Comments on: The Keys To Crossdresser Success

By: Zosimus the Heathen

Zosimus the Heathen — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 08:19:43 +0000

I loved your breakdown of four key attributes to have!

Why thank you.

By: Vanessa Law

Vanessa Law — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 04:17:12 +0000

Insightful comments, thanks girls!
Lynn, it’s a great point that there are other mountains to climb – being transgendered is not the ultimate goal in life, but who you are as you live the life that you were born to live.

Zosimus, it’s so true that the more you accept yourself the more others accept you. The irony of life is that the more you need other’s acceptance the less they’ll give it to you. I loved your breakdown of four key attributes to have!

I think you summed it up nicely Brandy with “get a life”

By: Teresa Bowers

Teresa Bowers — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 18:51:08 +0000

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By: Brandy

Brandy — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 06:59:41 +0000

Yea, I agree. Get a life. What a person wears is not that big of a deal. It doesn’t change your intrinsic nature.
I dress in various outfits throughout the day depending on the task at hand. Wearing a nice outfit to work if I am doing something involving grunge just does not make sense.
Is that a man dressing as a woman?
Maybe it’s a person with a male body choosing clothing to wear, clothing I like, clothing that feels good, clothing that supports what I am trying to get done.

And halloween is going to be fun!

By: Zosimus the Heathen

Zosimus the Heathen — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 13:17:52 +0000

I’d have to say that I’ve been very lucky in that I’ve always accepted my transgender tendencies. I remember even as a child feeling somewhat “girly”, and while I sometimes thought that was a bit odd, I can’t say it ever really bothered me. As a result, I’ve always been very open about this side of me, and I’d have to say that this has yielded positive results far more often than not. The more you like and accept yourself, I’ve found, the more likely other people are to do the same, which in turn tends to make you even more comfortable in your own skin.

To generalize a bit, I often think that if you engage in any kind of behaviour that society considers “deviant” (not just cross-dressing), there are four qualities you can have that’ll greatly reduce your chances of being ostracized.
1) Strength – obviously. Just don’t give a shit what other people think of you. (Isn’t it funny how people are much more likely to like those who don’t try too hard to be liked?)
2) Intelligence – since people tend to respect the smart (if begrudgingly at times). The more intelligence and wisdom you have, too, the less likely you’ll be to do stupid things that’ll only reinforce other people’s negative views about people like you.
3) Charm – since nothing seems to drive people crazier than wanting to hate someone but being unable to because they’re just too damn likable!
4) Talent – be really good at at least one thing that other people appreciate (since they’ll be more likely to, at the very least, tolerate having you around). This ties in with what you said about being able to make a meaningful contribution to family and society. (It’s probably also why so many geniuses get away with being such utter weirdos!)