Since the start of Esprit I’ve spent more than half of the time as Vanessa. I’ve gone out, gone shopping, met people and generally just carried on about the business of life as a woman every other week. Yet in a few weeks this will change. I start my new job soon, and my time en femme will become much more limited – at least until I go full time, which is still a 9-12 months away.
This got me thinking, what does it mean to live “part time” as a woman? Are there a certain number of days each week you need to spend en femme to qualify as a part time woman? Or does it have to do more with the nature of the time you spend as a woman?
Is it the case that the part time woman does things a woman would normally do, while a “non part time woman” is limited to only certain activities – perhaps only ever presenting in the safety of her home?
I wonder whether it could be the slow separation of your life into two parts – where certain people only know you as a woman, and you only attend certain activities as a woman. Perhaps your electrologist and fellow book club attendees only every see your femme side, and in this respect you’re part time.
Or does part time imply a direction – on the way from “no time woman” to “full time woman”, so being part time is defined more by your direction towards a destination than where you are at the moment.
I’m not really hung up on labels, and I would describe myself as a part time woman even when I’m no longer able to present as such every second week. But I am interested in how you would describe a part time woman. Take a moment to answer the poll below and let me know 🙂
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As much as I would love to tell you that I am a woman inside,I know that I am not.I am of the third gender..a blender,I guess. Since early childhood,I have had a serious interest in wearing "girl clothes" as well as more than a casual interest in makeup.I dress everyday,even if not going anywhere out.However,I skip most makeup when staying home…I truly wear "boy clothes" only to do my manly work[for myself.]I rollerblade in fem mode,almost daily..sort of a release for me. BUT,I KNOW THAT I DON"T HAVE ALL OF A WOMAN'S FEELINGS ABOUT LIFE,and never will. I have… Read more »
Hi I think people shouldn’t put us in pigeon holes males in one females in another and only come together to bread. There is a third sex out here called ” the inner sex” this is what we as cross dressers & trans people fall into.My self i’m a m2f cross dresser and have been since 5 yrs old. I have posted a blog on wordpress about me. I will post it here as well to let you all know me.
Hi all vickie here well as promised here is the blog i have done for you all. Hi I have been cross dressing since i was about 5 years old. It is a way of life for me not some sexual kick, it has never been that way for me. When I started dressing up i was in the bathroom trying on my sisters clothes. No one ever knew till years later, when I told my partner now my second wife about it. I came from a working class family with old fashioned idea’s. Boys do not dress like girls,… Read more »
wow, your story is so similar to mine it’s uncanny, thank you for sharing.
Vickie
As Helen Boyd points out in her book “My Husband Betty”, women have earned the right to wear men’s clothes. Men have not yet earned the right to wear women’s clothes.
Helena
I have only just joined and find all the comments brilliant, it has helped me a lot, still hiding a bit indoors. Over the last few weeks my wife has got a bit friendlier, thinks she is beginning to like the other bitch xx
My job takes me away for 3 months at a time in a very unforgiving male orientated enviroment,so for safetys sake I have to pretend to be “him”,on the plus side I have 3 months at a time as me when I’m home.
The way I rationalise it (to keep me sane) is that I let “him” out to go to work and earn money for me to spend :-)…..Its like being married without the arguments…after all “he’s” never going to win
I really like your reply. It really made me laugh.
Hi, Vanessa that somewhat sound like me. I would like to live as a full-time Cross Dresser. I have the desire to but if I do then people look at me and laugh. I want to do it with inner pride. I still learning the on outfit coordination if anyone has suggestion Petra would greatly appreciate Thank You. Petra.
I dress 95% of the time living as a women I would like to dress as a women all the time am I part time or full time
Fantastic article Vanessa! I am a fulltime transgender Women in my perspective anyway. Although I can’t always present as the Women I really am I always think like one. I dress every chance I get and go every place from daily routine to shopping to going out. When dressed I feel complete and the rest of the world can see what I feel like all the time. The first time I went out dressed I was sixteen years old…it was a thrill I will never forget. I hope one day I am able to live “dressed” all the time and… Read more »
Interesting artlcle that got me thinking.
I have to go boy mode for school, when mom is around and for some functions where I know people that I have a history as male .But other times I go girl mode. So I am guessing 50%-60% of the time