Girl friends and wives want to know.
Why do men cross dress?
Why does my husband cross dress?
How can I make him stop cross dressing?
The unfortunate truth, is that there is no simple, one line answer to these questions. If there were, you probably wouldn’t be reading this article, and the debates on this topic would be silent.
In my personal experience, the fascination with woman’s clothes started when I was very young. I must have been about four years old, and I remember going to great lengths to procure and then wear my mom’s nightie. My most vivid memory is as a teenager, nervously buying a pair of pantyhose from a local supermarket and then wearing them home under my pants.
I felt (and still feel) a need to wear woman’s clothes, and I can’t quite explain where it comes from. The media like to think of cross dressing as a sexual perversion, and so naturally they see the desire to cross dress and purely for sexual gratification. The problem with this theory is that when I (and many others) first felt the desire to cross dress I didn’t know what sex was.
Many cross dressers I’ve asked describe the need as ‘feeling more comfortable wearing woman’s clothes’. This is sometimes (but not always) coupled with the desire to be seen as a woman. To not just dress like a woman, but behave like one as well, to wear make-up and otherwise pass as a woman. There are others who cross dress for sexual excitement. The need to cross dress is indeed a spectrum.
That still doesn’t answer the question why do men cross dress?
Marcy proposes a few interesting answers to this questions.
One argument is that transvestism of cross-dressing is a way of offering a challenge to society’s preconceptions about gender. Some men cross-dress because they are unhappy at being men. Others didn’t mind the male state, but also like to put on women’s clothes occasionally. Some men cross-dress simply to make a passing social or fashion statement, and some because they have emotional needs that can only be met by the comfort that wearing women’s clothes gives them.
Yet the true reason why men cross dress remains somewhat of a mystery. It is intensely personal, often confusing and sometimes guilt ridden. I’m hopeful that as society grows more tolerant of diverse gender expression we will see more cross dressers and transgendered stepping forward to share their stories. Without the need to justify their behavior, and no longer shamed by society perhaps we will be better able to answer this baffling question.
Comment and let me know, I would love to hear- why do you cross dress?
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Vanessa is a happily married 30 year old transgendered woman from Seattle. It's been a long road to acceptance for her, despite the fact that she has been crossdressing for more than 25 years. Sometimes, when she looks in the mirror she longs to see the girl that lives
within her. 
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i think the real reson men crossdress is because our socity is very feminen, if we had a lot more violence like say they did 1000 years ago ther would be less of it, either because crossdressers would be killed or to busy fighting to keep from being killed.but then agin crossdressing has been around sinc the begining of time think about it didnt both adam and eve wear a big leaf?
remember who the first crossdresser was? adam he wore one of eves big leafs
I wrote a while back for some advise on why my boyfriend likes to be dressed in my clothes. First, thank you everyone for the great comments. They were helpful. However, I am still wondering what drives him to do this. He recently admitted in a round about way that he is bisexual, but says he’s never had a sexual experience with another man. I am open to allowing him to explore this part of his sexuality because I know he won’t leave me for a man, but it does make me nervous. I am not quite sure the question I am trying to ask of all of you, but I know I need some outside sources to give me insight on this issue. He really likes to be dressed up in bed, which I have come to like, and still occasionally wears things like panties in day to day life. I don’t have a problem with any of it, but I need to know why he is this way and why he likes it so much. I have tried to talk to him, but he doesn’t want to talk about it. My problem with is that he can be open enough for me to help dress him and to tell me that he is essentially bisexual, but won’t discuss anything to do with any of it. I want to know if this is something has has always done, but just in secret, and now he feels he can be open about it. I don’t know how to bring it up to him without offending him or making him feel ashamed. I would never want him to think I see him as anything other than the man I love. Can someone please let me know what they think because this is starting to drive me nuts! Thanks!!
Sabrina, I kind of doubt that he is bisexual ! From what you have said , I don’t think he knows who he is, or what he wants himself ! Before anyone can help him ,he has got to be honest with himself . You cannot expect him to tell you what he wants when he isn’t sure himself. If I had more to go on, I might be able to help a little better. Have you talked to him about seeing a therapist ? He might be suffering from gender dysphoria . A therapist will knowthe signs , but he will have to be honest with him or her.Sorry I couldn’t be more help!
