Are you willing to feeel goood?

In the past, I have used being authentic as an excuse for feeling dark n twisty.

I use the word authentic because there are so many labels used to describe and categorize and compartmentalize who we are or not. If we are to choose a label for anything, we first must set out the guidelines of what qualifies that anything as a good ‘fit’ for our category or compartment.

I recall a visit to a friend’s home some time ago and although we had a truly wonderful visit, some comments were made that left me asking myself am I trans enough to be transgender, or am I a crossdresser, gender non-conforming? Just a side note, the label Trans is an umbrella term used to describe a wide range of rainbow tribe members in our society.

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This is not about being trans though, it’s about labels, and how we choose to feel in any given moment.

Trans, gender different, fat, thin, tall, short, plumber, doctor and contractor are all labels we use for identification; oh, she’s an accountant or he’s a nurse.

Labels are tossed around and used every day on our tiny blue planet, and they are simply that, labels. Categories and compartments we set up to find a place where we feel like we ‘fit in’; labels are our way of feeling like we have belonging, but is that true authenticity?

Belonging is the feeling of being a part of something bigger than the self as I understand it, yet to conform or change oneself so that we fit into a label or group, then we are not being truly authentic.

True authenticity is the courage to stand alone while having a strong sense or knowing that we are a part of something much bigger.

The catch 22 here is that we often use labels to keep ourselves small and stuck. We become addicted to feeling powerless or like a victim. For the most of my life I have unwittingly used self-descriptive labels for this purpose.

This week, ponder this a bit and notice that really, everyone is unique and different, and to be truly happy and at peace on the inside we must let go of the labels and make a new choice. Any time we are trying to fit into a group, we must follow the group guidelines and therefore we lose some of our authentic self in the process of trying to fit in.

If we resist feeling goood, we are in fact choosing to feel miserable or to stay stuck; it is a choice. By choosing to belong to myself, I can joyfully support groups, but also sustain the natural authenticity that is me.

Are you willing to feel goood by dropping the labels, belonging to your self, and be seen by the world in your true authenticity? I am. . .

Thank you for reading Your Weekly Reset and thank you for being exactly who you are lovelies!


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Dropping out of high school I began touring in the Canadian country music scene at age 17; clubs and soft seat venues, drummer/vocalist for 22 years. After 4 suicide attempts and heavy cocaine etc addiction issues, i decided to learn Self-Acceptance as apposed to self-hatred. I became a student of the Universe and an Instructor of Life Skills at a local College while operating a Private Coaching Practice. Currently, I am rebuilding the Life Coaching practice after a couple years of more personal work well under way. I am also creating online opportunities that will serve our world community…and our world in understanding how the learned life skills of Intentionally and Consciously Creating an Amazing Life have filled my life with Passion, Purpose and Prosperity and they can for you as well... Namaste'

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Sara Thomassm
Active Member
2 years ago

I love your article very much. It is so true about labels I myself would like to be known as Sara.

Tabitha Lennox
2 years ago
Reply to  Sara Thomassm

I totally get why “labels" are such a big deal. I’ve been trying to explain to my therapist for 3 weeks how even though I’m not technically “full time" I still haven’t left the house since before college without at least having a non-padded bra on. He thinks that determines that I’m “trans" according to “the book" but I’m really just ME, and I just feel incomplete without something holding my boobs up comfortably. Anyway, my constant bra wearing technically makes me more feminine according to science, so yay!

2 years ago

I am trying hard to be Me. I’m fascinated by labels and words and find them usefully descriptive and helpful for communicating concepts and ideas. They give structure and alignment between elements. But there comes a point when they no longer serve, they suddenly seem clumsy and inappropriate. Labels are like primary colours everyone understands them but I’m like that blue or is it green , it’s soft but distinctive difficult to describe and different to different people. I was writing something on here the other day and described myself as he and she in the same sentence and it… Read more »

2 years ago
Reply to  Char

I understand and agree. It takes time to be yourself. To copy an icon is easy as you can see an example and mimic but being yourself is harder it’s finding and expressing what feels right to you.


Lisa xxx

Beth Green
2 years ago

Yes, labels are used by others to pigeon hole us. I am a cross dresser but that is a broad term with many varieties. I dress to present as a woman. Then I am a transvestite. No, that implies that I am a drag queen. I am not dressing over the top to entertain or shock, I dress to present and live 24 hrs as a normal woman. Then I am transgender wishing to become a woman. No, the male part remains and there is no desire to be rid of him. That leaves transsexual. A tough label to define… Read more »

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