Why every second of life counts

I feel it’s fairly safe to assume that most people can relate to something abstract, such as being at the crossroads of a point in their life. A term with a number of interpretations that may all be valid and justifiable. However imagine if you can, that those crossroads are not just where two roads cross but an intersection with so many routes leading to and from it that is impossible to perceive or count them all! Because that is what life presents to us every second of every day of our lives.

If you’re finding that a tough concept to take on board right now, I encourage you to stick with me on this, it is worth your while.

In every second of our lives, we are faced with millions of choices in a fluidity of decisions and directions at that moment in time, that it’s a wonder how we function at all to get through an hour let alone the day, but we can live for many years!

This is a real-time example of what powerful and amazing beings we are, to be able to calculate, assess and evaluate a multitude of options in a split second or faster, not blinking an eyelid or skipping a heartbeat while doing it!

I find this quite incredible to behold, that concept of what goes on within us all. And yet we have been doing it more or less since birth. No need to be trained or formally educated in these abilities, it is just something we take so much for granted and that we are not aware of it happening. Maybe that is applicable for the majority of folks, but I am increasingly aware that this may not be the case in the present moment in time we’re all entangled in.

We can feel alone when having such ideas presented and that’s quite understandable. It’s what happens when we think outside of the box for example. Skating on thin ice with only our faith and belief in ourselves, with confidence that we can achieve what we desire and choose to act upon at the moment, in the present moment.

Ahhh! What is the difference between the moment and the present moment? It is our perception of just knowing that something has happened or being consciously aware of it happening and feeling, sensing it on all levels at that precise moment. It is something that words alone may struggle to describe well if you are not familiar with this concept. It is well documented if you care to research it yourself and you will find many references online giving various accounts and views of what this psychological perspective portrays. In essence, the present moment is the here and now.

I am not suggesting this may be the best reference or a good place to start, but here’s a link that may be helpful: – https://positivepsychology.com/present-moment/

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I mentioned in an earlier article how I believe we can describe the process of thinking as a Quantum activity. How our brain processes information from our five senses to create order out of the apparent chaos and carried out at high speed. We compute all that we need to know to make decisions and choices at lightning speeds. To take action or not, remain still, quiet, or whatever is seen as the right thing to do at any given moment.

Each step or choice that we make places us right back to a point of unlimited possibilities immediately. We may not consider issues to be of value or importance depending upon our familiarity with what we need to process. We already may have programmed responses and reactions stored, registering the event in our memory to save recalculation of repetitive actions. We auto-streamline our lives in a background processing mode that computing mimics in the way they operate using software, programming and electronics to create a vast range of functions. But not quite in the natural and amazing way as humans. Once again I find myself led to illustrating our superiority to machines and computers, and that feels empowering.

The present becomes the past in a blink of an eye, passing so rapidly it’s a wonder we can recall a lot of our daily lives. The amount of data we process in one day is staggering. The past remains the past and there it stays, to become a memory that isn’t always 100% reliable as we can color our past so that it feels good and more comfortable. The future is yet to happen but arrives as fast as the present becomes the past. Our lives are but fleeting moments in time.

It passes so rapidly that in our lazy way we allow the auto function to deal with more than is good. If we can be more conscious of the present moment we can experience life in a more fulfilling way and be so much more in control of our direction and sense of purpose in the world. Moments where we can find ourselves in the present moment without trying too hard, are when we are immersed and lost in something that we can put our heart and soul into. Lose ourselves and forget all about the trivialities of daily life and abandon stress, fear, overthinking, negative emotions and feelings. It is in that state of mind we can connect with our true self, we let go of the physical and maybe material selves allowing us to be overwhelmed by creativity. Which activity is not as critical as the fact that we can become lost within it.

Our brain waves change when we engage at such depths that we can feel calm, which creates a feeling of safety, which can reduce our heart rate and contribute to the brain function of opening up ourselves to a blissful experience. In many ways, this is what monks, yogis nuns and religious orders practice for years to attain and sustain for longer durations, maybe a lifetime. My point here is that we all have this ability within us if we choose to discover and bring it forth. It doesn’t have to take a lifetime to achieve similar in our own lives if we can be focused and open to new horizons, thinking and ways of living.

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Sophie Frenchie

I began this journey the day I opened my eyes for the very first time. I found this site at a time when I needed support more than any other point in my life. I had chosen to transition after years of internal turmoil, failing to be able understand or accept who and what I was. My life moved on at a pace that I found hard to deal with at times, but I managed. Living alone in the South West of France life was far from simple or easy then. Then, I discovered this oasis online, finding love, understanding and support unequalled to anything I have previously come across. Dare I suggest, my other family! So, why return after leaving about two years back? At the point, my life was changing dramaticaly, everything I had believed, understood and built my life around, up until that point, changed almost overnight. I am very settled in my life now living as a woman, with friends and a social life, all while being the happiest I have been. I am in the medical system here after overcoming many obstacles, now with the hope of surgery very soon to complete my transition. I have returned here in the hope that my experiences and knowledge can be of help to others in this community. When very young, I dreamed of being a girl, going to bed at night hoping I would awake as a girl. After realising that wasn't going to happen, I shut down that wish and lived a repressed existence from that day. It took a lifetime of unintentionally hurting myself and others, regretfully! Perhaps the one true regret of my life!

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Alicen Thairms
Active Member
1 year ago

Being open to and aware of the possibilities of the moment is a subtle skill. I aim at all times to intuitively navigate towards the positively perfect future (whatever that is 🙂 )

There have been occasions in my life when about to take a course of action I have suddenly found myself immobilised – aware it is the wrong choice; at other times I find I have changed my mind at the last minute on the decision to go somewhere and found at later the road was blocked by accident.

Amy Myers
Noble Member
1 year ago

Sophie, this certainly in an interesting article. However the point of it is very well taken. You are right most, if not all of us get into a kind of robot control where we just what we do, and like this computer I’m writing on there is a lot going on behind we don’t see or even know about. The human mind is a very complex organ with so much going on. I know I’ve spent a lot of my life on auto pilot, sometimes because I’m afraid to go off of it. Though now I’m in my late 60’s… Read more »

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