Sabrina, many of us have fantasies about being with another man, or more frequently another CD or TS. Fantasies are a difficult thing becayse we always have them scripted in our heads and they never really pan out they way we want them too. Sometimes we are embarrassed to let people in to our innermost person and let them know what we are really hoping for. It took me a long time to explain this to my wife. But once I was able to let her fully in and have her understand my desires, I felt like a weight had been lifted. He is extremely fortunate to have you in his life, but be patient, your being accepting of his crossdressing might be all that he can emotionally and mentally handle right at this point. As he becomes more comfortable he may let you in a little farther. It does take time, it has for all of us.
Why Do Men Cross dress?
Speaking for myself I’m not sure why.
I enjoy the feeling cross dressing provides both physical and psychological.
I remember, as a little boy, being envious of little girls at least I think I do. Memory is a funny thing, and we often invent or exaggerate the past to predict or justify the present.
I get a thrill from the fact that cross dressing is still (somewhat) taboo.
But I have to admit it is a taboo without many serious risks.
A safe taboo as it were. For me anyway the best of all worlds.
The danger (minimal) associated with partaking of forbidden activity, plus the physical and psychological pleasure gained also delivers a certain youthful energy, and as I age this seems increasingly important.
In short, I’m not sure why I cross dress, but I suspect there’s no single reason.
Sebrina, god bless you both first it is so hard for any of us to find the courage to come clean with our ladies and he is very lucky to have your help and wanting to understand and support.for one i know i would give anything for a girl such as you. I think that he may well eant to experriance another guy, but if youboth work it out nicely and you dont mind i think it may be great but dont allow the experiance to couse a problem between you, i dream of being able to dress with a ldy go out and pick up a guy for us both to enjoy hope you work it out , but ywes it is veryhard for most us cds to open up and explain, because i dont htink any of us know how or why we MUST dress good luck penny
Dear sabrina you are very special, but i know i have writen before and you say you still wonder why he has this need to dress, well i ha ve been dressing since i was 12 now 55 and i can not explain why I need to dress, but I can assure you that I do Need to. I an also sure that he most likely cannot explain why it is shuch a strong need that he and we all have but it is like breathing and i am sure it will always be there . I also asure you that dressing allows us to explore the bi thing I for one love to dress put on make up go to gay clubs and be a tramp. when dressed i become the fem tramp thing that I would love to be and I would bet that he might , no probably will like dessing and being taken as a girl good luck and love you both penny
Hello Sabrina,
I am a 59 yr. old male that has had crossdressing tendencies since I was about 10 yrs old. Now what I’m about to share is only my opinion. I feel this need to cross dress is because of our genitic background. The way I look at it is everyone was conceived from a male and a female, and every one of us share traits from both our fathers and mothers. I really don’t think that there are any one of us as either 100% male or female. I think the % mix in every individual varies. Some men could be 95% male with only 5% female traits. This combination would probably produce a very manly man. Some men could be 65% male with 35% female traits. Then others men could be 49% male with 51% female traits. It doesn’t have to stop there it may even be as drastic of a difference as a man with 10% male traits and 90% female traits. I also feel this genitic difference is not reserved for men! I’m sure you may know some females that seem to also have some male tendancies. The only difference is that females are rarely thought of as cross dressers. A female can dress any way she likes and is acceptable by society. Lets face it females wear panties that are called “boy shorts” No one gives it a second thought if a female wears a NFL Football Jersey, or a suit, or combat boots, but what would society say if a guy wears panty hose, heals, and a skirt? I feel that it is all genetics and none of us had any say so during conception. Take your own pole among individuals you know, both male and females. Ask each individual (knowing what they know now) if they had a choice of being born male or female, what would they choose. You may be surprised with some individuals answers. Female have no boundaries, when it comes to fashon, or beauty products. Like I said earlier, this is only my opinion!
