Does that make me a Nobio?

I created a new word Nobio for the purpose of this article. A term to describe someone like myself that cannot be defined accurately through science. I’m not sure how others will perceive it, but it emerged while reviewing the text that flowed as I typed, appearing as if by magic on my computer screen. All in coordination with the sound of keys being struck by my fingers as if I were a pianist composing a new melody. Only time will tell!

I’ve been on hormone supplements for over four years, (now thankfully on a prescribed treatment plan). Since oestrogen was introduced into my body, my chemical balance has clearly changed to more resemble that of a natural woman. During the first year of taking supplements, I went through the many stages of emotion surges, overloads, waves, and crashes, until my body became familiar with the new cocktail it had to deal with. I know this was real and was confirmed four years later when I finally had a prescribed treatment. Three months into it I was asked if I were experiencing anything different since applying the prescribed dosage of oestrogen gel.

The truth is, I really didn’t feel the same high level of emotional changes or fluctuations. The way I could quickly be brought to tears and back again without knowing why. The shock to my body chemistry had already taken place back then. I believe I detected an element of surprise from my endocrinologist when I replied to her question.

I had already and happily accepted before I took the medical route with my transition, that I was born a male and am a father of two children, I can never change that and do not wish to. I prefer not to get into a headlock with feminists over the issue of referring to myself as a woman. I respect and understand the biological differences that I will always have, no matter how much surgery I wish to subject myself to. It does not, however, stop me from knowing and saying that I am a woman, in my sense and interpretation of that word and in relation to being transgender. The latter term is one that I do not really like but accept in the same way that I am not a cis woman, no matter how I feel.

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A chemical cocktail

Knowing the chemical changes that had taken place over the four-plus year period, I truly believe that I am a woman, as far as I can ever be. To be more precise – and will become, during the course of this year and after surgery. I will still be biologically a man, but my body chemistry and mind will not, along with the lifestyle that supports my beliefs, world, and self-perception.

No, I will never be a cis woman, and will never try to be accepted as one, especially in specific areas of sport or situations and where I am competing with them as if I were one of them. But that is not my passion in life either. There are those who do have that pursuit and find themselves being questioned by many sectors of society and especially feminists. The fact that there are already existing divisions in sport between males and females speaks loudly to me. In one way it makes sense, while in another it doesn’t. I dislike divisions for what they are and how they bring about the separation and segregation of groups of any kind. We are all people, life is not a competition, and Darwin got it wrong, albeit that he did the best he was able at that time!

There is so much in life for which I cannot find sensible answers. About why things are as they are, and how nations of people accept what they are subjected to without consultation or agreement. This feels contrary to my beliefs of human rights on all levels. But getting back to being a woman, I see so clearly how men have been derogatory and disempowering towards women for centuries. The word goddess is now used for celebrities in a weak attempt to elevate the weak to a higher perceived status in society – it doesn’t work for me! And there are goddesses that remain in existence but are not widely acknowledged or presented today, more so in Western culture.

I have observed men, who act in ways that I can only view as being quite pathetic, irrational, stupid, or plainly lacking in common sense. In their defence, common sense is anything but that in all people; it never ceases to amaze me on the levels in which it can surface daily.

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The essence of women

Women are the true givers of life through the carrying and bearing of children, support and nurturing of families, and a great deal more. They have been the backbone of so many developments and discoveries – and of men for that matter. They have brought about great steps in learning that has been passed onto and even taken over by men. To an extent that the men have gone down in history as the creators.

One particular group of women have been described as the first human-computer. A large group of women worked together using adding machines during World War II. They broke codes that altered how events followed and would be written into history. Instead of their value and efforts being acknowledged, and developed to continue, they were requested to teach their skills and knowledge to the sons of the wealthy in England. As a result, those men rose upon the backs and brilliance of those women.

I understand and sympathise so much with a female point of view, albeit I’m late in the day, but I see, and I witness it personally and have done so since the first year of truly being myself in France. This country has a history of masochistic men, which I see now is changing with the younger generation emerging into society. Those narrow-minded views are diminishing, but only slowly, and in the ‘professions are still propagated today!

I’ll finish by reaffirming my position in acknowledging myself and my truth. Nobody can tell me who and what I am any more than I can tell them. It’s a two-way street, provided they are able to be accepting enough themselves and who they are in their own truth. If they are unable, that is fine too. I understand not everyone can be where I am with my own beliefs and acceptance of others. I am able to forgive anyone, providing they are not aggressive in trying to impose their beliefs on me.

My root thinking is “Live and let live”. If others cannot live in that way, I sympathise with them. I do not have to agree with them or them with me. We are free to be who we are and believe what we wish. If it causes no harm to another then there really is no issue and no harm done. This is how I live my life and interact with others.

If only this were a global mindset!!!

Perhaps captured in the lyrics of James Brown and Betty Jean Newsome in 1966 that reached number one in the charts, these have the essence of life!
It’s a man’s, man’s, man’s world
But it would be nothing
Nothing without a woman and or a girl!

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I began this journey the day I opened my eyes for the very first time. I found this site at a time when I needed support more than any other point in my life. I had chosen to transition after years of internal turmoil, failing to be able understand or accept who and what I was. My life moved on at a pace that I found hard to deal with at times, but I managed. Living alone in the South West of France life was far from simple or easy then. Then, I discovered this oasis online, finding love, understanding and support unequalled to anything I have previously come across. Dare I suggest, my other family! So, why return after leaving about two years back? At the point, my life was changing dramaticaly, everything I had believed, understood and built my life around, up until that point, changed almost overnight. I am very settled in my life now living as a woman, with friends and a social life, all while being the happiest I have been. I am in the medical system here after overcoming many obstacles, now with the hope of surgery very soon to complete my transition. I have returned here in the hope that my experiences and knowledge can be of help to others in this community. When very young, I dreamed of being a girl, going to bed at night hoping I would awake as a girl. After realising that wasn't going to happen, I shut down that wish and lived a repressed existence from that day. It took a lifetime of unintentionally hurting myself and others, regretfully! Perhaps the one true regret of my life!

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Amy Myers
Noble Member
1 year ago

That’s quite a few big subjects you touch on this Sophie! The one I’ll mention now is about “Live, and let Live”. Such a beautiful and simple statement, and so much like that other one, the golden rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”. Again so easy and simple! Which how I have tried to live my life through and through. Doesn’t always work, as there are always others who think they know better, and need to enforce their point on you, no matter what. There seems to be a facet of human nature that… Read more »

Active Member
1 year ago

Dear Sophie; I love this article for both it’s expression and it’s content. You’ve hit so many good points about cultures and the interplay between the genders and how you personally feel that you fit into that matrix. I am/was interested in the statements about how the effects of the HRT have settled for you over time, and while you’ve expressed how you feel/think about the world now very well; I find myself interested in any insights that you have on how your views on the world may have changed over that same time. Your articles are always a welcome… Read more »

Active Member
1 year ago

Dear Sophie;
I look forward to hearing them when you’ve had a chance to formulate them. I have that problem all the time… I have something there, but how to express it…. That takes longer.

Active Member
1 year ago

I think at times it can be so hard being the way we are, but I wouldn’t change it for the world as ive grown to love being a dresser and all that it entails. Xx

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