One evening I went out as Mary to do some shopping at a Fred Meyer store. I went there because it is close and had reasonable prices for cosmetics, not because of makeup I was particularly interested in. As I was approaching the cosmetics department I noticed a man, obviously by himself, shopping in the same aisle. Since it seemed unusual to see a man there alone, I was curious and I kept peeking to see if he was shopping for something specific and he did seem a bit confused. I nonchalantly walked over and, not wanting to scare him away, and asked him if I could be of any help. I knew the feeling since I had gone through the same feeling when I wanted to buy some cosmetics when I was learning how to become a girl.
He seemed a bit startled and maybe a little embarrassed but said “Uh, okay, thanks.” I asked if he was looking for anything in particular and he said “Some kind of lipstick, I guess'”. I didn’t want to get nosey and ask if it was for him or a friend so I just said it kind of depends on skin tone and color preference. He commented that he didn’t know there were so many colors and hues. I answered that it can be confusing, for sure. He asked what color I was wearing and I said it was close to the color Night Blush although I don’t really remember now.
I have no idea if he “read” me but he seemed to relax a bit and asked about mascaras, liners, foundations and such so I showed him what kinds I used. I explained that “Since I am Asian, my skin tone is very different then say yours.” He answered that it made sense. I then showed him how he could see the differences if there were any samplers available. This happened way before the pandemic so samplers were often available at most stores like FM. “Now watch.” I said as I put a few different tones of blush on the back of my hand. “See the differences? This sample is what I would use.” pointing to one closest to my skin tone. He said, “Oh, I think I sort of understand now. Thank you for your help, I was getting very confused here.” “No problem. Are there any other questions you have?” I asked. “Uh, no, you helped me a lot.” I smiled and left it at that and went on my way.
A few minutes later I was at the checkout counter and the same man was ahead of me. “Hi again.” I said. He acted a bit embarrassed in front of the checker so I said “Oh it looks like you found some nice things for her.” as I saw the assortment of cosmetics he was buying. He said “Um, yeah, I hope she’ll like what I got her, thanks to you.” I smiled and he smiled back with a wink. We both left as satisfied customers.
On my way home I was wondering if he had any idea I was a CD but more intriguing was wondering if he was becoming one of us.
Thanks girls for taking the time to read my article and you may offer up any comments regarding my article and/or choose to answer one or more of the questions I’ve posed to you below:
- Did you feel awkward or embarrassed the first time you went into a makeup store or in a makeup isle in a department store while dressed as a guy?
- Have you ever asked a professional makeup artist at a place like Ulta or Sephora while in men’s clothing and if so, how did that scenario go for you?
- Did you know if a particular type of makeup from a certain manufactured has been discontinued that you could find that discontinued makeup in Ebay?
Thank you girls and with much love, Mary