I am struggling with understanding and being supportive of my boyfriend’s crossdressing. Sexually I find it hot and want more.. but after I want him to go back to what most call normal. When we discuss his crossdressing he gets angry with me no matter what my response is… and if I keep my mouth shut he gets angry that I do not have an option. I try to explain to him that I need to understand what is going on and his response to me is how can I tell you if I dont understand it myself. As his grilfriend, I want to understand, i want to be supportive, I love him dearly… but I will be honest I have no idea what to say to him to make him feel better.. Lord I dont know what to say to mayself… Its hard I know for him dealing with this. But its hard for me too. How do we get past this?? How do we work threw this together?? What Can I do to be more understading and supportive??
Sabrina: so he likes to get dressed up in bed huh? Ask yourself how many of your girlfriends like to go to bed dressed? Something strange is going on in river city! You need to read the indicators, and youll come to a diagnosis. Good luck dear. Carol
Julie,
As a CD myself, I must say your patience seems to be endless. I too had to tell my gf that I love to cross dress. At first much like yourself she was hesitant. She wanted to learn more from me as to why I do, what led up to it, how it makes me feel etc… Having her approach me with an open mind said A LOT to me. For me it came from childhood playing with female cousins. I enjoyed it then and have had a “HIDDEN” passion for ever since. Being married for 10 years I NEVER told my now EX as I for sure she would not have understood. Ok, shame on me for second guessing what she would thought or felt. Thank God that my gf of 1 year now understands. When I first told her, she had many questions and I was happy to answer them. She was NOT judgemental nor was she de-meaning or belittling. Instead she took an interest because she understood it was me and who I am. We have since then have had a very open lifestyle and I am free to dress as little or as much as I want. She even sits with me to pick out new outfits online. I have NO desire to go outside nor do I have a desire to disclose this to anyone else. What is done behind OUR closed doors and is NOT hurtful to each others or others is JUST THAT between US and no one else. Be patient with him and IF you are TRULY in love with him and want to continue the relationship with him take time to talk to him. Maybe ask him in a playful manner if you can paint his nails and let things go from there. He will open up. People in general open up when they feel comfortable in their surroundings. I commend you for sticking in there. GOOD LUCK
Dan
aka
~Kimmy {;>
k udos baby, Im so excited had cute cous,s myself good luck xoxo
Why do men crossdress? Hmm….so many ways to answer but are any of them ever right?
In my personal experience I’ve always aimed for one goal. To pass as a genetic woman. Yes, not as just some floozy or whore but as a passable female that can make some mens heads turn. If I can make women do that as well it’s a bonus in my books cause I know I’m doing something right.
The wearing of intimates is always nice. I find that the fabric feels much more relaxed than a males undergarments and can still hold the family jewels in place correctly as long as I’m not wearing anything too tight.
As for when I started this trans-trend of dressing up I guess I would chalk it up to when I was around 8-10 years old. Always enjoyed being around girls more than boys and started to thinking “what does it feel like to be them?” From there it has continued and developed into me being more open and feminine.
I do plan on going completely female one day but I still am presenting as male for now with a few ‘tweeked’ features’.
more base like sexy clothes & to be pretty
why do we cross dress? I can’t speak for anyone else, but for me the reason is that the only time I feel complete as a person is when I’m dressed as a woman. I’m sitting here at the computer, my wife is visiting her sister 100 miles away and I”m dressed in a very tasteful skirt and top. I’m also wearing stockings and high heels. a Wig and makeup complete the “illusion”. I feel more relaxed and at ease than at any other time during the week, I feel in touch with the Real Me. It is a little disconcerting that I do not have the courage as of yet to discuss my aberration with anyone other than this site, but I hope to some day.
I feel very thankful that I realized what was needed to make me feel happy and content, I only wish that I had come to this conclusion 20 years ago.
Bless all of us who cross-dress, the support from knowing that there are others with my “affliction” is very comforting.
why do men crossdress? for me thats simple. because it makes me feel more the person i want to be. and as living a 1000 yrs. ago things in some places have not changed much. we still must be carefull. i dress 24/7 but not always to attract attention. i do it for me and me alone
I think it is easiest, simply if a woman is a crossdresser, you surely not identify her, because she can wear any think she like, and no problem whith her satisfashion on the way to wear. Men has the problen that we can´t wear skirts, pantyhose, makeup,etc
Thank you everyone for your comments and advice. He is slowly being more open, and I am still accepting no matter what he reveals to me. Thanks again for all the support, and good luck to everyone!
