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What Is Your Crossdressing Personality?
Last night my wife and I were watching the episode of Boston Legal where Clarence - the otherwise shy unassuming lawyer who enjoys crossdressing in his spare time - enters a singing competition as his alter ego Clarice. We watched the dramatic transformation - his feminine persona shone radiantly with confidence when she set foot on stage. Singing, dancing and shaking her booty with freewheeling abandon. As if crossdressing psychology had dazzled her mind and switched her personality.
After the show my wife asked me a question which got me thinking about my crossdressing personality. Am I more confident and outgoing when dressed as Vanessa? Does my personality change in ways not easily explained by being more feminine?
What Is My Crossdressing Personality?
When I put on my makeup, heels and hose I become more feminine, more outgoing, more confident, more excitable, less contemplative, less uncertain and more open to being vulnerable. When I’m in male mode I’m constantly worried about what people will think of me. I try to be perfect, to not offend anyone, I shape who I am to fit into the person I believe others want me to be. When the transvestite inside of me comes out I realize that I’ve probably already offended some people. I don’t mold myself to their expectations, but find myself free to be who I am inside.
It’s a strange balance. I find myself less interested in what others think about me and more interested in them. Even a light dusting of makeup and a feminine mindset will find me chatting with cashiers in the checkout line, willing to share a piece of my day and eager to hear a bit more about theirs.
In truth I like who I am when I’m crossdressed. I think that if there was socially acceptable cross dressing more people would feel comfortable expressing a different side of themselves. We may even find that crossdressing psychology is sometimes the best kind of psychology.
What Is Your Crossdressing Personality?
Does your experience mirror mine? Think about what it’s like when you’re the woman of your dreams. Who do you become when you’re dressed?
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Testimony Movie - Religion, Coming Out And The Transgender Experience
Testimony is a documentary that explores the similarity in experience between evangelical Christians who accept Jesus Christ and that of gays and lesbian who come out for the first time. This documentary takes a unique look at people who have had both experiences in their lives - coming out and accepting Jesus Christ. As well as their struggle to accept themselves in spite of God’s seeming condemnation of their life style.
This is not a transgender movie
But there are still many parallels with the transgendered experience. The transvestite who struggles with her disillusionment at the church’s lack of acceptance. The crossdresser who has to cross an untraveled spiritual road, sometimes alone.
No, this movie is not a transgender movie, but rather a movie that captures the troubled journey so similar to ours, as told through the lives of our gay brothers and sisters. Rather than a deep cry against religion, the Testimony movie seeks to offer hope and encouragement to others who are struggling to live as who they are and love the God they know exists.
You can view a mini-film version of Testimony here, which provocatively opens with the question: “Is it possible to be religious and queer?” Where the answers range from the life affirming “Absolutely, I think that Jesus loves us all” and “Love knows no gender” to the hurtful “The people that I grew up with no longer speak to me”.
In my life it has been a struggle to reconcile being transgendered with following Jesus Christ. After many years of agony and soul searching I believe that crossdressing has made me more human. That I have a greater capacity for love and tolerance because I was blessed with being different. In accepting who I am, my soul has had to bend and shape itself to accept others for who they are.
How has being transgendered affected you?
Loading ...If you are struggling to reconcile your religious beliefs with being transgendered I strongly encourage you to take a look at the wonderful resources at transfaithonline
Crossdressing Walk - Science Shows Us A Feminine Walk
Finding Your Crossdressing Walk
Researchers recently attached lights to people walking to study the characteristics of a feminine walk, and a masculine walk. Here you can find a short video showing the crossdressing walk. You’ll notice that the more feminine walk shows the hips rotating in a swinging fashion while the shoulders rotate in response. I’ve seen a few transvestites who try to swing their hips while keeping their shoulders straight. This looks, and feels awkward.
Another hallmark of the feminine walk is keeping your legs close together, while your feet seem to be treading an invisible line. This is difficult to do if you’re wearing heels, and can look a bit overdone if you cross your feet in front of you. In the video you’ll see that the feminine walk is a bit exaggerated, but it’s instructive when you look at the more masculine walks.
A lack of swinging in the hips and more balanced legs are more masculine. If you’re knees are pointed outward with your center of gravity on your chest area you’ll quickly be read as a man.
I found this video to contain some valuable advice for the transgendered looking to improve their feminine walk. Remember - keep your center of gravity over your hips, stand up straight and keep your legs closer together!
Happy Crossdressing!
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For more great crossdressing advice check out the ultimate crossdressing guide.
Navigating the transgender world: The difference between transsexuals, drag queens and cross dressers
For your typical heterosexual man or woman the transgender world can seem quite perplexing. Not only is the whole concept difficult to grasp (’you’re a man, why do you want to be a woman?’), but even within transgendered there is great diversity.
