My mom always used to say, “If life hands you lemons, make lemonade.” At least I think it was my mom, or some other suitably sage adult who influenced my growing years. Here in the US we’re just a few days away from Thanksgiving. Apart from turkey, football (of the non-soccer variety) and the occasional family feud, Thanksgiving is a time I use to reflect on all the blessings I’ve been given in my life.
After just a few minutes I’m hard pressed not to weep with gratitude to my creator for all I’ve been given. A family who loves me, a good job during troubled times and the blessing of health. In fact, if you’re reading this right now you’re likely wealthier than 95% of all people in the world. (If you don’t believe me, take a moment to find out where you are on the global rich list). Truly a blessing, even though it’s almost entirely an accident of birth.
But speaking of accidents of birth… If you’re reading this you or your loved one are probably dealing with the mixed blessing of being a transgendered person. This can be a difficult struggle, but I can honestly say that I’m truly grateful for being transgendered. It has made me a better person. Do you consider being transgendered a blessing? What are you most grateful for?
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Last Week’s Crossdressing Poll
Last week I asked if you could go back and change your birth gender, would you? It looks like most of you would choose to be born a girl. Though almost 30% of you were quite happy as a man, even if you occasionally don feminine attire. Truly we are blessed to be part of such a diverse community. Whether you’re a woman inside, on your way to becoming a woman outside as well, or happy dressing part time you are a unique and loved person.
I answered this poll with, “I don’t know”, though I was sorely tempted to exclaim how joyous it would be to be born my true gender. I couldn’t get past all the experiences I would miss out on being born a man, and how unpredictable my path as a woman would have been. Not least of which is meeting my beautiful wife, which would never have happened if I were born in my true gender.
Love and blessings this Thanksgiving to you and your loved ones.
Vanessa
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Yes!…Every day people seem to be bigger, and as a man it’s hard for me to find clothes that do not fit me enormously … especially pants and shoes …. I’m 5’6 without heels, but for my height, little weight, only 130 pounds and I have medium hands and feet I have a 6 us in men, and a 7.5 in heels, although in sandals I have entered more than one size 6. Dont believe I will have problem for find my size in woman….Do you think I’ll have a problem finding my size in women’s departments?
To me, it is such a blessing. Almost a sweet, gentle gift. I adore being a girl, and being so nice and gentle to others. I do not think I could ever cause any trouble to any one! I want my life to be full of kisses and hugs, sweet words, and smiles for everyone! Yes, one day, soon perhaps, I will be “all" girl! I surely hope so!
Your Sweet, Gentle, loving Roxanne
slowly, I am accepting it as something that is really wonderful.