A Wife's Crossdressing Success Story

This week I am truly honored to hear from Amy. This is the first time that a genetically born woman has shared her crossdressing success story on Crossdresser Heaven. Amy’s story is a blessing to all of us, and shows us that love’s embrace can strengthen even with – and sometimes because of –  crossdressing.

If you’d like to share you crossdressing success story, please take a moment to submit your story. I’d especially like to encourage wives and girlfriends of crossdressers to share their successes. Even if you’re still struggling with your loved one’s crossdressing your small successes will bring encouragement to many others who are walking the same journey.

Meet Amy

Hello, I’m Amy; I’m a 36-year old female who lives in a small town in Georgia.

Amy’s Crossdressing Success Story – A Wife’s Perspective

I don’t know if I can publish a story being a female, but I am so inspired by all of your stories that I had to tell mine. I met my husband about 5 years ago at a pizza restaurant where we both worked at the time. I had identified myself as a lesbian for 10 years, but hadn’t found the right woman. I had had two boyfriends, both of whom validated my reasons for choosing the lesbian lifestyle, even bearing a child from one of them.

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But this one, 9 years younger than me, there was just something about him I couldn’t put my finger on, but I knew I had to have him. I heard was a preacher’s son and had a good reputation, unlike the last one who’d left me and my son 5 years earlier. Anyway, we hit it off and dated for 4 years before getting married. I always felt like he was more of a woman in bed, which naturally I liked, having been a lesbian before.

Now I had a kid, plus living in the Bible belt is not easy when you’re not living the “straight” and narrow, so I no longer had the desire to seek out a woman. So he was perfect, the best of both worlds. Little did I know just how perfect.

I knew he liked wearing my tank top I once put on him, but I thought it was no big deal since it never came up again. Later I found out that he was attracted to me from day one, having listened to my lesbian escapades. It seemed a part of him identified with/wanted to be one of those women. This might sound strange, but one night 3 years into our relationship, I heard in a dream or vision from a beautiful goddess (crazy, I know) telling me that I needed to tell him that it was ok to wear women’s clothes; that it was an ancient part of him that would be very healing if he would just allow it to happen.

I told him this, but he said nothing and I forgot about it. It wasn’t until our wedding night that I experienced the full extent of my husband’s desire to cross dress. We went and bought lingerie that I was hoping he would especially love on me. It seemed he cared more about himself wearing the clothes than me. I was actually jealous of a robe!

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This was such a downer for me on our honeymoon. But how could I have known? We hadn’t been able to live together during our engagement, between his conservative background, and my not wanting to shack up only to be abandoned again. And he’s quite shy about such things.

Well, I am happy to say after nearly 2 years we have adjusted and grown together, and through a lot of communication and encouragement have created a beautiful relationship that is like no other. Thanks to Vanessa’s website, Vicki’s wise words for Christian Cross Dressers, and all the CD stories, I have come to understand why my husband feels the way he does; it even endears me to him more.

The stories have made me cry at times. One day I saw on Oprah a transgendered man (woman now) and her wife who would shop for jewelry together, and something about their story, their kinship made me cry as well. It wasn’t tears of sadness, but more of a cleansing and a relieving. It felt like, “Yes, that is it”, like a resounding truth.

Now I dress him up all the time. Occasionally he will put something on, but he is more passive and the thrill for him is someone else doing it to him. I no longer see his desire to wear women’s clothes as taking away from me. In fact, I think this has strengthened me to be more, to explore my masculine side, my dominating side (grin), and now I play video games with him and fix things around the house.

I’ve even explained to my 11 year old son that his step dad feels good in women’s clothes, and he was ok with that. He actually said it explained a lot and seemed relieved to now know the truth. (I’m sure he’s noticed him wearing my jeans and pj’s from time to time.)

My dream is for us to move to a place where he could be comfortable to be himself, be it in women’s clothes or makeup or even transitioning to transgendered. This whole experience has taught me that gender is a very complex thing and that we all have a varying degrees of masculinity and femininity in us.

It has taught me to question, what makes us a man or a woman? Doesn’t our Creator create us to express ourselves the way we want? Isn’t there a feminine aspect to our Creator that he/she wants to shine through us? What would the world be like if we were more free to express both male and female sides of us, or just one if that’s what gives us joy? I think it would be an infinitely better world.