None of this is helped by the myths that have become widely voiced within society. To begin with I will first dispel some of the most common myths about the transgendered:
Myth 1: The transgendered are homosexual
This is probably the most common misunderstanding. There is a difference between sexual orientation (straight, gay, bisexual) and gender identity (self identify as a man or a woman). The transgendered identify or express themselves as a gender that is different from one in which they were born. This video gives a good overview of the differences between sexual orientation and gender identity. Most transgendered are not homosexual, in fact the vast majority of crossdressers are straight.
Myth 2: All transgendered are sex workers, adult entertainers or freaks seeking attention
Thank you Jerry Springer for perpetuating this myth! Most of us live normal lives - we go to school / work, spend time with our families and friends and engage in other hobbies just like the rest of society. In fact, being treated as a normal woman is often a sufficient motivation that many of us endure long hours practicing and perfecting our femininity. It is unfortunate that discrimination has forced some transgendered people out of their jobs, and they feel they must turn to less wholesome professions in order to survive.
Myth 3: All transgendered want to get a sex change
This myth still causes controversy within the transgendered community, as some who have undergone sex reassignment surgery (SRS) struggle to understand why someone would act and dress as someone of the opposite sex without wanting a sex change. The truth is that the transgendered experience is a spectrum, from those who only occasionally wear clothes of the opposite sex, to those who undergo SRS and live full time as the opposite sex.
The Truth about Transgendered
I’m always weary of creating nice, neat categories, and then sorting people into these categories. This ignores the natural diversity, and by showcasing the differences can also increase discrimination and instill an ‘us vs them’ mentality. However, even with these pitfalls, I think describing the commonly used categorizations within the transgendered world we are able to have a better conversation about what it means to be transgendered. As you’re reading this, please do not try to define a person by the category, but keep in mind that while people may identify with a particular group it is only a small window into who they are as a human.
I mentioned earlier that transgendered is a spectrum. I’m going to define and discuss some points along this spectrum. For the purposes of brevity I’m going to talk about the male transgendered, though there are female to male transgendered as well.
Transgender: An umbrella term used to describe a person (male or female), who dresses or behaves in a way that is different from their sex at birth.
Cross dresser: A man who dresses in woman’s clothes either part time or full time. Often taking on the mannerisms and appearance of woman. Most crossdressers are straight, and many are in a relationship with a person of the opposite sex. Cross dressers normally do not want to feminize their body, or undergo SRS.
Transvestite: A person who cross dresses. The term cross dresser is preferred, as sometimes the term transvestite is (wrongly) associated with a transvestic fetish (which are those who occasionally use clothing of the opposite gender for fetish purposes).
Drag Queen (and King): A stage artist, host or performer who wears makeup and woman’s clothing with the purpose of entertaining or highlighting transgender issues. If only done for the performance, these people are not considered cross dressers.
Transsexual: A person who has the desire to live and be accepted as the opposite sex. Typically men will feel like ‘a woman trapped in a man’s body’. Having undergone SRS (or post operative transsexual) is not a requirement for being a transsexual. Often times a transsexual will take steps to feminize their bodies (e.g. through hormones)
Intersexed: A person who is born with sexual anatomy that does not fit the typical definitions of male or female. There are many different varieties of this difference, e.g. being born with genitals that seem in between male and female, or male on the outside, female on the inside, or even having both XX and XY chromosomes.
Some valuable resources for continued reading are:
Some changes to Crossdresser Heaven
Hi folks,
I’ve made a few tweaks to the website, to clean it up a bit, and make it easier to find articles based on categories. Hopefully this will make it easier for you to find what you’re looking for.
If there is anything you would like to see discussed in an upcoming article, please let me know and I’ll get make sure to include a post on it in the near future.
Thanks for reading - your comments and continued visits to www.crossdresserheaven.com keep me inspired to post more content about transgendered life, and the issues we face.
Hugs,
Free sex change for convicted criminals goes too far
The radio waves and Internet have been abuzz recently with the court case of a transgendered inmate, Michelle Kosilek (formerly Robert) who is suing to be allowed a sex change in prison. Michelle, a convicted murderer is suing because she has been refused sex-change surgery, and treatments such as hair removal and hormone treatment.
This has angered some in the blogosphere, who are vehemently against our tax dollars being used to provide a sex change for a convicted felon. Michelle claims that “The greatest loss is the dying I do inside a little bit every day.”
PLEASE!
Perhaps you should have thought about that before you murdered your wife.
It’s ridiculous that lawyers are claiming this as an example of poor treatment transgendered inmates receive. Very few hardworking, law abiding transsexuals can afford to have sex reassignment surgery. We shouldn’t be providing this free of charge to criminals.