Wonderful to hear Sabrina. I wish you are yours a blessed Christmas.
After I sat here reading how some people like myself were having troubles coping and weren’t sure of who they were ,or what they expected from life, I find myself in another situation that I hope no other crossdresser or transgendered person ever has to go through ! My wife has left me , and has filed for a divorce !I have recently come to face the fact that she is going to use it at a reason for her leaving . She had every intrntion on doing this from day one . She has had another lover since I have beem away , and I hope he gets to see her true colors first hand without anyone having to tell him ! In the end , she will have to answer to GOD for all her selfish ,greedy and materialistic actions ! I hope everyone in a position of being engaged does some things to protect themselves from these types of actions ! one , make sure you tell her everything about your crossdressing habits,Two if she won’t sign a pre-nup , walk away as fast as you can ! She wouldn’t sign one , and now I have to worry about her getting my house ! No matter how much she says she loves you ,if she won’t sign it , run !
I am in the same boat as you my friend. Fortunately I had enough money to buy her out in cash. I’m a carpenter, plumber, welder, auto mechanic, electrician etc. Very good looking, and physically fit. We enjoyed the very best sex ever for the last 3 years of our 18 year marriage; Then, her stunningly attractive -trusted sister, who visited me 2 weeks after we were married paid me a visit while my wife was at work, (I refused her advances). Ultimately she sided with her sister like a sheep being lead off to slaughter. So take heart! You are not alone.
Well David…just to let you know I’m in a strugling relationship right now. I’ve never been very good at holding them together for some reason. I think alot of it has to do with my lack of VERBAL communication skills. I have met many a people who have helped to open my eyes to what is really out there though and to also help me express myself outwardly about my feminimity. I do see myself becoming completely female down the road but my finances are what you would call sparse. Otherwise I have ousted myself from being recognized anymore to my family so I’ve been living a very solemn lifestyle.
I have done many a things for work but nothing ever that allowed me to be ‘dressed’ at all. As for that I’ve only been able to do it while on time off-which I don’t get much of. If you would like a pic of me go here to my msn homepage= http://www.myspace.com/krestkiller
There you can also learn more on me and stuff. Hope to hear back.
Why do men crossdress? That’s the easiest question in the world to answer! You crossdress to make love to the only one that truly understands everything about you and that is: YOURSELF! Your features, your sexuality, your sexy look, your feminine needs, etc. In short, you want to be a female and make love to yourself as a male. Now then, I have an old Greek story to tell you as they have addressed this question many years ago. The candle is burning low and I’m afraid that I must retire. I am not a snob , just respectful with proper english , so I bid you a good night and shall regale you with this most beautiful of stories! I shall tell you this story tomorrow.
David , those comments you made about the reasons for crossdressing are not correct ! They might be your reasons ,if in fact you are one ,but I don’t really think you know what you are talking about ! For most ,it has got nothing to do with sex , they just want to get in touch with their feminine side ! If you are so smart ,then why haven’t you opened up as a business ?
i crossdress for just bout a few real reasone the main one is that i ahve always realy wanted to be a girl in ever sense of the real way that males realy want to be the oppisite sex they were born as and so do i i just want to be female
i also do really enjoy the female clothing it is so much better to wear feels so good when you are in dresses skirts slips it is all so very soft and makes you feel oh so feminie which is where i do so long to be there are a few more reasons of which i will go into later!
To Jay and David , this site is not put up as a dating service. It is used as a tool to help those with questions or with problems regarding crossdressing ! If you want to contact each other , please do not do it on this site ! Use your own personal e-mails or the phone ! Have a little respect for others !
Thanks Suzzanna,
I’ve removed the posts by Jay and David.
Jay, David – this site is meant as a positive and supportive place for crossdressers and their significant others to come and learn about crossdressing. Please find other more appropriate places to engage in this kind of discussion.
-Vanessa
Vanessa, thank you dear. That was starting to get rediculous. As always, love the web site. Ragina.
hi sweetie do you ever wish you could take it all back?
I don’t believe any of us really know why we cross dress.
Some of us are, and have always been ” inside women”, at least that’s what we tell ourselves.
I have always envied girls and wished I was one.
Some dress for the sensuality both physical and psychological.
