Be Encouraged By What You Learn

Crossdressers - Be encouraged by what you learn

At the start of every yoga class we’re urged to set an intention for the practice. The intention is set as something to grasp onto when the practice gets tough. When your muscles are aching and sweat is dripping down your forehead you can come back to your intention for strength and motivation.

Recently I made my second trip to an advanced yoga practice. The first one had been a miserable experience. Overwhelmed and unable to follow along with the instructor I spent most of the class lying on my mat. It had taken a few months before I braved the advanced class again, yet the memory of my failure was still in my mind.

I knew that the class was going to be just as hard, and I would feel overwhelmed, tired and frustrated. So I chose my intention carefully. This practice I was going to focus on one thought:

Be Encouraged By What You Learn

Be encouraged by learning, not by perfection. Even if I try a pose and fail, my muscles become stronger, I learn more about the technique. Even if I’m too tired to stand up, I watch others and learn from them.

Throughout the practice I felt encouraged by my frustrations. I felt encouraged when I couldn’t do a pose. I felt encouraged when my muscles ached and my body quivered. I felt encouraged by what I was learning in every moment.

Crossdress and Be Encouraged

Sometimes crossdressing is like the most difficult yoga practice. You’re frustrated because you can’t seem to get your makeup right. Your clothes don’t fit properly, you struggle to walk in heels and you ladder your stockings. Every step you take as a crossdresser seems manly, clumsy and awkward. You may even have people laugh at you, or stare with intense interest. Your feet might be hurting, sweat ruining your makeup and the teller calls you, ‘sir’.

Despite being excited at the prospect of a wonderful day spent en femme you end your day in despair. Cursing your transgendered misfortune.

But Be Encouraged By What You Learn

It’s easy to get caught in the perfection trap. Always striving for perfect, yet never achieving it. Each failure chipping away at your pride until you barely feel like wearing anything at all. Don’t let your own judgments stop you from crossdressing.

Wear those clothes, do your makeup, put on that wig. Do your feminine best, and be encouraged by what you learn. Even if all you learn is how ill suited that red sweater is for your figure, have fun being awfully gorgeous.

We’re all just practicing our femininity, some of us have been at it a while longer, that’s all.

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Lynn Jones
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Lynn Jones

I shall never be able to do a Salute to the Sun without thinking of this blog post 🙂

(weak) Jokes aside, it’s true. It – cross dressing – is a learning curve. Sometimes quite a steep one, but it’s fun studying! 😀

Joy Phillip
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Joy Phillip

I find it encouraging that even GGs don’t get it right all the time. All the problems that we have they have also had at one time or another, the only advantage they have is the practice of doing it longer. We haven’t had that luxury, but once we start putting on the dresses and other things, we do get the practice. Keep going.

The Femininity Coach
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The Femininity Coach

I love the Yoga comparison. It takes discipline to be a beautiful, confident, resourceful, and comfortable in your skin. Great advice

Marquise
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Marquise

Thanks for this post, I was actually using this information tonight (for martial arts as opposed to yoga), I find I wind myself up over aiming for perfection when I should realise its a long slow journey and not even those furthers along it have reached perfection yet 🙂

Stephenie Mace
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Stephenie Mace

I like simple and direct articles like this. I find them informative without bogging me down with super technical stuff and yet at the same time giving practical and USEFUL advice. Such as the types of colours to wear etc. Thanks a lot and I do hope that more such articles are forth coming 🙂

Elle
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Elle

Very encouraging. Thank you so much.

Falecia McGuire
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Falecia McGuire

I was just thinking the other day that one of the things I hoped for years ago was to become so comfortable in feminine clothing that I could get dressed with easy and do the things I needed to do at any given time while dressed. I used to admire women who could slip in high heels like they were slippers by merely reaching down with their toes, flipping the shoe upright and guiding the shoe on without used of their hands. I can now do that with all but my newest tightest heels of the strappy ones. The ability… Read more »

Janine O.
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Janine O.

Thank you for providing me with your support. This has been a difficult time for me. I almost lost my love for crossdressing and assuming a female persona.

Jane don
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Jane don

It would be great to meet other CDs (inperson) so as to encourage/learn from each other so as to not get discouraged!
Jane London Ontairo

Kimberly
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Kimberly

I remember being a teen and getting chances to have my own lingerie. I had so much fun trying on different styles and fabrics. But the guilt that came with dressing was one of the worst things ever. I purged so much even into my twenties. It may not have been so much dressing as much as it was the sexual side of it that the guilt came from. Once I was able to put on panties and keep myself under control, I found so much more joy and comfort in wearing them as underwear and not as a gateway… Read more »

Jane don
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Jane don

As long as they are steps foreward–not backwards life gets better–
Ways to get more compfortable with coming out are–
When shopping for fem clothes-Tell the sales people they are for you Or that you need to try them on to make shure they fit—
Let one or two of your friends or family”Catch” you in panties/nightgown ect-
If your uncompfortable–Just tell them(to begin with) that the clothes are just more comfy-

Natalia
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Natalia

Am just entering the CD world and began very much on own. No one in my life knew and many will not know. But as I began to purchase all that makes me femme, I felt an incredible sense of freedom! Long live the new femme me!

Chrissy
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Chrissy

Thank you I have been there threw out all my clothes but now buying new ones. After reading this I dont think I will be getting rid of my clothes again.

Rachel
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Rachel

Thanks and I feel much better to have support on here.I crossdress privately and have a non supportive mom so far whom found my stash of women’s clothes and shoes in December.Was not too happy seeing it and I got to keep by luck

Lacy
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Lacy

I totally agree, Jane. I would love to meet other CD’s with whom I could go out for a night on the town.

Jem
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Jem

God bless you! This website is a Godsend to someone like me <3 <3 :0.)

Katie Novak
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Katie Novak

Great information, I would love to get more tip on make up

Katie Novak
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Katie Novak

Thank you Vanessa, I would like to join in on discussions if available

Janet
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Janet

I’m over whelmed by how comfortable I’ve become as a woman. Given the time I can be in makeup and a dress with hose and heels in under an hour. I love feeling feminine!

Cristina Camps
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Cristina Camps

Hello Vanessa, is a great pleasure to write in this space. I am a Brazilian crossdresser and director of the most crossdressers club of my country. The Brazilian Crossdresser Club (www.bccclub.com.br) has 600 associates and eventually met in national events. It will be great to read your articles and learn a little more about the art of being a woman 🙂

nancy pink
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nancy pink

Omg…yoga.I love yoga.even though I have had this feeling before … lk myself.. and all this transition… I’m new

priyanka
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priyanka

I loved it but I want to ask i am 15 so how to crossdress when you are alone but not having any cloth to crossdress

Constance
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Constance

There are ways to wear male clothes in feminine ways, just try googling that online (Youtube etc). Also, if you have any oversized male dress shirts, you can wear those differently, like a dress, and Youtube has instructional videos on that too, however this usually tends to work better for women in family households since they tend to be more petite. However, these tips can really help if you don’t have any feminine clothes or you’re nervous about shopping for those in public, just start out getting (oversized) male clothes.

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