Stephanie:
I am putting pen to paper to share a recent milestone and life changing experience. I had a full weekend planned to celebrate my 60th birthday, but it became much more than that. My 60th birthday celebration included a lovely open house party on Saturday and time with my daughter (Eleanor) on Monday, my actual birthday. My time with Eleanor included taking her to the train station for her journey home to Leeds. Eleanor suggested we get into town a bit early so she could treat me to a special birthday coffee. I loved the gesture but what happened next took my breath away!
I had come out to my wife and children as a crossdresser about a year ago. Both of my children were accepting of Stephanie, but I had never had the opportunity to discuss this more with my daughter Eleanor. I wanted to talk to Eleanor about this revelation and get her thoughts and feelings about this part of my life. I had conflicted feelings and wanted to confess my guilt and apologize for not being the proper father and role model I felt she deserved.
We arrived at Coffee #1 and, after getting our coffee’s, Eleanor presented me with a birthday card and a box of fudge. Upon opening the card, I found another envelope inside. On this envelope, she had written the following message: “For you to spend on whatever your heart desires”. I thanked her for the gift but didn’t give the message a second thought. I was very preoccupied with how to start this difficult conversation.
Taking a very deep breath and with my heart pounding in my ears, I started by saying that I had been wanting to talk to her for some time about Stephanie. I wanted to take this opportunity to get her thoughts and answer any questions she might have. To my immense relief, she gave me a huge smile and said she was hoping we would discuss this and would love to hear all about Stephanie. I can’t tell you enough how ecstatic I felt hearing Eleanor saying my femme name.
With a frog in my throat, I started at the beginning and told her how I had been dressing in some form since I was about six or seven years of age. I explained that as I grew through adolescence, the urges to dress had diminished. By the time I married her mum (I was 22 years old) I had no desire to crossdress. However, after 5-6 years of marriage, my “need to feel pretty” returned with a vengeance. I also mentioned that I had been terrified to come out to her mother about Stephanie. My feelings at that time were filled with guilt and confusion.
As we drank our coffee, the conversation shifted from my past to who Stephanie was. I told them I had come to accept that Stephanie was a real person and that she could not be ignored. I revealed how Stephanie got her name and that I had joined Crossdresser Heaven. I shared about how important CDH is to me, the wonderful support and friendship that I have gained, and the wonderful friends I had made (including my closest friend BFF Michelle).
Eleanor asked a few questions as we chatted. One question was “Did I want to go out in public?” I told her that I definitely wanted to go out in public as Stephanie and that I had actually done so last year. I had gone out dressed for a lovely walk in a very serene, safe setting.
She suggested that one weekend I could visit her in Leeds and we would go shopping for Stephanie together. If I was feeling bold enough we could even go out to a restaurant together in the evening. I was flabbergasted but simultaneous on Cloud Nine! Eleanor also mentioned that her birthday gift was for me to buy something special for Stephanie hence the “For your heart’s desire”.
We made our way to the station and had a little wait before the train arrived. I asked her if she wanted to see some photos of Stephanie. She said she would love to! I shared a few of the photos I had taken especially for my birthday. She exclaimed, “OH! Dad she is absolutely gorgeous”.
I am SO proud of Eleanor! She is so supportive and understanding at such a young age ( 22 years old).
This was unquestionably the best coffee I’ve ever had.
Eleanor:
Upon deciding to go for coffee, I had no suspicions that our conversation would carry out the way it did. Having my Dad bring up his crossdressing made me so happy. I was unsure before whether it was something I could bring up, or whether that would only make him anxious. I felt so proud and honored that he was happy to talk to me about it. After we finished our coffee, I had to catch my train home. I missed my first train but I’ve never been more willing to do so or more glad that I did. We sat in the car for a long while, whilst he showed me some photos and we chatted about going out together sometime. I left the car smiling, and I stayed smiling for the rest of my four-hour journey…and for a long while longer after that.
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Stephanie, what a moving and a wonderful article about your meeting with your daughter.
if I ma, it brought a tear to the eye in happiness for you… having support of family for our CD revelation which I personally long for. You are an inspiration for me. However,
i don’t know how my 40 year old daughter would understand that she has always been
”daddy’s” little girl… I guess its time that her daddy has an alter ego..
thank you for sharing your “best coffee ever”
warmest regards, Leonara
Dear Leonara Your comments and compliments are so sweet and I thank for them, and I also thank you for reading my article. So many lady’s here have also said how inspiration they found my (and Eleanor’s) article and I have only to blame that on Eleanor that, she really has been my inspiration, her love, encouragement and support have empowered me to go out in public for the first time (3 times now), it was the catalyst in Stephanie meeting her wife and children in person for the first time and it has given me the strength and self… Read more »
Truly a heart warming story Stephanie! Thank you for sharing it with us. You have obviously done a great job raising Eleanor to be a kind and accepting young lady, you are both blessed.
