When you look into the mirror what do you see.  In drab, for many of us, we see the person the world expects us to be, while under that image is something very different and filled with the most amazing feelings and love for ourselves. Which leads me to a conclusion I discovered recently.  In accepting me and talking about what I am increases the ability to embrace all those good feelings while I am expressing myself as a women and a feminine being in the world.

As most of us have done, if not all of us, putting that person aside has led to guilt, shame, wonderment of how we got here and confusion on what to about it.  Short times of acceptance, long periods of denial, and hopes of changing something and despair of having to let the feminine you go forever are regular occurrences. Acceptance in the world seems impossible when it comes to family, friends, work, and even you yourself at times. The awareness and honesty of being you feels like falling off a cliff. However, this the first step in taking that women, girl, special person and loving and caring being in to your heart and treating her like as though you cannot live without her. As I write these words, I feel so empowered to express myself even more than I can today.

Capturing these feelings and living them out in the ways your circumstances allow you to do is what you should do and let yourself feel good about it.  Setting a goal to increase your time as you is a good thing.  There are only degrees of success in this.

I am not an expert on much and have always said the only thing you can be an expert on is your own experiences. I have spent over 40 years coaching people, giving them advice on how to handle life’s events and drawing on my education, research, experiences and living with the girl in me.  So I say at this point in my life:

The image you have of yourself is the real you. By imagining yourself you open a window into what is possible in your life and what is to come. Your life is a manifestation of your dreams; it is an art.

Become the dream and create a masterpiece.

This you have the power to do. Look inside and know the choices you have for they will come to you if you look for them. Love the place you are in and take care of those you love.

The tears will turn into new roses and the images turn into butterflies.

Thank you for taking the time to read my article and I look forward to reading your responses!

Sincerely, Mickie

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    As far back as I can remember I have wanted to be a girl. I loved looking at girls and what they could ware. My sisters seemed to be so lucky. I have had girl friends form a very young age and enjoyed being with them more than the boys. Fast forward, and even though I lived the life of a man and raised a family of two children, I want to be a women. I enjoy being called a girl or girlfriend. My wife is somewhat accepting of me dressing up. Her support is very good for me. Now that I am retired, I try to dress up every day. I did dress up while working when I traveled and spent hours in hotel rooms being a women. I am adjusting much more to the real me, getting rid of the guilt, shame, and purging that has taken place over my life. I am trying to take the feeling I have when I am dressed up with me every day when I am in traditional men's cloths. My mans world included being a husband, father of two, military man, fighting in a war, two marriages, wonderful grandchildren, becoming a VP in the work environment all while hiding the real women I am inside. I am going to embrace this women and take care of her and enjoy all that it will mean for me.

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    Sarah Spice
    2 years ago

    Oh, Mickie (you’re so fine…LOL)
    You don’t know how timely your post is. I am really at a decision point in my life. Do I finally state my case for freedom to be who I know I really am or do I conform in an unhappy state because I’m too scared? Thank you for stating the case for change!

    2 years ago

    Thank you for sharing! I am so ready to really live my life but always fall short due to the fear of rejection from my own family.,I hope that one day I will be able to embrace myself and come forward to be the beautiful person that I have concealed for years. I was thinking that maybe a life coach could help me with my fear. Anyway, thanks. Brooke

    Hope Roberts
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    1 year ago

    Great article Mickie. You are spot on girl! Many times I wish I would have embraced my womanhood many years ago but now I look forward to time in retirement in a few years to really have some fun! Thanks for sharing your story.

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