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Counselors should be advocates for the transgendered

This is the conclusion of research done by two PhD students at the university of Oregon, who spent years studying transgender issues. They explored the issues of discrimination in the workplace and transphobia that many in the transgendered community experience. They also lament the lack of qualified counselors available for the transgendered.

I think it’s wonderful that more and more researchers are devoting time to transgendered studies. When more people examine and question pre-conceived notions they advance the state of the art in our understanding. I think this can only be a win for the transgender community, as the medical profession gains a better understanding of who we are, why we are transgendered and how best to ensure we live healthy fulfilled lives.

I poked around the Internet some, and found a few valuable resources. Naturally wikipedia has a great article, I even found an article by our local Seattle and King County health department addressing transgender health as well as this great site which covers many issues transsexuals face. If you’re confused about where on the gender spectrum you fall, this gender test is a good place to start. It will give you some thoughts, and hopefully encourage you to seek counseling if you struggle with your gender identity.

Thank You!

Thank you all for your supportive and encouraging comments. My heart is overflowing with warmth now. I realize the wonderful thing about cross dressing is that it brings the most wonderful, caring people into my life. Lisa Ann, Alicia, Lynn, April and Polly you have brought a smile to my face!

It seemed as if many of you feel the desire to be ‘femme’ – to dress and act like a woman, but still loving your male body. Lynn’s comment struck me – that she doesn’t feel split, but rather a whole, integrated person who sometimes dresses like a woman, and other times like a guy.

It seems so true that it is all about accepting yourself for who you are. There are no rules as to ‘how’ you should be transgender. Perhaps, for me, it is the ‘type A’ part of my personality that wants to do everything as well as I can. When I feel like dressing as a woman, well, I have to do it ‘all the way’.

Many times when I’m in ‘male mode’ (as it were), I find myself thinking and acting as a woman. For me, this feels comfortable and right.  Yet it does make me wonder what it would feel like to be a woman every day.

Again, thank you all for your kind words. I have been giving them a lot of thought these past few days.

Hugs,

Living between the man I am and the girl I want to be

It feels so right. Exercising my feminine grace, sharing my soul with a friend or stranger, working on being beautiful. Becoming a woman seems like the worthiest outcome of my efforts, and whenever I think about the necessary practice and perfection to get there it lights a smile inside my soul.

Yet for all my strong desires to be a woman, I go to work on Monday without a trace of the girl within me. I do not need to suffer the sacrifice so many transsexuals make when they transition. And I wonder, is my desire for womanhood just a fantasy that amuses me in my time away from real life?

My lovely wife has been wonderfully supportive. She’s shown more support than I dreamt I would receive. Yet, she loves me for the man I am, and I know that going further down the path to womanhood would mean that I lose the most precious thing in the world to me – the relationship I have with my wife.

Somehow, it feels false for me to split my time between being a man and a woman. It feels more whole to be a man on the journey to womanhood. That even though it is slow, each step is deliberate with a well known end goal. To set such a definitive direction would mean so many things, not least of which are many uncomfortable conversations with those I love.

Don’t misunderstand my confusion – I have come to terms with being transgender – I love and accept that part of myself, along with the many other talents and gifts God has blessed me with. Yet I still struggle with how to express it in a fulfilling way. Unless I have a clear path before me, I resist the necessary practice in the feminine ways that would take me closer to being a woman. If being transgender is part time, more of a ‘hobby’ than a lifestyle for me, how can I be fulfilled?

Some changes to Crossdresser Heaven

Hi folks,

I’ve made a few tweaks to the website, to clean it up a bit, and make it easier to find articles based on categories. Hopefully this will make it easier for you to find what you’re looking for.

If there is anything you would like to see discussed in an upcoming article, please let me know and I’ll get make sure to include a post on it in the near future.

Thanks for reading – your comments and continued visits to www.crossdresserheaven.com keep me inspired to post more content about transgendered life, and the issues we face.

Hugs,

Free sex change for convicted criminals goes too far

image The radio waves and Internet have been abuzz recently with the court case of a transgendered inmate, Michelle Kosilek (formerly Robert) who is suing to be allowed a sex change in prison. Michelle, a convicted murderer is suing because she has been refused sex-change surgery, and treatments such as hair removal and hormone treatment.

This has angered some in the blogosphere, who are vehemently against our tax dollars being used to provide a sex change for a convicted felon. Michelle claims that “The greatest loss is the dying I do inside a little bit every day.”

PLEASE!

Perhaps you should have thought about that before you murdered your wife.

It’s ridiculous that lawyers are claiming this as an example of poor treatment transgendered inmates receive. Very few hardworking, law abiding transsexuals can afford to have sex reassignment surgery. We shouldn’t be providing this free of charge to criminals.

Judge Mark Wolf should be ashamed of himself for ruling that tax payers should foot the more than $20,000 required for the surgery.

Papamoka sums it up nicely:

This monster is making the crime he committed secondary in public opinion and murder is still murder but his sex change is more important to him? Screw him …. He killed his wife! This is not a transgender argument as much as it is a manipulative monster using up court time for something that should be a simple answer. NO! You can not have a sex change operation!

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