’, ‘I deserve to be treated as a freak’.

What you deserve is to be treated with dignity and respect, just as you would treat anyone else - regardless of their race, religion, sexual preference or gender identity. You see, the first step to equality starts inside our own mind. Only once we believe we are worthy are we able to stand up sincerely to defend our worth.

Ladies, I would love to hear about your story of how you stood up for your self worth, even if it was just in your thoughts, refusing to let your identity be determined by someone else. Comment and let me know.

Hugs,
Vanessa

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How to survive financially as a transgendered person

I was recently reading a story about a transgendered man who was fired from his job for being transgendered. Unfortunately this kind of discrimination against the transgendered is all too common. I’ve read many more stories online about transgendered people who are struggling to find work, a few months ago I wrote about a former mayor who was fired for being transgendered. Not only do we bear the high cost of therapy to come to terms with who we are, but should we decide to transition to another gender we would spend upwards of $20,000 to become the woman of our dreams. Then on top of that we face discrimination from employers.

The situation is improving, as more transgendered people are being elected, but for most of us the prospect of losing our jobs and our livelihoods looms large. And this happens at a time when we are most vulnerable, our support network - friends and family, may have abandoned us. Recovering from surgery, alone and scarred, we face the daunting possibility of being out of work.

So what can we do about it?

One of my other passions in life is helping people find a profitable home based business that will provide a stable additional income. I hesitate to share this with readers of Cross Dresser Heaven, because you didn’t come here to find out about business opportunities or ways to improve your financial situation. Tonight as I read Ethan’s story, new rules that make it difficult for the transgendered to find jobs and the lengths some transsexuals go to survive my heart breaks.

If only we had a second income stream that wasn’t dependent on the whims of our employer, we could transition without fearing for our livelihood. I encourage you to find out how to create multiple streams of income by visiting the Million Mind Intensive Seminar. If you would like more information about starting your own home based business, please contact me and I will help you find the right opportunity.

With love,

Vanessa

Wherever you are, you are still you

This last week I was reading about Brigitte Fell, a transsexual in Australia who is suing the police because they reveled her past to her boyfriend. This was followed shortly by an article about her violent outburst in a store.

Each time the headlines broadcasting in 20 point font that she is a transsexual, as if that explains her actions, as well grouping all transsexuals into violent woman who are insecure and constantly worry that others may ‘know’ they’re a man. In the case of the violent outburst in a store, Brigitte heard the owner and a customer laughing, and assumed they were laughing at her.

Girls, we have enough negative press from shows like Jerry Springer. The only exposure some of the world has to us is as violent, unstable, angry weirdos, who are at best sexually perverse dregs of society who make for entertaining television. As we know, this describes only a very small percentage of us (I’m going to guess about the same percentage as the general population). We need to work hard to overcome the stereotypes people have. And it doesn’t help when we reinforce them, like Brigitte recently did.

A few days ago I wrote about an Indian transsexual who is starting a talk show. She will be a positive role model for those in India.

Wherever you are, remember to be the loving, kind, gentle, caring person, who shines through the positive attributes of a woman. The world needs to see more of us like this.