Girl friends and wives want to know.
Why do men cross dress?
Why does my husband cross dress?
How can I make him stop cross dressing?
The unfortunate truth, is that there is no simple, one line answer to these questions. If there were, you probably wouldn’t be reading this article, and the debates on this topic would be silent.
In my personal experience, the fascination with woman’s clothes started when I was very young. I must have been about four years old, and I remember going to great lengths to procure and then wear my mom’s nightie. My most vivid memory is as a teenager, nervously buying a pair of pantyhose from a local supermarket and then wearing them home under my pants.
I felt (and still feel) a need to wear woman’s clothes, and I can’t quite explain where it comes from. The media like to think of cross dressing as a sexual perversion, and so naturally they see the desire to cross dress and purely for sexual gratification. The problem with this theory is that when I (and many others) first felt the desire to cross dress I didn’t know what sex was.
Many cross dressers I’ve asked describe the need as ‘feeling more comfortable wearing woman’s clothes’. This is sometimes (but not always) coupled with the desire to be seen as a woman. To not just dress like a woman, but behave like one as well, to wear make-up and otherwise pass as a woman. There are others who cross dress for sexual excitement. The need to cross dress is indeed a spectrum.
That still doesn’t answer the question why do men cross dress?
Marcy proposes a few interesting answers to this questions.
One argument is that transvestism of cross-dressing is a way of offering a challenge to society’s preconceptions about gender. Some men cross-dress because they are unhappy at being men. Others didn’t mind the male state, but also like to put on women’s clothes occasionally. Some men cross-dress simply to make a passing social or fashion statement, and some because they have emotional needs that can only be met by the comfort that wearing women’s clothes gives them.
Yet the true reason why men cross dress remains somewhat of a mystery. It is intensely personal, often confusing and sometimes guilt ridden. I’m hopeful that as society grows more tolerant of diverse gender expression we will see more cross dressers and transgendered stepping forward to share their stories. Without the need to justify their behavior, and no longer shamed by society perhaps we will be better able to answer this baffling question.
Comment and let me know, I would love to hear- why do you cross dress?
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Panties forever!
Hi Girls, Like many of the previous commenters, I really don’t know EXACTLY why I crossdress. Like many others, I started trying on my mother’s clothes sometime between age 7 and 9. I especially loved panties and slips (and still do at age 71). My crossdressing at home was limited to the few occasions when I would be the only one at home and I knew the others would be out for at least a couple of hours or more. I occasionally would try on my mother’s high heel pumps and a dress. I did not try makeup, and I… Read more »
Why do I cross-dress… Short answer — it’s who I am. Having discovered my feminine side at the tender age of 8 or 9, I’ve gone through several stages. In the beginning it was simply the fascination of looking like a girl. Later, in my early teens, an erotic element developed as I developed an interest in girls. As an aside: a dirty little secret. I used to dress up from the skin out, being sure to securely tuck the male equipment, then stand in front of a full length mirror and lift my skirt to see my panties. Part… Read more »
I cross dress because I enjoy it. I love wearing women’s clothes – or, my clothes as I prefer to think of them. I love how they make me feel, and for me it’s something really positive. I can understand and believe that for some who cross dress, they are making a statement about fashion or gender norms, but I think that for most of us, it’s who we are, who we want to be, or even who we hope to have the courage to be – one day
My reason for dressing is because I love to feel, look, and act like a woman. I want to know fully what it is like to be a woman in every respect, to feel sexy and adored by men, to feel the eyes of the room on my delicate body adorned with pretty clothing, and to feel all the sexual energy I do choosing what I want and who I want as a woman. It just feels so powerful and sexy when I dress. I think the best way to sum it up is that I adore women so much… Read more »
I’m with you girl, I just love the feeling dress d, the sexery, the better
exactly how i feel when i’m dressed
My desire to start crossdressing began when I was still wearing diapers. I feel lucky because I have very clear memories of key events that led me to believe that (for me) it started as a fetish as all other fetishes do. They begin with a focal point (an object, an experience, situation, or emotion and a variety of other things defined only by the person that has the fetish) coupled with sexual stimulation. occurring normally at a very early age sets and defines the fetish. Anyone that tries to tell you that you do not experience sexual things from… Read more »
I cross dress because I never felt comfortable being a man and at points I flat out don’t like being a man
I love the feel of silky panties , bra and forms and I’m a lot more confident as a female.
Men have so little choice when it comes to clothing, style, fashion, etc.
why Men Cross dress… my pick, we are hard wired like that. We are born with the traits of both sexes to different degrees. Some has this balance, others are skewed to extreme ends… who are bent more towards being male stay males and never feel that urge to Crossdress while the ones who are on the other extreme go for extreme measures to transform themselves to be the woman they believe they are. The others who are in between these two extremes become Crossdressers with some or little inclination to transition. Why are we hardwired like that… that’s a… Read more »
In my opinion, there’s a larger issue that needs to be raised to the world. Why shouldn’t people experiment with gender? In modern society, are there any “good" reasons for traditional gender roles? The arguments would fill a book, but that’s no reason to avoid the discussion. In the meantime, the easiest answer to the title question is because we like to. That might not be much of an answer, but it’s no different than asking someone why they eat chocolate.