My mom always used to say, “If life hands you lemons, make lemonade.” At least I think it was my mom, or some other suitably sage adult who influenced my growing years. Here in the US we’re just a few days away from Thanksgiving. Apart from turkey, football (of the non-soccer variety) and the occasional family feud, Thanksgiving is a time I use to reflect on all the blessings I’ve been given in my life.
After just a few minutes I’m hard pressed not to weep with gratitude to my creator for all I’ve been given. A family who loves me, a good job during troubled times and the blessing of health. In fact, if you’re reading this right now you’re likely wealthier than 95% of all people in the world. (If you don’t believe me, take a moment to find out where you are on the global rich list). Truly a blessing, even though it’s almost entirely an accident of birth.
But speaking of accidents of birth… If you’re reading this you or your loved one are probably dealing with the mixed blessing of being a transgendered person. This can be a difficult struggle, but I can honestly say that I’m truly grateful for being transgendered. It has made me a better person. Do you consider being transgendered a blessing? What are you most grateful for?
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Last Week’s Crossdressing Poll
Last week I asked if you could go back and change your birth gender, would you? It looks like most of you would choose to be born a girl. Though almost 30% of you were quite happy as a man, even if you occasionally don feminine attire. Truly we are blessed to be part of such a diverse community. Whether you’re a woman inside, on your way to becoming a woman outside as well, or happy dressing part time you are a unique and loved person.
I answered this poll with, “I don’t know”, though I was sorely tempted to exclaim how joyous it would be to be born my true gender. I couldn’t get past all the experiences I would miss out on being born a man, and how unpredictable my path as a woman would have been. Not least of which is meeting my beautiful wife, which would never have happened if I were born in my true gender.
Love and blessings this Thanksgiving to you and your loved ones.
Vanessa
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A very happy thanksgiving to you, yours, and your many friends and fans here in Cross Dresser Heaven. So glad to have met you on my journey.
I ‘D BE MORE THANKFUL IF I WAS BORN A GIRL,,, I’VE ALWAYS HAD THE FEELING IN ME I SHOULD HAVE BEEN ONE,, BUT HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO EVERYONE IN HERE… MELONY
Happy Thanksgiving Melony and Petra!
We should be all thankful each morning, when we wake up. As we take this road as a transgender. Ask for blessing for family and friends.
I have been a “closet" crossdresser since I was 10 yrs old. I am now in my mid 30’s and still enjoy dressing up.Even though I only dress in private and plan to stay in the “closet" as I have so much fun dressing up even if I am only walking around the house in a dress or skirt. I am very thankful for being a crossdresser.I have become very sensitive over the years and have found I have a very strong feminine ego. I dress up every night when i get home and I am always buying something feminine… Read more »
I am thankful for being a crossdresser for a lot of reasons. But as I was just roaming about the house thinking about this question, the main reason I am thankful I am a crossdresser is because if I hadn’t been, I would never have met the love of my life, my gf Molly.She is a rare gem ladies, she gets us, and mostly she gets me. It was through a CD site that we met, and when we met in r/t we fell in love. The rest is history. So for my love, my all, my blessing from God,… Read more »
Hello to all our Sisters,my name is Leona and i have finally and greatfully have come to except who i am. And that is a 56yr. old transgender. I wish that i could say that it had been easy steps for me.But the truth is i felt ashamed and torrmented that a man would or could feel the way i did. I found myself looking to all kinds of differant ways to suppress how i was and who i denyed for so long. But i met a person that i could be completly honest and open to. To top it… Read more »
Leona – these are words that everyone should here. Bless you darling.
If there had been an ‘other’ selection… 🙂
Personally, I think it’s a combination of the items you put on the poll. Sure, there were some bad times – in the early days – but hardly at all now (dare I say that? 🙂 ). Now it’s just good fun. I have trans friends – real and internet – who I can be open and honest with. I’m not so worried about the whole dressing up shebang, now I just accept and enjoy the occasions where I can be pretty (or at least try to).
As is so true in life 🙂
You’re right that it becomes easier than in the beginning (where every step is filled with anxiousness)..
I just got finished reading Lynns post.And do hope that with time the anxiousness fades as i continue on this wonderful journey. I say that because today i went and bought a really great pair of slouch boots. And i will say that at first i was nervous, I usualy buy my cloths on- line. But i was determined to follow my desire. I had a wonderfull experiance and even bought a beaded necklace to match. Will the time ever come that i will not ever be anxious? I do hope so. I even stoped at a salon to get… Read more »
Rowen, I have delt with this issue for many years, my transgender feelings and cross dressing.(I’m 44) I recently have come to terms with my self and with the understanding the The Lord made me. I did not choose to be this way, I just am. That fact that I feel/I am a woman inside does NOT change the fact that I love the Lord and he loves me. My salvation is safe with Him,and it does not depend on what I wear or how I feel. Accepting one self is the first step and many. Be happy with your… Read more »
I just had a sudden flash of knowledge this evening, and felt Ishould share it with the community. I realized why I have just now decided I must “come out of the closet." I don’t paticularly WANT to pass, per se – what I want is to be accepted wearing what society normally considers to be be female clothing. Becaue I work from home, I am able most of the time, to go around the house wearing whatever makes me feel good about myself. I don’t dress “over the top"; that is, my dress is fairly conservative by any standards,… Read more »
Thanks Elizabeth – ‘I don’t want to pass – what I want is to be accepted wearing what society normally considers to be female clothing.’. That’s such a powerful statement and realization, and one I wish more crossdressers would see too. Otherwise the path to passing will be long, hard and fraught with failure. Much better to travel the path to acceptance, which starts with self acceptance.
Hugs,
Vanessa
This is the first time I post. Your website is so wonderful. All you girls are brave and lovely in and out. God has bless us all.
Thanks Ronnie dear – welcome, it’s wonderful to have you as part of the community on Crossdresser Heaven.
To all darling sisters. I love to wear fem underclothes, Started in puberty, now I am 57. I had denied this to myself for so many years until recently somehow the urge came back. I never married and am hetero, so the urge was very strong and I indulged some. To my dismay, I feel soooo afraid, fearful that I will be in an accident or something really wrong will happen to me, something like God´s punisment, so I do use them only indoors. I tried a new item and to my scock had an accident that left my nose… Read more »
SUNSEEARRY, “faith,hope and love but the greatest of these is love. If we are to live to these would it not seem true also that the Creator would also apply this to him, her self? I do understand the feelings that you are having but untill you see the great gift you have been given and love yourself for who you are you will only bring disappointment to yourself and to those so close to you. Ibelieve that there is a punisment to those who perpetrate evil but not against an Enitie but to those who perpetrate it against our… Read more »