Natural, just is; no fad of thought required…

Definition (existing in or formed by nature, as opposed to artificially created)

We can decorate and adorn our bodies as much or as little as we like, much like a Christmas tree or décor in a room, and we don’t need justifications for our choices about how we decorate it.

Who we are Naturally is intrinsic, it comes from within and is not right, wrong, good or bad whether judged by those who are participating in a fad of thought or not.

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So, what is a Fad? A temporary fashion, notion, manner of conduct etc, especially one followed enthusiastically by a group!

When we think of time in terms of decades, or even millennia, a fad of thought could last several thousand years. Even this is but a blink of time compared to eternity…ponder that!

Who controls a fad? We do!

When I first landed here in this tiny prairie town with a population of about 100, I wore a big cowboy hat or ball cap, men’s wrangler jeans and western shirts with riding boots. In 1999 I had been participating in crossdressing again after a nasty divorce in Alberta; that’s another story.

I fought the urges to dress, purged closets and drawers again and again, as many of us have. And now, twenty years later, I glance back over my shoulder to the days of closed curtains and freeze mode when the door bell would ring. I’ve left the anxieties and fears that were immobilizing back then and fast forwarded on to today.

What has become blatantly clear to me today is that this desire to decorate my body in a beautiful feminine fashion has been trying to emerge from within me since I could chew solid food. It’s Natural!

I have wrestled with a million questions from, “Am I gay” to “Am I trans, fluid, or what?” So many labels and each one has a set of rules or constructs that must be followed to fit into that specific box. And then, they call themselves “Normal” and others, outside the box, must therefore be abnormal, (or so we are led to believe.)

Groups of people gather together in belief that the box they are in is the “right” box. Everyone outside that box must therefore be “wrong,” and that is the lie we have been taught through the generations of time. A fad of thought is simply all it is, and we are changing it!

Every day, if we post one thing online, share one story, show up authentically in one situation, we are changing the world. We are changing the fad of thought, and one day, people will walk the streets of our small towns and big cities dressed as they choose, and the only comments will be, “Wow, you have great hair!”

It’s natural to compliment someone. It’s natural to want to express yourself freely. It’s natural to be exactly who you are created to be!

It is Super- Natural, to create change in the world, and that is simply done by showing up in the world, unashamed and confident that you are created exactly as intended.  Please repeat this several times each day. “I Am . . .Amazing!”

You are Super-Natural by nature! Because you are here right now, being a part of changing the world, the fads of thought, and even laws, are being affected for the generations to come and the next millennia.

Thank you for reading Your Weekly Reset; this week, remember who you are Naturally. You are an amazing creation full of life, and you are beautiful!


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Dropping out of high school I began touring in the Canadian country music scene at age 17; clubs and soft seat venues, drummer/vocalist for 22 years. After 4 suicide attempts and heavy cocaine etc addiction issues, i decided to learn Self-Acceptance as apposed to self-hatred. I became a student of the Universe and an Instructor of Life Skills at a local College while operating a Private Coaching Practice. Currently, I am rebuilding the Life Coaching practice after a couple years of more personal work well under way. I am also creating online opportunities that will serve our world community…and our world in understanding how the learned life skills of Intentionally and Consciously Creating an Amazing Life have filled my life with Passion, Purpose and Prosperity and they can for you as well... Namaste'

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Joan Dontrunsofast
Joan Dontrunsofast
3 years ago

Very nice!

Amy Myers
Noble Member
3 years ago

Thank you for the interesting thoughts, Char. I too find myself struggling to find which “box" I might fit into, as I don’t seem to fit into any of them! Gender Fluid seems to be the best. The big HOWEVER, is what you’ve said, about us being natural, ourselves, or put another way, “The way God made Us".
What is important is to be true to ourselves, sounds easy, but most of us don’t find it so simple and easy, and to be good to others.

skippy1965 Cynthia
Trusted Member
3 years ago

Char- as always you hit it out of the park! (I have been blessed to get the hair comment from friends and strangers alike lol). Does EVERYONE accept me for who I am? No of course not- but many more than I ever dreamed of do indeed! And THAT is SO freeing! Each day I care less and less about others seeing the Cyn side of me-instead of hiding it, I try to “own" it. And that is because people like you helped me realize that I’m worth knowing as I am-not as others think I should be.

Davida Mae
Davida Mae
3 years ago

HaHaaa decorated Christmas Tree … that’s great! I’ve been Dressing for about 17 months now. I find there’s far more to this then just the tinsel and Garling. As a Closet Girl I pretty much have a Private Tree. But the attention and care given to each ornament, each decoration is chosen and placed with great care. As I practice my movements and mannerisms, my walking and talking. Yes, I’m growing more and more comfortable in my own skin … in my own femininity. While I have no intention of transitioning. I do have every intention of developing my feminine… Read more »

Davida Mae
Davida Mae
3 years ago
Reply to  Char

Thanks Sweet Pea but I couldn’t find your “Silver Earrings”

Bettylou Cox
Bettylou Cox
3 years ago

Hi Char,

“Normal" and “natural" behavior keep getting re-defined as being whatever some influential segment of society say it is. They are wrong. It is instinctive, not learned. As you note, it isn’t instinctive to reject an adorned body; we learn to do that – after classifying that body into one of the two major groups of humanity. Not logical, really, but then, our species isn’t well-known for logical behavior. Better that we follow our own hearts, not some anonymous, collective mind.


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