That’s ever so kind of you Melanie Thank You
love Stephanie ❤️
such a great story. Good for your daughter to be so accepting !
Hi Leah
Thank you so much for taking the time to read my articles and also for leaving a comment.
have a lovely day.
love Stephanie ❤️
Hi Stephanie, what a fabulous, heartwarming event in your life. She is a wonderful daughter, very understanding and supportive. The same must be said for your Wife and Son now they are all aware of of the lovely lady within you. Thank You for sharing, your feminine life is definitely opening up, enjoy every second. Lots of Love, xxx
Hi Angela
Thank you so much for reading my article and for your lovely comments. I really am very lucky to have such a wonderful and supportive family around me.
Take Care
Love Stephanie xx
What a beautiful article Stephanie!! Brought a tear to my eye as well. I can surely understand all of your thoughts and emotions and concerns before talking to your daughter regarding Stephanie. I had the same feelings mustering up the courage to tell my wife about Danica 20 yrs. after we were married. That was 17yrs. ago. Thanks again for sharing this with us!!❤️
Hi Danica
Thank you so much for your wonderful comments. One thing a lot of us lady’s struggle with in the first place is trying to understand ourselves but when we eventually realise it’s just who we are we are then faced with the very scary situation of telling our loved ones! I know I’ve been very fortunate with how my wife and children have coped with this and how they are also supporting me.
My heart goes out to all those lady’s that for whatever reason are unable to come out into the wide world.
love Stephanie ❤️
Couldn’t agree more Stephanie!❤️
What a beautiful story of love and understanding. Eleanor sounds like a beautiful young woman in her own way. I’m very happy for you Stephanie.
And yes, I did weep with happiness a little as I got to the end. What red-blooded girl wouldn’t?
Much love,
Raquel
Hi Requel
Thank you so much for reading my article and again for leaving your lovely comments.
Eleanor is a very special woman indeed and I can’t thank her enough for her kindness, love and support that she has shown Stephanie.
In all four of my articles I write truly from my heart to try to convey all the love and emotions that I felt on the particular occasion.
Thank you agin for reading my article.
Take Care
love Stephanie ❤️
Wow Stephanie! That seriously brought a tear to my eye. How wonderful to be accepted in that way by your daughter and have the opportunity to connect with her on a whole new level. Do you have your Leeds trip planned yet? I’t been quite a month for you. I’m so happy for you. xxx Mika
Hi Mika Thank you so much for your lovely comments on my (and Ellie’s) article. Eleanor is such a special person and I’m ever so lucky that she has not just accepted Stephany but is also willing to embrace and support her in any way she can. We haven’t set a date yet for our shopping day together as things for both of us are a bit hectic right now! In fact, my wife and I have just this evening returned from an overnight stay in Leeds where we attended Ellie’s graduation (postponed from last year). Thank you also for… Read more »
I’m so happy for you, Stephanie. Eleanor sounds like an amazing young woman and I’m glad she is able to see the complete you. You are very lucky! You’ll definitely have to take her up on a day of shopping and a lovely dinner out.
Hi Marie
Thank you so much for both reading my article and taking the time to leave your lovely comments. We are so proud of Eleanor, she is a wonderful young lady. We were actually up with her in Leeds (UK) last week for her Graduation, whilst with her we discussed me coming up for our shopping trip (shes 200 miles from us) and it’s looking good for early July.
Take Care
Stephanie ❤️
what a wonderful family to understand your cross dressing, except your cross dressing. bet you had a wonderful time and great to have it open. getting a makeover is a nice thing to have. wish my wife would be more excepting and understanding with my cross dressing. she knows but will not help with make up or let me sit in same room as her when no other child adult one is not home and that’s when my wife tells me i can dress up. i do dress up but under dress a lot. thanks for sharing your story about… Read more »
Hi Lucinda Many thanks for reading my article. I do consider myself very lucky that my wife and children not only accept Stephanie but are also happy to see her in person, I won’t lie it hasn’t all been easy! My wife struggled at first with my crossdressing mainly because of the secrecy but over time we have talked about Stephanie more openly which has led me to being more open about this side of me and starting to come out to some friends and family. It saddens me to hear your own situation and that your dressing is dictated… Read more »
hello Stephanie. i will take my time with wife to get to know Lucinda better. but slowly is the word. she does tell me when i can dress up, she has seen me getting dressed up but no way to sit in same room as her and watch T.V. together and talk about my cross dressing. i know what you mean it was hard to come out to family members and wife dealing with it , it took time for your wife to under stand the cross dressing world. some wife’s are more under standing to this world of cross… Read more »
I’m so happy ❤️ For you @Stephanie Aston!
You are so sweet Jerri thank you