I love the feel of nylons against my legs, the thought my silk panties caressing my butt, and the sight of my ” small but perky breasts” outlined against a pink halter top.
Some dress for the thrill of breaking a taboo, and the delicious smell of decadence.
I love wearing panties, nylons, cleavage creator, and feminine tops while engaging in serious political, philosophical, or spiritual discussions.
In short how is one to pick out one factor when cross dressing affords so much real pleasure with so little real harm.
Hugs,
gail
Good for you Gail. Walk your own road, and be sure to leave pebbles behind so you can find your way home. I know your feelings, and sometimes a person can get lost in their dream, and never want to go back again. Love Carol ann
Gail, I loved your post. I must say that i to love the feel of fine silk and lace against my skin. I have felt this way all of my life. And so enjoy being dressed and in a setting that stimulates the mind. I have been able to join a small group that meets once a week and we engage it conversation from politics, pholosophy just about any subject that can open our minds. I am the only CD-TG but am accepted for myself. I love my open toe heels and skinny jeans. but being winter here i wear my knee-high boots. Not only is the conversation great but being accepted for Leona is much more rewarding.
Thanks Leona,
I appreciate the kind words.
It does seem all the senses are magnified whenever I’m “en femme”.
Reds are redder, greens are greener, and of course pinks are pinker.
I suppose to be fair one must also say blues are bluer.
Hugs,
gail
I’m in need of help/advice. I’m about to tell my girlfriend of 3 months about my “secret hobby” in the next few days. I feel it’s important to share with her because it’s a significant part of me, and I don’t want to lie to her. However, I’m extremely nervous. I’m not sure what to say or how to bring it up. I feel somewhat confident in the fact that she’s pretty accepting about many things. She really likes Eddie Izzard, a drag comedian. She also really loved the scene in “Boondock Saints” where Agent Smecker crossdressed to help the Saints. But I’m still freaking out about it. I mean, she’s not dating Agent Smecker, is she? Any advice? Suggestions?
Hi Danielle,
For what it’s worth I would try to get myself in a frame of mind where I’m not apologizing for my behavior, or asking for acceptance, rather I would attempt in a straight forward way to describe cross dressing, and my attraction to it. In other words, as much as possible operate from a position of strength not weakness. This has the advantage of allowing your girl friend to reject you without guilt, and if you’re rejected it will allow you to handle the rejection with dignity.
Good luck!!!!
gail
Hello Danielle,
My first advice would be to try and find out what your girl friend’s mindset would be on the subject, before actually confronting her with your “secret hobby”. I’ve been married for 36 yrs. and a little over 2 years ago I was up front and shared my ” secret hobby” with my wife. She did not take it as well as I had hoped! She felt like she has been deceived all these years and questioned my manhood. I tried to explain, but I’m sure it was a shock and her way of dealing with it,was to pretend that the conversation never took place. Now I love my wife dearly and didn’t want to push things in the wrong direction, so I just dropped the subject. After about 8 weeks of very little communication things returned to normal. It is still my “secret hobby” that I would love to share with her. I feel that it may be something that you should try to get out in the open, because it would be more enjoyable for both parties without the secret. I honestly feel that most women would want her man to have some female tendencies. They want you to be a protector, someone to open the door for them, be the spider killer, but also want someone to be sensitive. Maybe this girl is right for you, maybe not. If she is totally against it it would be better to find out sooner than later. I can’t speak for you, but my cross dressing desires have not diminished over the years. In fact I believe they have gotten stronger.
Thank you, all, for your advice. But I have a question for Shannon.
How should I go about finding out what her mindset is? How do I bring that up without spilling everything?
Hi Danielle,
Sorry, I haven’t had a chance to check your question until just now. That Really is a tough question! I know you would rather know how your lady feels sooner than later. Some how you may need to guide a conversation into the direction of the subject. Maybe you could use your situation as a friend that may have confided in you, and observe her reaction. If she appears open to the possibilities that may open the door for you. You may think that is a somewhat deceptive route. There are many sections of this site that may be more helpful. I certainly wouldn’t want you to lose some one special in your life because of my advice, and I know you are in a difficult position. Please keep me informed on what path you may take and the outcome. Best of luck Shanon.
