At the start of every yoga class we’re urged to set an intention for the practice. The intention is set as something to grasp onto when the practice gets tough. When your muscles are aching and sweat is dripping down your forehead you can come back to your intention for strength and motivation.
Recently I made my second trip to an advanced yoga practice. The first one had been a miserable experience. Overwhelmed and unable to follow along with the instructor I spent most of the class lying on my mat. It had taken a few months before I braved the advanced class again, yet the memory of my failure was still in my mind.
I knew that the class was going to be just as hard, and I would feel overwhelmed, tired and frustrated. So I chose my intention carefully. This practice I was going to focus on one thought:
Be Encouraged By What You Learn
Be encouraged by learning, not by perfection. Even if I try a pose and fail, my muscles become stronger, I learn more about the technique. Even if I’m too tired to stand up, I watch others and learn from them.
Throughout the practice I felt encouraged by my frustrations. I felt encouraged when I couldn’t do a pose. I felt encouraged when my muscles ached and my body quivered. I felt encouraged by what I was learning in every moment.
Crossdress and Be Encouraged
Sometimes crossdressing is like the most difficult yoga practice. You’re frustrated because you can’t seem to get your makeup right. Your clothes don’t fit properly, you struggle to walk in heels and you ladder your stockings. Every step you take as a crossdresser seems manly, clumsy and awkward. You may even have people laugh at you, or stare with intense interest. Your feet might be hurting, sweat ruining your makeup and the teller calls you, ‘sir’.
Despite being excited at the prospect of a wonderful day spent en femme you end your day in despair. Cursing your transgendered misfortune.
But Be Encouraged By What You Learn
It’s easy to get caught in the perfection trap. Always striving for perfect, yet never achieving it. Each failure chipping away at your pride until you barely feel like wearing anything at all. Don’t let your own judgments stop you from crossdressing.
Wear those clothes, do your makeup, put on that wig. Do your feminine best, and be encouraged by what you learn. Even if all you learn is how ill suited that red sweater is for your figure, have fun being awfully gorgeous.
We’re all just practicing our femininity, some of us have been at it a while longer, that’s all.
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Hi my name is cara it’s been a long journey for me but I am slowly getting therei I get most of female clothes off Ebay my dream I’d to go all the way and be 100% women
Very valid article. I’m in that funk right now. I started about 2 years ago. Was having a blast in the beginning, then that need to be perfect hit me like a brick wall. I haven’t dressed in probably 5 months. Last time I wore a wig was about a month ago. My biggest deterrent is my hair on my body and the worst my five o’clock shadow. I’ve shaved everything, and being the the wife doesn’t accept, it’s kind of annoying to have to hide by putting makeup on only to have to remove it hours later. At the… Read more »
I know what you’re going thru. I’ve got a brother that doesn’t want me not go out the front door dressed. Snook out the other nite, like a teenager, ha!!! Hope things change for you
Scared but happy to be one of the girls
Same here.
Hope to have fun!
Scared but happy i have reached out to you
Hi I’m cielo I just start cross dressing I feel real good but I have a real hard time using a caff to hide my parts what can I do to make it Izzy and confer full
Wear smaller size panties. All these on line stores sell men’s panties. Some have wider crotch. There’s shien, Etsy, Amazon, sudden fem, or you can cut it down to a nubb. Ha!!!!!
Hello Everyone.. My name is Jessica Maddison… I am New to this Site…
But I’ve been Crossdressing all of my Life… I’m here to make New Friends. And to learn all I can.. from all of You.
Hope to talk to Everyone SOON
Nice to found your community
Thank you so much Ms Vanessa for allowing me to be a part of such a wonderful organization. You can definitely tell in your words … you speak from deep down in your heart. I can’t begin to tell you how refreshing that is and to say your words of encouragement are not falling on deaf ears.
Glad I finally got connected to one of the forums. Now I have questions. And am excited to meet on the forum. I’ve gone all the way this time. I feel happy when I dress out. But have been lonely, no way to meet anyone