At the start of every yoga class we’re urged to set an intention for the practice. The intention is set as something to grasp onto when the practice gets tough. When your muscles are aching and sweat is dripping down your forehead you can come back to your intention for strength and motivation.
Recently I made my second trip to an advanced yoga practice. The first one had been a miserable experience. Overwhelmed and unable to follow along with the instructor I spent most of the class lying on my mat. It had taken a few months before I braved the advanced class again, yet the memory of my failure was still in my mind.
I knew that the class was going to be just as hard, and I would feel overwhelmed, tired and frustrated. So I chose my intention carefully. This practice I was going to focus on one thought:
Be Encouraged By What You Learn
Be encouraged by learning, not by perfection. Even if I try a pose and fail, my muscles become stronger, I learn more about the technique. Even if I’m too tired to stand up, I watch others and learn from them.
Throughout the practice I felt encouraged by my frustrations. I felt encouraged when I couldn’t do a pose. I felt encouraged when my muscles ached and my body quivered. I felt encouraged by what I was learning in every moment.
Crossdress and Be Encouraged
Sometimes crossdressing is like the most difficult yoga practice. You’re frustrated because you can’t seem to get your makeup right. Your clothes don’t fit properly, you struggle to walk in heels and you ladder your stockings. Every step you take as a crossdresser seems manly, clumsy and awkward. You may even have people laugh at you, or stare with intense interest. Your feet might be hurting, sweat ruining your makeup and the teller calls you, ‘sir’.
Despite being excited at the prospect of a wonderful day spent en femme you end your day in despair. Cursing your transgendered misfortune.
But Be Encouraged By What You Learn
It’s easy to get caught in the perfection trap. Always striving for perfect, yet never achieving it. Each failure chipping away at your pride until you barely feel like wearing anything at all. Don’t let your own judgments stop you from crossdressing.
Wear those clothes, do your makeup, put on that wig. Do your feminine best, and be encouraged by what you learn. Even if all you learn is how ill suited that red sweater is for your figure, have fun being awfully gorgeous.
We’re all just practicing our femininity, some of us have been at it a while longer, that’s all.
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Thank you I have been there threw out all my clothes but now buying new ones. After reading this I dont think I will be getting rid of my clothes again.
Thanks and I feel much better to have support on here.I crossdress privately and have a non supportive mom so far whom found my stash of women’s clothes and shoes in December.Was not too happy seeing it and I got to keep by luck
I totally agree, Jane. I would love to meet other CD’s with whom I could go out for a night on the town.
God bless you! This website is a Godsend to someone like me <3 <3 :0.)
I’m glad you found us Jem! And glad you’re part of our community. Hugs!
Great information, I would love to get more tip on make up
Thank you Vanessa, I would like to join in on discussions if available
I’m over whelmed by how comfortable I’ve become as a woman. Given the time I can be in makeup and a dress with hose and heels in under an hour. I love feeling feminine!
Getting ready quickly is not something I’ve been able to master… I’m definitely more laid back in my appearance, only getting dressed up for events and date night 🙂
Hello Vanessa, is a great pleasure to write in this space. I am a Brazilian crossdresser and director of the most crossdressers club of my country. The Brazilian Crossdresser Club (www.bccclub.com.br) has 600 associates and eventually met in national events. It will be great to read your articles and learn a little more about the art of being a woman 🙂
Hi Cristina, let me know if you’d like to submit an article to Crossdresser Heaven we’d love to hear from our Brazilian sisters!
Omg…yoga.I love yoga.even though I have had this feeling before … lk myself.. and all this transition… I’m new
Welcome Nancy – just like yoga it’s an experience you grow into, it changes you and you change to meet it. Hugs!
I loved it but I want to ask i am 15 so how to crossdress when you are alone but not having any cloth to crossdress
There are ways to wear male clothes in feminine ways, just try googling that online (Youtube etc). Also, if you have any oversized male dress shirts, you can wear those differently, like a dress, and Youtube has instructional videos on that too, however this usually tends to work better for women in family households since they tend to be more petite. However, these tips can really help if you don’t have any feminine clothes or you’re nervous about shopping for those in public, just start out getting (oversized) male clothes.