I just wanted to thank Shanon and Gail. I told her tonight and your help was invaluable. I stayed positive and was not on the defensive. It went wonderfully. She was extremely accepting. In fact, she was rather excited. She thought it was awesome and she wants me to dress up for her sometime soon. Thank you all for helping me with this.
Danielle, Hi and Happy New Year! I’m sure it is for you. Isn’t it a wonderful feeling to have a supportive SO in your life? I too have a wonderful wife that loves me for who I am. Enjoy yourself and love her. The benifits will be well worth it. Ragina.
Dear, if your girlfriend has bared herself to say she likes movie stars in drag, and drag comedians, shes throwing you a hint. Dont get all frazzled she might dump you. Youre likely her dream package, and she just hasent opened it yet. Good luck, Carol
Dear Gail, I enjoy reading your introspective comments. You seem to be a level-headed, intelligent, and confident woman. I’m happy for you.
Thanks David,
It was kind of you to refer to me as a woman.
The desire to be one has waxed and waned over the last few years.
At times the animating force in my life, at other times, while still present, less dominant.
Neither fish nor fowl as it were.
Happy New Year!!!
gail
Dear David , No , I have never felt the need to masturbate while wearing feminine clothes. It is not a sexual stimulation for me as though it is for some ! I found and article that could answer a lot of questions that I have seen recently , especially one that Penny had !1- Crossdresers are gay : More than likely not . As Dr. William Stayton , a therapist for crossdressers reported “People associate crossdressing with effeminancy and being gay and are not gay ! They are very definintely heterosexuals ! Crossdressers Are Made ,. Not Born : The current conventional wisdom is to be that crossdressing is a result of both Nature and Nuture , genetic influence just as for all of us there are things that happen that program us to how we’ll be redheads or thin women. We all have preferences , but the truth is there”s no common thread , reports Dr. Stayton . Crossdressers Can Be Cured : ” Truth is you can’t change it ” Dr Stayton concludes . Most professionals now try to counsel crossdressing rather than to eradicate it . Crossdressers Are Schizophrenic: In reality , crossdressers exhibit slight personality alterations in their “femme ” role , but in general , but to the same extent that many people’s do when assuming differnt roles in life ,i.e. CEO , Husband , Father . Crossdressing Develops in Adulthood: We find that crossdressing starts very young ! Mnay start with getting feelings for Mom’s clothing. It is very rare that it starts in adulthood !
Well, sisters. I guess, I can’t say why we crossdress in general. I can give my own reason, you’ll probably laugh, but here it is.
I am a teenager, but for whatever reason I just feel more comfortable in the other gender’s clothing. A sense of security, a sense of freedom, a sense of tranquility.
I haven’t told my family about my “habit,” only my stepmom who lets me “borrow” her clothes. I am still embarassed about my, “habit.” However, talking to people about it helps and it helps to talk to those with the same “habit,” as me.
I think my biggest problem as a transgender woman, is I am too nervous about anyone finding out. As much as I would love to go out in high-heels, panties, a skirt, a bra, and a blouse, I am just too afraid. I wouldn’t be but my father is extremely homophobic (and associates crossdressing with homosexuality.)
That is my story, sisters. I wish you all good times and luck with whatever you’re trying to accomplish.
There is nothing wrong with being gay however, you don’t need to be gay to be a cross dresser. they are 2 totally different & separate issues. See : Ask Doctor Fox at : http://www.AskDoctorFox.info
I have been secretly cross dressing since I was 13. I have always felt much more comfortable as a woman than as a man. In fact, i even tried to suppress my female side by getting married & having kids. That did not work & in fact made things 10 times worse. My message to everyone is to just be yourself in life & accept yourself as yourself & do NOT try to be something that you are not. I was born in a male body, but I know I was always meant to be a FEMALE. I tried to be “Straight” (whatever that is) but I can only be me (Darlene). David is just the body I am imprisoned in.
