At the start of every yoga class we’re urged to set an intention for the practice. The intention is set as something to grasp onto when the practice gets tough. When your muscles are aching and sweat is dripping down your forehead you can come back to your intention for strength and motivation.
Recently I made my second trip to an advanced yoga practice. The first one had been a miserable experience. Overwhelmed and unable to follow along with the instructor I spent most of the class lying on my mat. It had taken a few months before I braved the advanced class again, yet the memory of my failure was still in my mind.
I knew that the class was going to be just as hard, and I would feel overwhelmed, tired and frustrated. So I chose my intention carefully. This practice I was going to focus on one thought:
Be Encouraged By What You Learn
Be encouraged by learning, not by perfection. Even if I try a pose and fail, my muscles become stronger, I learn more about the technique. Even if I’m too tired to stand up, I watch others and learn from them.
Throughout the practice I felt encouraged by my frustrations. I felt encouraged when I couldn’t do a pose. I felt encouraged when my muscles ached and my body quivered. I felt encouraged by what I was learning in every moment.
Crossdress and Be Encouraged
Sometimes crossdressing is like the most difficult yoga practice. You’re frustrated because you can’t seem to get your makeup right. Your clothes don’t fit properly, you struggle to walk in heels and you ladder your stockings. Every step you take as a crossdresser seems manly, clumsy and awkward. You may even have people laugh at you, or stare with intense interest. Your feet might be hurting, sweat ruining your makeup and the teller calls you, ‘sir’.
Despite being excited at the prospect of a wonderful day spent en femme you end your day in despair. Cursing your transgendered misfortune.
But Be Encouraged By What You Learn
It’s easy to get caught in the perfection trap. Always striving for perfect, yet never achieving it. Each failure chipping away at your pride until you barely feel like wearing anything at all. Don’t let your own judgments stop you from crossdressing.
Wear those clothes, do your makeup, put on that wig. Do your feminine best, and be encouraged by what you learn. Even if all you learn is how ill suited that red sweater is for your figure, have fun being awfully gorgeous.
We’re all just practicing our femininity, some of us have been at it a while longer, that’s all.
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I have been a cross dresser for a while.
I to can get transformed into my feminine person in less than a hour
I am the happiest when I am wearing a skirt and thigh high hose
After I put on my high heels and leave to go out to shop I am totally relaxed and confident as I go about my day.
Thank you for your support
What a great article, and how encouraging!
Can i ask how i get smooth without razor rash
My chest especially?
And do breadt creams work to grow your breast
To ensure that your legs look smooth and silky, application of a depilitory sometimes helps avoid a rash. Use a lot of sweet smelling shave gel with hot water and soak well before you use a new razor every time. After shaving, smooth on a nice creamy lotion on your pretty legs. Be sure to get a good pedicure on your feet.
Candy just tap the little circle next to the robat
hello I have been crossdressing for a while know. allways at home. I finally got the nerve to go to the mall as tammy. and went out for the first time shoe shopping .I was left alone
i got lots of stairs when i left the mall walking to my car i was called a fagit and homo.
i went home and took off my tammy clothing and only dress as tammy at home .I looking for a place to go as tammy.
Hi Tammy,
How brave of you as it’s apparent you didn’t quite make it as the woman you like to be but it must have been fun and exciting. Did you shop for nice things like lingerie. I’ve been out too but late at night so not so noticable but with heels I’m 6’6″. I’m very good as walking and being fem and do love it. Do you think you’ll do it again?
Hugs, lacy
Be proud of who you are , love yourself as you are and always be kind to everyone !
Wish me luck,going out for the first time next week.Going to casino and will be wearing a dress my wig and will be getting my nails done,and my face makeover.
I am straight male, but a cross dresser. I love wearing all sorts of girly dress and go out for walk in the morning when no one is around. Especially panties and bras make me very comfortable and reassuring. The touch of the soft fabric on my soft parts makes me feel good and some times little high. I also tried sanitary napkins for its softness and felt good Girls have so many fine soft and well designed colourful garments and under garments. Men’s clothes especially undies are very ill designed and bad. I love all that is feminine. No… Read more »
Hi i like your trip wish i could be like you xx
Always been a loner. Only dress for my own satisfaction, never confident enough to show myself in public.
My body is fine as I am skinny smooth and quite girly, but I need some help in facial make up. I have watched tutorials but don’t want to look like a clown. I know the look I want is one that has a goth heavy eye and chiselled cheek bones look with kissable lips. I need someone to start my journey for me. Any advise?
I can tell you from my experience a girl friend of mine suggested I make an appointment for lessons with Ultra Salon so I did and went in partly dressed and could not believe how good it felt when I looked in mirror I have been back often and getting better each time
I’ve dressed since 10 when I discovered how nice it felt to have my mom’s panties and bras on. My life is straight but closet dress a lot without the wife knowing. Tough to be the girl I like to be and know how hard it is to explain this to anyone who would think we’re sick, including my wife. The internet has let me know that I’m so not alone which is great as it’s always nice to talk to others that are in the same situation as I am. I dressed for years just loving being fem but… Read more »