Comments on: Why do men cross dress – A follow up

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Thu, 10 Nov 2011 18:41:05 +0000

I am a theater pit orchestra musician. I first discovered cross dressing when I played Cabaret. For those of you who don’t know the show, it is set in a Cabaret in Berlin, in 1936, just as Hitler is beginning his rise to power. The entire orchestra is part of the show, and is supposed to be dressed as “drag queens.” In the production I played, they toned the orchestra down a bit, but we were stil all dressed as women. At first, it was a hoot, but as the run of the show continued, I found myself looking forward to changing out of my “man clothes” and into sexy underwear, and female street clothes. At about the same time, my wife and I split up, becasue she wanted to move to Arizona to pursue her master’s degree, and because I always felt so guilty leaving her at home alone,while I went off to play shows. So I started wearing women’s clothing around the house when I was home alone. It helped me feel like there was a female in the house with me. Also, I do find I get a bit of a slight sexual “turn-on” when I am wearing sexy underclothing. I have been “underdressing” now, for the past six years.

Some women I have dated were okay with my proclivity, and some were not. Those who were not, didn’t get a second date. LOL

I occasionally go out in public “dressed” but not often. In my location, it can be very dangerous, if you are “clocked” by one of the local homophobes.

A few years back, I embarked on the “flat-to-fem” program, primarily because breast forms, no matter how good, are uncomfortably hot. It is much more comfortable to have my own breasts and simply wear a bra. By selecting ones that fit properly, I achieve a feminine figure, without discomfort. I have discovered that with bras, like many things in life, you get what you pay for. All of the bras in my drawer are “high end”, costing on average about $50.00 each. But I digress …

I find that when I am dressed, I tend to change my way of looking at problems, and I am much more accepting of feelings as viable approaches to problem solving. I also find myself more attuned to other people’s feelings, even when I am speaking with them by telephone.

I am not interested in transitioning, which is probably a good thing, as I am in my sixties, and probably not a good candidate for all the hormonal and surgical proceedures necessary. I have a few close friends who know tht I cross dress, and I am fond of joking with them that I lived through the nineties, and found the woman in me. They always respond with, “Yes, we see you have, She’s a lesbian, isn’t she?” LOL

By: Vanessa Law

Vanessa Law — Wed, 12 Oct 2011 00:17:51 +0000

That’s often when it starts for crossdressers Andy – thanks for sharing your story!

By: andy

andy — Sun, 09 Oct 2011 09:30:53 +0000

i”ve worn female lingerie since my early teens, maybe before the first time i can remember was in the junior school play when in had to borrow a girls tights to plaY A CAT loved it then love it more now you cannot beat the feel of stockings and a sexy lace garter belt or bustier im now into short skirts and heels

By: Rockyrich119

Rockyrich119 — Fri, 16 Sep 2011 21:41:00 +0000

Several years ago I met this wonderful woman (Dee), she was open to any kind of sex I want and when ever. She will do anything I ask when it comes to sex, 100% of the time. She also tells me what she wants when it comes to sex, and she also get it 100% of the time.

One night she want to do role refersal, I said ok. She got out her strapon and had her way with me. The next day she came home with some womens clothes and wanted me to put them on. She said if we are going to switch roles you can wear the clothes. I like the way they feel. Soft and sexy when I put them on. Since that day I haven’t woren any mens underwear, just panties and garters, nylons to work. We have great sex every day with each other or some of our friends. I wish I had met her 20 year earlier, what a great time we would of had.

By: Daywalker1966

Daywalker1966 — Sat, 09 Jul 2011 22:38:00 +0000

I’m also a Goth. I love candles and elaborate candle holders, I hate artificial light. I stand in raging storms and enjoy rain and lightning, most people run from it. I enjoy walks in old graveyards and abandoned houses, most people are scared of them. I listen to creepy music sometimes, such as Midnight Syndicate, and I love black clothes, victorian clothes, and many things most people wont associate with. I’m not mentally ill, just different and I was born that way. I slide easily into victorian clothing, vampire clothing, my female side, etc, with ease.

Ever human being is an actor, with props and lines. Everyone becomes a parent, a worker, a student, whatever, and they put on the “costume” and play the part. Me ,I can become my lady side and or the victorian vampire with ease. It’s all part of the show. I simply enjoy it more than most people, especially those who scorn such things as “abnormal”.