Amy

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Zeta
Zeta
7 years ago

Once all our children had left home I began again to explore the pleasure of wearing women’s ( and pretty men’s a la Xdress and La Mystere) clothes. My wife (now married over 50 years) was OK with it, and in fact joined in erotic play while i was in lingerie. I was still subject to the shame and purging that most of us have felt and it was this, my getting rid of women’s clothing i spent a lot of money on, that I think made her less enthusiastic. Now I’m near 80, have girly babydolls to wear to… Read more »

Wendy
Lady
Member
7 years ago

Well, here goes my story. I met my wife in Thailand some 14yrs ago this September, I couldn’t take my eyes off her when she was cooking in this restaurant that I went to often…to see her and the food was great too. I eventually talked her into coming for a meal with me, she’s a chef and didn’t see the point. We dated for a month while trying to speak to her with my phrase book and broken Thai that I’d learnt over my time there.. She was losing her job and I asked if she wanted to join… Read more »

Wendy
Lady
Member
7 years ago
Reply to  Wendy

She has even bought me hormones and gotten our Trans friend to speak to the doctor for me and he will give me check ups after a short while…she said she wants me to be more feminine and she’s always having dreams to being with another women, she says that it’s me!! She says she wants me to grow little breasts and have a more female physique…I was so happy when she said that, but I am worried that our daughter will notice…till she found my clothes, as I am working away. My wife just said matter of frankly that… Read more »

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Samantha
7 years ago

I love these crossdressing stories. My wife knows that I love the feminine life more but really don’t want me to be Samantha like I want. We used to keep matching toenails, but now she doesn’t want to. It is sad to hide my female side.

Kate love
Kate love
7 years ago

My name is Kate and my wife has known for at least 15 of the 22 yrs together. I’m 41 and she is 37 we have 2 kids. She does NOT approve or understand and thinks I’m gay. She used to help but now seems disgusted by me even though I do not show any feminine side around her but she has started to make bad comments about mannerisms that are not any different than my whole life and are not feminine but I think she is just trying to use that as her way out even though it’s not… Read more »

Michelle
Michelle
7 years ago

I truly wish my wife would accept and encourage my feminine side, and at the very least encourage me to wear sheer nylons on a regular basis. In return for my crossdressing, I’d even accept and encourage her to see other men if this was something she desired and would enjoy. How I wish I could tell her about my kinky fantasies and fetishes. She’d just never accept and understand.

Michelle
Michelle
7 years ago

My wife was aware of my crossdressing when we married. She does not encourage me, or participate in any way. I keep my legs and body smooth shaven, and how I would enjoy my wife encouraging, even ordering me to wear sheer nylons on a regular basis. It would also be fun if she teased me about my crossdressing, calling me her feminine, " husband bitch", would be a real turn-on, as it would show a dominant side of her nature. I’ve had these feelings, and other fantasies since I’ve known her, but was never able to express them to… Read more »

Ginger
Ginger
7 years ago

My long term gf has known of my love of wearing pretty things. She fully accepts and encourages me to dress openly. I’m kinda shy living in Bible Belt. Last year I got a beautiful card with cash for Christmas. Sounds like an impersonal gift. However, there was a handwritten note included that said I was not to pay bills with the money. It is (was) to be used to buy pretty undies and things when She took me shopping. A little thing like that note meant so much. I knew she knew but I wasn’t sure if she fully… Read more »

Tim Boyd
Tim Boyd
7 years ago

I have been crossdressing for 40+ years sex with men and women too. Just feels so good

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Sonya
7 years ago

I myself have a wife who when found out about my crossdressing said she was willing to help me,but only on her terms.Her terms where all or nothing,so over time she has feminized me to the point where I be coke her sister.We go out every where as females and she has encouraged me to date men. She picks what I’m to wear each day, I’ve had to let my hear grow to where it is will over my shoulders and has been coloured a deep rich red with highlights.

Wendy
Wendy
6 years ago
Reply to  Sonya

I’m happy for you, how much things have changed since I got divorced back in 04.
Most people I have known all of my life in the middle 50s in age 45 years ago was when I first put my mother’s bra and nylons on. Quick to aquire my own female clothing,around 12 after new friends moved in hot looking mom that shopped Frederick’s of Hollywood

Michael Behrle
Michael Behrle
6 years ago

Hi my name is mike. I like the stories of crossdresserss. That the wife dresses them up ib cute stuff plus when they things to gethet they have them wear a silk head scarf and have it tied under the chin

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