I would LOVE to meet other Cross Dressing and Trans gendered friends here in the Orlando / Central Florida area. If you are in the area & would also like a friend to talk to and share with, please contact me, thank you. E-Mail : DavidLeeFox@Gmail.com
Sin is sin – we all war with our flesh and it’s lusts whether they be for alcohol, drugs, homosexuality, pornography, adultry, fornification, murder …etc. Desiring or lusting – no matter how powerful – does not legitimize them. God told us to stay away from sin-listed in detail what those sins are and said for your own good and for the joy of eternal life do not do these things – don’t debate with me – trust me I am God – I have very good reasons for my instructions to you. – Refraining from our lusts is obedience to Jesusus command to pick up our cross and follow him. In this life we sacrifice a great many lusts or desires of our flesh.
creep
For you to say you’re God, while signing Justsaying and you committed a bigger sin than the rest of us girls here. Although you’re right about sin, consider what you just did. That’s why all of us needs Jesus. Until then, with his mercy at heart I will dressup as a lady.
Susan Veronica
Is there any where in Seattle Metro that I can dress up and take my girlfriend, she has many gay friends, in fact her son is gay! . But she wants me to dress up and for us to go out to dinner and dancing.
Please let me know of these type of places in and around seattle.
She has viewd the foregn film Just Like A Woman, but didnt connect wth the unconditionality of love in it.
All the Best in this decade
Robyn in Seattle
In my previous post couldn’t put my whole name. So Robyn, I don’t live in Seattle, I would love to, but do a search on the web. I know of a few sites where you can talk to people and they can tell you of a good place. Let me know how it works.
Susan Veronica Miller
I crossdress for a number of reasons. I enjoy the feel of the soft silky clothing, I feel more confident, more complete and yes! I enjoy the femininity I feel when dressed as well. There are times I wonder what it would be like to be a woman? If it were possible, I would, temporarily, trade being male in order to be a female. I think that would be wonderfull experience. I would, if my circumstances were different, dress 24/7. the only exception would be while at work and then I would be wearing all fem intimates underneath my work clothes.
I am not worried about loosing my job if found out? Its no ones business what I wear underneath my outer clothes. I enjoy showing the feminin part of me. when wearing a dress or skirt and the intimates that go under them, they feel natural on me and when I have to remove them, its like a part of me I am letting go and don’t want to.
I have just finished reading all the comments and questions from the other members, I really enjoyed the insight and variety of comments. I think the reasons one crossdreeses can vary greatly from each individual.I can onl speak for myself,I didn’t chose this life,it choose me.I started crossdressing at a very young age,before kindergarten,I don’t know why it just happened.I do know enen at that young age thier was a sexual attraction,I didn’t know what it was then.The desire to dress in womens clothing has never subsided,in fact today it’s stronger than ever.I was always a very athletic person and participated in sports my whole life,I always presented a macho image,but the desire to be femme was always thier.I have been married three times,I never told my wives about my crossdressing befor we got married,I always lied to myself that I didn’t need to do it,but that is exactly what it was a lie.When I did finally tell them it led to a divorce,so please be honest with your partner.Today I enjoy dressing more than ever,I’ve gotten quite good at applying makeup and enjoy going out as a woman,I wear womens clothing when I come home from work always wear panties.I don’t know if I’m gay or not,I know I don’t feel attracted to men unless I’m dressed,and I must admit it is very satisfying to be complimented by a man or woman.I don’t know why I do it,but I do know I enjoy it, it is’nt something that goes away,I did all the purging things many times,only to go out and start over.Today I live alone and enjoy all the femine things,this may not help anyone understand,because I don’t,but I’ve chosen not to worry about it,just enjoy in,mary
I too enjoy rosdressing. I have been doing it on and off for years. However, I cant do it at home cause my wife(not acceptin) will know if I am wearing anything, this includes underdressing. I asked how does she know if she dosent see or feel anything? She told me that its because “when I wear womens clothing, even if its just panties and a slip, I act feminine! I told her I try to act myself, but she said I act differently. I asked how? she said when I sit down I sit crosslegged with my hands folded in a certain way, (I did not realize I did) and when I walk, I have a tendacy to walk in a slightly feminine way( One foot placed exactly infront of the other). I cant argue with that because its obviousl that when I am underdressing, even just a little, I must be doing something unconsciously feminine, even if I am not aware of it, cause she catches me almost every time, even when I cant figure how? But if this is so? I do not consider this a bad thing but a good thing. I just wont war anything around her. I doubt anyone else will even notice my unconscious traits. At least, no one has mentioned to me about them.
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