My mom always used to say, “If life hands you lemons, make lemonade.” At least I think it was my mom, or some other suitably sage adult who influenced my growing years. Here in the US we’re just a few days away from Thanksgiving. Apart from turkey, football (of the non-soccer variety) and the occasional family feud, Thanksgiving is a time I use to reflect on all the blessings I’ve been given in my life.
After just a few minutes I’m hard pressed not to weep with gratitude to my creator for all I’ve been given. A family who loves me, a good job during troubled times and the blessing of health. In fact, if you’re reading this right now you’re likely wealthier than 95% of all people in the world. (If you don’t believe me, take a moment to find out where you are on the global rich list). Truly a blessing, even though it’s almost entirely an accident of birth.
But speaking of accidents of birth… If you’re reading this you or your loved one are probably dealing with the mixed blessing of being a transgendered person. This can be a difficult struggle, but I can honestly say that I’m truly grateful for being transgendered. It has made me a better person. Do you consider being transgendered a blessing? What are you most grateful for?
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Last Week’s Crossdressing Poll
Last week I asked if you could go back and change your birth gender, would you? It looks like most of you would choose to be born a girl. Though almost 30% of you were quite happy as a man, even if you occasionally don feminine attire. Truly we are blessed to be part of such a diverse community. Whether you’re a woman inside, on your way to becoming a woman outside as well, or happy dressing part time you are a unique and loved person.
I answered this poll with, “I don’t know”, though I was sorely tempted to exclaim how joyous it would be to be born my true gender. I couldn’t get past all the experiences I would miss out on being born a man, and how unpredictable my path as a woman would have been. Not least of which is meeting my beautiful wife, which would never have happened if I were born in my true gender.
Love and blessings this Thanksgiving to you and your loved ones.
Vanessa
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Hi Ladies I have never had an opportunity to openly say what I feel until i found this site. Thankyou so much! I have been a lover of feminine things – mainly lingerie, since as early as mid primary school. I used to sneak into my sisters room to get some of their panties to wear to make me excited and it has grown and continued to the present time. I am now 49 years old but still in the closet. I am married and have two sons aged 4 and 12. I have tried to come out through discussing… Read more »
Hi Regina, never allow you “true self" to disappear. I understand that you have small children at this time in your life. They depend on you and that should be your upmost priority. I also had to live in the “closet" for many years when raising my 4 children. They are all grown, my oldest 23 youngest 15. Only my youngest daughter is accepting of me. ( I have not opened up to my other children,my boys are 19,oldest daughter 23 )I also have a step daughter who is very accepting along with her boyfriend. It is a great support… Read more »
Reading all these posts gives me a view of the diversity of gender expression. Since I was about 10 I felt as though I wanted to be a girl. By 14 Envied them so much it really bugged me. When other boys were watching them, I was wanting to be one of them. I have always had business, or personal friends who got in the way of moving foward with this, and while Ive been out for years, Im finally going to get myself right as Ive retired, and friends have drifted away. Been on hormones years ago, have nice… Read more »
Hello Carol Ann, I read your post and someway connected to what you said. I was wandering if we might e-m each other and share? I to am older and it took years for me to finally accept that person that has desired to be set free. I thought that maybe we could just share. I have several e-m’s and would love to hear from you! senecanation@yahoo.com
I am extremely grateful for being the person I am. My only regret is that I can’t outwardly be more the woman I always feel inside.
If by proud, you mean do I like being a crossdresser? the answere is Yes!! While I may not be able to dress all the way (Home situation) I at least underdress and really enjoy it. I suppose if I could go back my 58 yrs, I would ask the Lord to be born a girl. I have worn skirts and dresses in past times and it feels ‘right’ for me. Unfortunately, that is not my reality. But regardless, I am happy to be a CD.
Good morning to all. It is so cold here and not to warm for a time. I would like to get some advice on purchasing breast enhancers. I am on a herbal breast enlargement program and is working but slow. I guess all good things do take time. I have been to many sites that sell but to be honest it can be quite confussing at times. I am not looking to over exagerate but to keep to my size. I am 5’6″ and 135lb. So i do not want to look foolish just compliment. Would really like to hear… Read more »
Hi, Leona – I have found that most breast forms are just too large, jiggley, and fake-looking. BEsides – they are all unbelieveably HOT!!! You sweat like a pig under them. The best ones I have found for slight enhancement, without being ‘over the top’ are sold as silicone no-strap bras. I wear Braza brand. They are more teardrop – shaped than most others, and you can try wearing them with the taperec elongation in different positions until you find the one that most naturally fits your body shape. They are also only about one cup size incease, so, if… Read more »
Elizabeth, thank you for your reply. I to am not real young anymore. I have reached the age of 57 and i to within the last few years have come to the place that i am comfortable and pleased in my new life. It was a soul searching and quite exciting to accept that which was there but always suppresed. But no more! I am in counseling, not to be cured. But to grow as woman. And i have recieved only encouragement and great hope. I will look for the enhancers that you have written about. And hope i can… Read more »
Yes !!!! I love every minute.
I am Thankful for being a crossdresser in this day and time. Having an outlet to share on the computer and being known with my femme name really has helped me accept my two selves.
I am thankful for being a crossdresser!
I love the feel of Panties on my bottom, and stockings or hosiery on my feet and legs.
I live in one of the most conservative areas of the United States, so I don’t dare go too far in my crossdressing, but it does seem like the gap has narrowed in women versus men can wear, fashion has become more unisex, and that’s a very good thing!
Oh yes! I am new to crossdressing but am loving every minute I spend in makeup and en femme!
Diane