Judge Mark Wolf should be ashamed of himself for ruling that tax payers should foot the more than $20,000 required for the surgery.
Papamoka sums it up nicely:
This monster is making the crime he committed secondary in public opinion and murder is still murder but his sex change is more important to him? Screw him …. He killed his wife! This is not a transgender argument as much as it is a manipulative monster using up court time for something that should be a simple answer. NO! You can not have a sex change operation!
The pitfalls of being a good Christian crossdresser
There are Christians who ostracize the transgendered for being different. They say crossdressing is a sin. By submitting themselves to the will of the church, and fervently seeking God, a few of us have found freedom. Yet for most of us, no matter how hard we pray, how much we definitely want to be cured, how guilty we feel - we wake up each morning as who we are. A transgendered person. Not free, but shackled by the guilt heaped upon us by ‘loving’ and ‘well meaning’ Christian brothers and sisters.
There are other Christians who believe differently. Who believe that God loves the transgendered, and that who we are is not in. Many of these Christians have previously had the weight of the church’s disfavored poured upon them.
I believe, humbly, that whichever group of Christians we choose to believe, that there are dangers that lurk for us. If we submit to the first group, and label our transgendered-ness as sin, we label ourselves as sin. We do not accept who we are.. Then rather than let our light shine, we hide it under a bowl, trying to constrain our spirit. We live only the half-live of those who are afraid to love to much, or sing too loudly.
If we throw our lot behind those who accept and love us, we may be fooled into believing that our purpose is to be transsexual or transgender. In doing this we create a god our of our difference, and spend our days worshipping the desire to fully become woman.
Again Allyson has provided some insight for us.
I believe our challenge is to fully embrace who we are, while at the same time living for God. The transition is not an end unto itself, but a means to more fully fulfill God’s purpose in our lives.
Transgender 101
Gender identity can be difficult to understand, even for those of us who have struggled with our own. The video below gives a good overview of gender. Sex (which is the anatomical representation of our sex), Gender role (our expression of gender - masculine, feminine) and Gender identity (our self-identified gender). Thanks to Allyson for first introducing me to this video on her website.
Christianity Today comes up short for the transgender community
Christianity Today attempts to address how Christian leadership should treat the transgendered, but fails both in their compassion for people who are transgendered, and their interpretation of God’s Word. They begin by describing the situation John Nemecek found himself in - a former Baptist Pastor and long time dean at the Spring Arbor University had struggled for years with his gender identity. When he finally accepted his identity as a woman and found peace, he was fired from his job.
They demonstrate very clearly their lack of understanding by deriding what they term “liberal religious groups”, and say that “transgender impulses … don’t match up with the Christian sexual ethic.” I’ve been a Christian for most of my life and have no idea what the “Christian sexual ethic” is. Is it perhaps the ethic that rails against interracial marriage, or is the one that ensures woman are kept in their rightful place at home? It seems to me that the ‘Christian sexual ethic’ is conveniently defined to be whatever the conservative Christian community feels comfortable with this century.
Despite the paucity of their understanding of what God’s Word says about the transgendered, they do accurately recognize that a church community is likely to feel tension between welcoming us into their church, and keeping the peace with long standing church members. This is the unfortunate reality that we live in today.
I honestly think it is disgusting for conservative organizations to comment that we’re “wacky” and “radical”. I know very few transgendered folks who didn’t struggle for years to “be normal”.
“The transgender lobby is following the example of the homosexual lobby in that they are co-opting the language of the civil rights movement in order to push their own radical and wacky agenda,”
We are not a “violation of natural law” as some conservative Christian’s would have you believe. I do strongly believe that God can do anything, and should He choose to make us feel whole in the body we were born with, it is well within His power.
I am deeply angered by self righteous Christian who claim to know God’s word, yet they only choose to obey the commandments they conveniently self-selected.
Addendum:
After reading many of the comments on their website I’m heartened by the love, compassion and understanding so many of their readers have shown. I remain hopeful that if we would give it a chance, the love of Jesus Christ would shine through us all.
The power of a dress
What is it about a dress that captivates us so? When I see a sexy dress in the store my body tingles. I imagine myself wearing the dress, I imagine myself looking as good as the woman I see wearing it.
The perfect swoop of a well tailored dress, revealing just enough to entice, hugging my body like a lover. The femininity of it captures my imagine, and lights a fire in my soul. To be such a delicate creature as to wear this dress. That is divine.
You may ask me why I feel this way. To that I’m not sure. As surely as the need to breathe and express life in this world I need to wear this dress. Is this wrong? Wrong would be to deny who I am.
